shoutout to the people who don’t think double texts seem clingy or uncool text me all day spam me i love that kinda shit

things i need to remind myself:

struggling is a normal part of progress, you’re okay 

‪January has been such a heavy and intense month. The eclipse passage was highly transformative but also incredibly draining. Rest, relax, celebrate your little victories and do something nice for yourself.‬

Some of yall really have no empathy and yall think its funny and cute to be mean and its really ugly and disgusting and i deadass hope someone beats your ass

Transformation

I owe my body so many apologies

and my mind as well

And my heart.

And my bank account

— Deandre Upshaw

I noticed the other day that girls usually adapt to their bfs hobbies like if they enjoy idk surfing the girls will start learning facts about it and buying cute things related to it for them and being so proud of their bf like they’re a star even if they aren’t that great at surfing just out of pure love and joy ….. But men never fucking adapt to their gf’s interests like they can’t possibly care less about makeup for example or they’ll just complain about them taking too long to get ready instead of sharing the passion for it and watching them create something beautiful and being interested in why is it that it makes her feel better to do her makeup. Men are so used to not trying at all fuck that tbh!!!!

yall are just dating the wrong fucking people lmao

Seriously, you ARE dating the wrong people. I work in a makeup store and the sheer amount of guys that are fully engaged in what their girlfriends/wives are doing with makeup surprised me. Yes there’s a lot of guys who scoff and roll their eyes about being in the PRESENCE of makeup, but there’s sooooo many that are consistently engaged, looking at colours wanting to help (even when they’re visibly confused and you can see they want to help but don’t know how). My boyfriend even knows more than I thought just from listening to me talk.

Find better quality guys that take interest in your interests and stop settling for assholes.

the person you’re dating should be your best friend. Not as in, date your best friend, but as in if your partner doesn’t engage with you at the same level as a best friend (or even just a friend), there is something wrong. It’s not long term material. Couples that act like men and women are ‘opposite’ sides in the relationship game are such a weird concept for me. ‘Oh, we’re married, my wife is basically an obstacle to me getting a nice night out with my friends haha’ or ‘oh my boyfriend doesn’t do any of the housework ahahaha boys am I right?“ like, ?????? you,re not supposed to be on opposite sides, both pulling to get what you want. You’re supposed to be a TEAM. that’s, like, the whole point of a relationship. Like, not only does my boyfriend know and care about my interests, even the ones I rant about that know bore him a little (and vice versa - I now know a lot about Eve Online and he knows more than he has probably ever wanted to know about star wars fanfiction), he also knows about my day to day stuff. Like, I’ll ask him to do the laundry and he’ll answer “okay but where’s the little net bag you put your bras in so they don’t get stretched in the washer?” because he fucking LISTENED when I bought it and told him what it was for. like I said. You’re a team, conquering adult life together. That goes for everything, from getting excited and calling him over when I spot a simulator game on sale at the store (even though wtf simulator games I will never get the point of them) to figuring out the most efficient way to keep the living room clean. *high fives my boyfriend, cartwheels out of the house*

It’s sad because I’ve seen what OP is talking about with my mom, my sister, and my friends. I don’t think people need to love all of one another’s hobbies, but they should make and effort to take an interest. I know that. It all guys are like this, kudos to those of you who really participate in your relationships.

Ominous positivity

You will be okay. You have no choice.

Everything will turn out fine. You cannot stop it.

You will succeed. It is inevitable.

@whateverthepoodle

if high waisted jeans go out of fashion one day my life is doomed

nothing’s out of fashion if you don’t give a shit

Teach me how to gracefully let go of things not meant for me.

Obsessively trying to eat strictly healthy food and micromanaging all your meals is NOT healthy. Being absolutely terrified of certain foods because they are not 100% “clean” is NOT healthy. Feeling bad for enjoying food, regardless of its nutritional value, is NOT HEALTHY.

The only person you need validation from is yourself. Let go of the need for approval. 

may 2019 bring you your “i’m doing better than i ever was” moment

hearing genuine laughter from the people you love is the most healing sound