interesting how transmascs & transfems alike think losing weight is the answer to pass as our chosen gender.... almost as if fat people are never Truly afforded a passing gender regardless of trans status. as fat people we are never Truly seen as Men or Women. anyway fuck that notion & if u think u need to lose weight to pass that's the devil talking

i'd also like to point out that this is a problem with people seeking to present androgynously. even androgyny must be skinny in the eyes of the world. in order to even be a person outside of gender, you mustn't be fat

i want fat nb folks to know that you aren't any less of a person or any less androgynous for being fat

This got me thinking about all the traits I was made to feel unfeminine for having when I identified as a cis woman, yet which I never see afab trans people celebrating in non-binary or transmasc spaces: body hair, patchy facial hair, monobrow, signs of aging, bad skin and nails, using mobility devices, protruding stomach, big nose, thin lips, etc. And yeah, the fat-hate is ridiculous.

And for other people: Dark skin and other POC-associated traits are seen as unfeminine yet somehow the Masculine and Androgynous Ideals are pale and white. I'm less familiar with amab trans people's experiences but I'm sure there's a LOT of equivalent examples, and I've certainly noticed how what would would be seen as a medium or even slight build for a cis man is seen as Still Too Large And Thus Fat for trans women.

After starting to identify as non-binary I wondered if no longer removing my natural patchy facial hair would be an enjoyably androgynous middle ground between feminine-coded-smooth and male-coded-beard, but NOPE, I just felt like people would see an ugly middle aged woman too lazy to take care of her appearance. Somehow it felt less androgynous or masculine AND less feminine.

Here's some positivity towards people with medical devices that others view as "gross", or "shouldn't be seen in public". It's bullshit the way this gets treated and I want more positivity about it, so I'm making it myself.

People with catheters. People with stoma bags. People with feeding tubes. People who have tubing or medical alterations they can't hide. People who otherwise have medical devices which are deemed "not socially acceptable" and "gross".

Your medical devices deserve to take up space. We should not be made to feel ashamed for devices which keep us alive. We should not be made to feel insecure for the ways our bodies function and the assistance we need to live. You deserve to be yourself, you deserve to exist in public as a disabled person, and you deserve to be accepted and celebrated as yourself, medical devices included.

Reblog this if you think hairy women are beautiful.

I don’t mean blonde white women who don’t shave their armpits and legs and call themselves “hairy”. I mean girls and women who grow hair all over their bodies. 

Women who have hairy backs, hairy arms, hairy bellies, hairy necks, hairy chins, hairy knuckles, hairy feet, hairy butts, hairy boobs, thick eyebrows, unibrows, sideburns, hairy cheeks, mustaches.

Women who struggle with their bodies on a daily basis and hate the way they look because of something they can’t control.

Women who spend hours shaving, waxing, bleaching or just end up wearing jeans and pullovers in summer because they’re ashamed of themselves.

Trans women. Women of colour. Women with eating disorders. Women with hormonal disorders. Light skinned women with dark, thick hair. Disabled women who can’t reach hairy places. Girls who aren’t allowed to remove their hair. Girls who choose not to remove any of their hair and get bullied.

Young girls need to know that it’s natural. Girls of colour need to know that just because their white blonde friends have no visible body hair, it doesn’t make them “unnatural” or “gross” just because theirs is dark.

Hairy women are beautiful and young girls need to grow up hearing this.

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We need to stop promoting the idea that fat people are only beautiful if they dress hyper-feminine.

Yes, fat babes wearing 50s-style dresses and red lipstick are gorgeous, but so are fat babes who like to wear baggy tshirts and no makeup.

Only talking about the beauty of fat people who spend a great deal of time styling themselves promotes the idea that somehow fat people are not as beautiful as everyone else and need to try harder.

shout out to all the women who don’t have beautiful skin on their bodies, who have body acne or keratosis pilaris or eczema or psoriasis or lots of pimples on ur butt or lots of ingrown hairs on ur legs or scaly elbows or whatever. You are not alone 

It feels like that a lot b/c you almost never see people with severe skin issues post pics of themselves naked and lots of those pics are airbrushed but you know what you are still a motherfucking perfect badass

It hasn't updated much recently and I'm sure I've recced it before, but Our Skin is pretty amazing for this.

Reblog if you dont shave your legs everyday.

I just want everyone to see how unrealistic some expectations are.

Dyed armpit hair is the latest body positive trend no one saw coming

oh my god this is beautiful

[Happy looking women holding up their arms to reveal brightly coloured underarm hair]

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Yes. I've seen a few things recently saying "skinny shaming isn't a thing and is totally ok" which, no. Understandable, sometimes, and not something skinny people should get too self righteous about, but not entirely unproblematic. Mocking or judging anyone for aspects of their apearance they can't control is always bad. But mocking someone for being fat is a whole other level of damaging, and should not be equated with mocking someone for being skinny. 

With Nicki Minaj's song specifically there's racial stuff going on which makes things more complicated. Also the previous line takes the sting out of the word "bitch". So I'm more talking about the general point, and I wouldn't mention it at all if I hadn't seen a bunch of skinny shaming apologia.

"Girls with armpit hair are gross "

bitch have you seen guy armpit hair. Its huge. Its like an entire ecosystem. Theres lost civilizations trapped in there. Girl armpits just have soft fuzzy peach hair. Shut thr fuck up

one time i forgot guys had armpit hair and one of my friends was wearing a tank top and he raised his arms to stretch and i screamed because it was like bAM WELCOME TO THE JUNGLE

"soft fuzzy peach hair" u do kno some women have long or coarse pit hair right. can we make fun of boys without getting weird gender coding for everyone else.

Urg, yeah. Way to make hairy women feel bad about ourselves AND exclude non binary people. (and make hairy men feel bad too, though that doesn't bother me as much)

I hate how so much "support" for women not removing body hair assumes we're all not-especially-hairy cis women who cover up the relevant skin most of the time. If that was me, I wouldn't bother either!

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