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your “accidental” homophobia and transphobia as someone who oppressed both gay and trans people is DANGEROUS to us
I’m not gonna pretend it’s accidental, it’s the result of years of living in a homophobic society, and it’s something I have to work on, because I’m human and I fuck up.
But gay men making transphobic or misogynist jokes make the community unsafe for trans and wlw people, and vice versa. You are very eager to lump me with cishet people, because then you can justify the distinction. But like I said, I don’t even know if I’m cis. More than half the time, I consider myself agender. I just haven’t had the energy to find a label that seems to fit my gender identity.
Would it suddenly become unproblematic for me to make a homophobic joke if I’m agender? Of fucking course not. I still fucked up, and it was a joke I shouldn’t have made, and I need to do better.
And you keep treating it like attraction is the only way to measure sexuality. That because I’m not attracted to my own gender (what the fuck would that even be if I’m agender?), I can’t belong in those spaces (which seems kinda dismissive and bigoted towards NB people??), but my lack of attraction towards my perceived opposite gender is also a big deciding factor in what privilege I receive and don’t receive.