Happiness Is Synthetic
What I’ve learned over the last year:
Being happy is just like being fit!
- You have to work hard for it. - You must not stop if you wanna keep it. - It is on you to make it happen. From forbes.com:
“... —you either create it, or you don’t. Happiness that lasts is earned through your habits. Supremely happy people have honed habits that maintain their happiness day in, day out.”
(Some examples of habits: https://www.forbes.com/sites/travisbradberry/2017/02/14/ten-habits-of-incredibly-happy-people/#1b1c1a4d11ba)
Therefore:
Happiness is probably NOT driving the right car, earning more or achieving your next goal - although it can be all of that. Happiness is within you and highly depends on your perspective on the world.
But what that also means is:
- You have to actively decide to become happy - and for example, apply various habits (Step A)
- And you have to chose to BE happy. (Step B)
A bit like these guys:
But don’t get me wrong: I am not telling you to become a hedonist and only look for short-term satisfaction. Nor do recommend to make YOLO your new motto... I know that life can be tough and unfair.
All I say is that it is on you and not any god given circumstances. It is on you to live a happy life.
Be aware that you need to create the happiness inside of you before you can experience it.
Or as someone once sang: