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40 percent of women in the fast-food industry have experienced sexual harassment, but way too often their #metoo stories are left out of the conversation.
Workers in the U.S. are not eligible for SNAP if they are on strike. Every one of these workers is taking a HUGE risk to stand up to McDonald’s.
Brendan Fraser, a likable actor started to disappear. And if you wondered why… here’s the answer.
:((((
““[I want] better education regarding sex for both boys and girls [and] information about pornography, and the way it influences harmful sexual practices.”These are the words of Lucy, aged 15, one of 600 young Australian women and girls who took part in a just-released survey commissioned by Plan Australia and Our Watch. The survey, conducted by Ipsos, gathered responses from the girls and young women aged 15-19 in all states and territories.In the survey report, entitled Don’t send me that pic, participants reported that online sexual abuse and harassment were becoming a normal part of their everyday interactions. And while the behavior seemed so common, more than 80% said it was unacceptable for boyfriends to request naked images.”
“Some see sex only in terms of performance, where what counts most is the boy enjoying it. I asked a 15-year-old about her first sexual experience. She replied: “I think my body looked OK. He seemed to enjoy it.” Many girls seem cut off from their own sense of pleasure or intimacy. The main marker of a “good” sexual encounter is only if he enjoyed it. Girls and young women are under a lot of pressure to give boys and men what they want, to become a real life embodiment of what the boys have watched in porn, adopting exaggerated roles and behaviors and providing their bodies as mere sex aids. Growing up in today’s porn culture, girls quickly learn that they are service stations for male gratification and pleasure.When asked, “How do you know a guy likes you?,” an 8th grade girl replied: “He still wants to talk to you after you [give him oral sex].” A male high school student said to a girl: “If you [give me oral sex] I’ll give you a kiss.” Girls are expected to provide sex acts for tokens of affection, and are coached through it by porn-taught boys. A 15-year-old girl said she didn’t enjoy sex at all, but that getting it out of the way quickly was the only way her boyfriend would stop pressuring her and watch a movie. 7th grade girls are increasingly seeking help on what to do about requests for naked images. Receiving texts like “send me a picture of your tits” is an almost daily occurrence for many young girls. The girl asks: “How do I say no without hurting his feelings?””
WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK? You know what is sad? I am not surprised. We are raised to think of the guy’s feelings before thinking of our own boundaries and personhood. UGH UGH.
I really don’t think people realize what a problem this is. I know for instance, my mom doesn’t understand what it’s like dealing with porn sick men. How much sex has changed due to it.
#even if ur one of those ‘sex work is empowering work and a free choice’ ppl how can u support porn when it does this? #like even if u genuinely believe that everyone in porn is super happy and loves it how could u support this? #young girls are being abused & raped directly as a result of porn & porn culture & being socialized to accept it (via danglelikedatsyuk)
In the South, this 24/7 porn culture empowers the fundies and the churches, mainly. They get to be seen as *stalwart moral bastion* against *sexually-berserk mainstream culture/pornland*… although of course the fundie males are watching as much porn as anyone, the girls don’t know this at first. The really successful (and fashionably diverse) mega-churches are making female converts using their “wholesome family environment” as bait. It used to mean, country music and no cussing (lol) .. now it is code for: no porn and no alcohol and everyone knows that.
I see sensible young girls and women hanging around the churches and it’s obvious its because they think they are safe there. (and I wish we had other places for the girls to hang out, where there are gyms and audiovisual rooms and the kinds of things big institutions like churches can offer.)
Like Andrea Dworkin said, the right wing/religious conservatives offer women a protection racket: Go along with us, we will protect you. Young women are particularly sexually vulnerable and that’s exactly when the fundies swoop in like vultures and start offering free bus rides to church.
I don’t think it’s porn I think it’s self fucking control we teach men they are entitled to shit that we must have what we want and we deserve it. This type of teaching leave no space for self control. Like it be okay if men watched porn a recognized that no human is a sex machine or there for your pleasure. We have to teach men to fucking control themselves
Additionally, as an actual sex worker, and someone who works in porn, the industry is a wide and diverse world of positive representation and caustic stereotypes. There are so many sites with little regulation and that is where the problem lies.
We grew up in an age of immediate accessability and were given little guidance because our parents very rarely took the time to understand the internet and then did not convey the risk factors of porn to us beyond shame. Why are children accessing porn in the first place? Every porn site has an age restriction and theoretically those sites should be blocked.
If we are gonna really get into it, the bigger issue is the lack of true sex education that is offered with immediate gratification of Google. Sexuality needs to lose its immediate naughtiness because sexuality is a very natural part of growing up. But the education must not be treated as dirty and shameful. It makes people hide, repress, and to gain misinformation.
Rather than demonize sex workers demonize the people allowing their children to access porn and the studios who are perpetuating tropes of sexual brutalization and normalizing unsafe practices. Nice try though, just say you hate sex workers and leave it at that.
Tbh I feel like it's a problem of regulation and what we teach kids about sex early on. We often don't address the issue at all, so of course porn is going to be their main teacher. We don't teach everyone what true consent means, we don't teach everyone what to do if someone pressures them or sexually harasses them, and what it means when you're the perpetrator. We don't teach everyone that 50 Shades of Gray is not about love or even what BDSM is supposed to be, but abuse and unacceptable violent behavior devoid of love. We don't teach everyone that people - especially girls - are 3-dimensional human beings who have every right and inclination to deny you what you want, and you HAVE to respect that.
THIS was my response to something ALL WOMEN deal with constantly in their lives - random men messaging them with some comment regarding their looks/appearance/identity as an object.
Do all men do this? No. BUT There is enough, that ALL women have to put up with it. And until ALL men shame this kind of behavior, there will never be equality.
I posted this image on my facebook and I had a female friend reply with this: “Change your privacy settings. Disable messaging to friends only. Sexism roams beyond unwanted attention, rapists aren’t getting convicted nowadays.“
NO. This comment tries to imply that it is MY responsibility as a woman to not get harassed. Thus removing the responsibility of the person who treated me like an object.
It is not the responsibility of women to not get raped, harassed, unwanted attention, or unwanted touching.
NO ONE would dream of saying to a man “Well you shouldn’t have gotten punched”, or “you shouldn’t have gotten shot, why weren’t you wearing a bulletproof vest if you knew there was a slight chance someone might have a gun?”
Found this in a stall in the girls restroom at my school. Hell yes
i love the gender neutrality js
HELL FUCKING YES
HELL FUCKING YES
HELL. FUCKING. YES.
YOU GO MOMMA
FUCKING CLAP BACK
THATS HOW ITS DONE PEOPLE
