I keep seeing some people talking about how those who are saying it’s okay that Killian killed Charming’s father because he’s a different person now are falling into the same mistake/free-pass mentality that we accuse Regina fans of having – past misdeeds don’t matter because they aren’t those people anymore.
I’m sorry but I just don’t get that, because to me there are two very different things at play here. My problem with Regina was never the awful things she’s done as the EQ. I honestly don’t care if she slaughtered entire villages, killed Snow’s parents or murdered baby seals. She was a villain and her actions were villainous. That was the point. Just as I don’t care if Killian hit Belle, killed his own father, Charming’s father and lots of other people. He was a villain and his actions were villainous. That was the point, too.
What I do care about is how they react to those villainous actions now. What I do care about is how sorry they are and how guilty they feel for all those awful things they’ve done in the past. What I do care about is how they make amends with those they have hurt in the past. And, in that regard, Killian not only has done all of the things above, but he has also held himself accountable for all the horrific things he has done. Regina, yeah, not so much. Her redemption arc just doesn’t work for me at all (for reasons the fandom has already thoroughly analyzed so I’m not going to get into that now). But that, her lack of real change in the present, is my issue with Regina.
“The past doesn’t matter because they’re different people now”. This is not a free pass. This only applies if and only if the character has shown he/she has earned forgiveness through his/her present change of attitude/behavior (aka if the redemption arc is well done and believable). But if their present attitude/behavior still isn’t that good/redeeming, the past deeds aren’t that easily forgiven because you are not sure that they have evolved from that/learnt their lesson and, therefore, earned forgiveness. And that is the difference to me: whereas Killian fulfills the requirements, Regina doesn’t.