a heap of ideas and a heap of woes

A core feature of anti-fatness is the "you did this to yourself"-view. People are very invested in the idea that size is within everyone's control. It's soothing to believe that all fat people are a small series of good choices away from becoming thin and staying that way, and that thin people are success stories by virtue of existing.

Any time we speak up about discrimination and fatphobia, someone inevitably plays that card. Trolls will say "eat a salad, pig" and well-meaning health nuts will gently explain what calories are. In either case, we're met with a "you know, you can stop this at any time." Why, if nobody was fat, thin people wouldn't need to examine their biases! It sure would be an easier time for everyone if we weren't so Around and Bulliable!

op turned off reblogs due to getting harassed over this post but i agree with this too hard .m y post now

interesting how transmascs & transfems alike think losing weight is the answer to pass as our chosen gender.... almost as if fat people are never Truly afforded a passing gender regardless of trans status. as fat people we are never Truly seen as Men or Women. anyway fuck that notion & if u think u need to lose weight to pass that's the devil talking

i'd also like to point out that this is a problem with people seeking to present androgynously. even androgyny must be skinny in the eyes of the world. in order to even be a person outside of gender, you mustn't be fat

i want fat nb folks to know that you aren't any less of a person or any less androgynous for being fat

To be fat, in white societies, is to be inherently de-gendered - fat women aren't 'worthy women' because they're not considered fuckable, fat men aren't 'worthy men' because they're considered unathletic/lacking in self-control, fat enbies are just 'seeking attention' because androgeny is supposed to be thin and they're just pretending because they failed at their assigned gender.

If you're fat, you're only considered passable if you make extra effort to perform your assigned gender. Fat women get a pass if they do the busty lipsticked pin-up girl thing, or they're motherly and once again unfuckable. Fat men get a pass if they're wealthy in a good suit, if they're a beer-drinking funny guy, or a muscle-chubby type. Fat enbies barely get a pass anywhere, and even then it's if we do the quirky-cute creative thing, but we can't be too quirky because then we're freaky and freaky is barely a step away from perverted or disgusting.

Fat people are, as far as thin people see us, our fatness before we're anything else. And we shouldn't let their obsession with our fatness get in the way of living our lives, or expressing our gender.

And fatness comes along with a lot of intersex bodies, so we not only are degendered due to whatever specific intersex traits we have, but we often are even fat the "wrong" way for other fat people to gender us right! Because our fat will be stored in ways that their fat doesn't for their sex!

Its not just "white societies" btw fatphobia and being seen as degendered unless hyper performing exists in other cultures. Like Korea and Japan. And i know in Japan there's still a lot of "lmao fatty is obsessed with food" type conditional respectability. Can't just have a fat idol group they have to be food themed type shit.

-mod squirrel

Some actual good advice from cosmo that I thought I should put out there

“Your body is not a problem that needs to be solved through strategic dressing”

YOUR BODY IS NOT A PROBLEM THAT NEEDS TO BE SOLVED THROUGH STRATEGIC DRESSING

When you have a fat body, there isn’t any clothing that will camouflage your size.

There’s only uncomfortable clothing sold by brands that solely cater to thin people, leaving fat people with the scraps.

There’s only shapewear that will never make you a thin person but certainly is a pain to put on and not fun to wear.

There’s only the few beautiful clothes you can find in your size but decide to leave on the rack, in your online shopping cart, on the sales table, all because you don’t believe your body is worthy of wearing that beautiful bodycon dress you love.

You pass by the fishnets, the sleeveless tops, the vibrant colors, the stripes, the bikinis, the form-fitting outfits, the alt fashion. But if you’re going to have the same body whether you dress as a modest librarian or wear a miniskirt and a crop top, then you may as well wear the clothing you actually want to wear.

You don’t deserve to be forced to repent for the “crime” of having a fat body by wearing shapeless clothes in a desperate attempt to hide the fact that you exist.

The world is better every day because you are in it, and the world will be made even better than that when you take off the baggy, black jacket you’re wearing in the summer heat of July.

Oh absolutely

This is by Canadian artist Deirdre Sokolowska. You can buy a sticker of this piggy here on Etsy.

I see this reposted without credit all the time. Don't fucking do that! Respect artists whose work you love enough to share by sharing THEIR posts or at the very least crediting them and adding links to their socials.

Desserts: *existing*

Fatphobic people: OMGGG THAT’S DIABETES. DIABETES IN A CUP. DIABETES IN A BOWL. SUGAR. TOO MUCH SUGAR. SUGAR IS BAD. OMGGG I WOULD NEVER EAT THAT MUCH SUGAR. I WOULD NEVER EAT SUGAR. I-

this is how i feel when ppl say genshin has diverse body types sorry

*bzzt* what is “being fat”?

this post reminded me of this ~scenario~ that happens to me and other fat folks quite often! thin folks that are our friends, support fat folks, but haven’t quite had the time or chance or willingness to unlearn fatphobic ideas in relation to themselves. we know you still think of fatness as inherently unhealthy and unattractive, work on it ♥

free blocklist in the notes btw

it drives me crazy when clothing brands use plus size models that have Little To Nothing up top so it’s 100% impossible to tell if a top or a dress will actually be accommodating to a ton of titty

This vexes and haunts me SO much that I took a minute to illustrate this phenomenon. I really wish that clothing companies would stop pranking me hjsdhgdjh

The reason for this is that the predominant amount of plus sized models are thin models in fat suits. a model on tiktok recently talked about it…

HELLO?

I found an article about that tiktoker here, very UhhhHHH interesting

As a big tiddy goth girl, this shit is infuriating.

official boob post

went and looked this up and found a corroborating account from business insider and refinery29, this apparently is actually a thing

@worth-beyond-a-number-scale

The captions are so powerful and her dancing so amazing. I hope more of us fat people will continue to fight back against fatphobes

those ISOLATIONS. DAMN

(moving one part of your body on its own, the way she does with her hips and chest. it's HARD to do them as well as she is)

Just the fact that so many people talk about "feeling fat" and "looking fat" despite not actually being fat, betrays that it's fucking not all about health. People fear even this perceived proximity to fatness. "I feel fat today" means "I feel ugly and therefore some kind of unworthy". "I look fat in that picture" means "I appear uglier than I consider myself to officially be". Neither of them means "I feel compelled to check my cholesterol" or whatever

Everyone wanted to be thicc but nobody wanted to be fat. Everyone wanted the dad bod but nobody wanted to be fat. Everyone wants fat mommy milkers but nobody wants mommy to be fat. Everyone wants to be a bear but not like, an actual fat bear. You get what i’m saying

Everyone wants the mistique of fatness or use the language of fatness to denote hotness without actually being fat or acknowledging that fat people or fatness can just be hot.

you absolutely can't call yourself progressive if you're fatphobic btw

fatphobia is deeply rooted in racism, ableism, and classism and if you can't even examine your beliefs far enough to get too "fat people are also humans who deserve respect" then you absolutely aren't progressive, you're a bigot trying to act trendy.

NO ONE should be expected to completely change their whole body in order to be treated with basic respect! especially when the expected methods of change (that do not work, esp long term) are starvation and/or surgery with insanely high complication and morality rates... if you have to ask people to starve, mutilate, or even kill themselves to consider respecting them and their rights, then you are an atrociously cruel person.

I don't get someone drawing a canonically fat character skinny for suggestive artwork or just artwork in general. Why even draw that character? just draw the 1000 skinny characters instead or learn how to draw fat people better with references? I get as angry as reactionary conservatives got when they gave the green m&m's sneakers when people draw fat characters skinny for their stupid fanart. You removed a major part of the character and what for? Your art just looks worse now and you look like a dick