( https://nij.gov/multimedia/presenter/presenter-campbell/pages/presenter-campbell-transcript.aspx )

- Mariska Hargitay.

Detective Olivia Benson rolling out the facts.

college is starting and rape culture is still extremely prominent and men can be fuckin gross so I’m here to let y’all know Amazon is selling pepper spray for only $8.

over 50% of college sexual assaults happen within the first month of college.

to my fellow freshman girlies out there, go parties in groups, don’t walk alone late at night, and if you sense some shady shit going on don’t hesitate to interfere. trust your gut. people are getting sicker by the minute and nothing seems to be changing anytime soon.

PS: CHECK YOUR LOCAL LAWS REGARDING WEAPON PURCHASING

I’m not lying fuck men omfg

If you don't wanna support Amazon, lots of stores like hardware chain stores and similar also will have pepper spray. I even got a spring assisted knife (within the legal length and width limits) in the utility knife, camping, and hunting section.

@sponfawn why bring this up tho if you’re not blaming the victims? theres quite literally no reason to point this out. Bowie fucked minors and he never said anything against the allegations. a young girl wearing makeup to look older still looks like a young girl. also, those “cultural elements” are still in place. pedophiles in power have been encouraging this kind of thing forever.

like, I honestly don’t understand why youd reply to a post talking about Bowie being a pedophile with “well the culture encouraged it at the time!!!!” if ur not trying to excuse him or blame the victims for “approaching sexual predators”

he was a rock star they looked up to and he used that power to take advantage of them. they didn’t know he was a sexual predator and they were KIDS approaching a man they admired. they did nothing wrong, even if they overtly flirted/stated they wanted to have sex it is still NOT THEIR FAULT because they were children and Bowie was a fully grown adult and he should have fucking known better

I was not victim blaming. I literally said culture made it more unsafe for girls and encouraged kids to approach sexual predators, which is in no way the fault of kids who can't consent. It is on adults' shoulders to not fucking molest children. I literally said Bowie is shit trash. And a pedophile. The point of talking about the culture is to see a more complete picture put in cultural and historical context, which I think makes it more fucked up, cuz people like him were (and are) so enabled to abuse and prey upon literal children. I think context is really important. It helps us draw parallels to our current society, and see how those similarities can be incredibly damaging and toxic. I can see upon rereading it was poorly worded, and I apologize for that. People usually say I ramble too much so I've been working with my therapist in trying to cut down my word count, and clearly I fucked up with this one. But my intention was to point out that Bowie was only one of way too many predators who no doubt took advantage of these girls who didn't know better and couldn't consent. Bowie was a terrible symptom of a greater disease that we still haven't gotten rid of

^^^ my grandparents and their entire families werent incarcerated for years without any charges or due process as kids, forced to abandon the almost-ready harvest that was their only income, the private property that they couldn't carry or sell for 1/10 of the cost, their livestock, friends, neighbors, and everything they had built for themselves, just to be forgotten by some white people who want to justify keeping their assault rifles.

Also, disabled people of all races (including white) were forcibly detained, experimented on without consent, abused, and sexually assaulted for decades. So.

““[I want] better education regarding sex for both boys and girls [and] information about pornography, and the way it influences harmful sexual practices.”These are the words of Lucy, aged 15, one of 600 young Australian women and girls who took part in a just-released survey commissioned by Plan Australia and Our Watch. The survey, conducted by Ipsos, gathered responses from the girls and young women aged 15-19 in all states and territories.In the survey report, entitled Don’t send me that pic, participants reported that online sexual abuse and harassment were becoming a normal part of their everyday interactions. And while the behavior seemed so common, more than 80% said it was unacceptable for boyfriends to request naked images.”

“Some see sex only in terms of performance, where what counts most is the boy enjoying it. I asked a 15-year-old about her first sexual experience. She replied: “I think my body looked OK. He seemed to enjoy it.” Many girls seem cut off from their own sense of pleasure or intimacy. The main marker of a “good” sexual encounter is only if he enjoyed it. Girls and young women are under a lot of pressure to give boys and men what they want, to become a real life embodiment of what the boys have watched in porn, adopting exaggerated roles and behaviors and providing their bodies as mere sex aids. Growing up in today’s porn culture, girls quickly learn that they are service stations for male gratification and pleasure.When asked, “How do you know a guy likes you?,” an 8th grade girl replied: “He still wants to talk to you after you [give him oral sex].” A male high school student said to a girl: “If you [give me oral sex] I’ll give you a kiss.” Girls are expected to provide sex acts for tokens of affection, and are coached through it by porn-taught boys. A 15-year-old girl said she didn’t enjoy sex at all, but that getting it out of the way quickly was the only way her boyfriend would stop pressuring her and watch a movie. 7th grade girls are increasingly seeking help on what to do about requests for naked images. Receiving texts like “send me a picture of your tits” is an almost daily occurrence for many young girls. The girl asks: “How do I say no without hurting his feelings?”” 

WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK? You know what is sad? I am not surprised. We are raised to think of the guy’s feelings before thinking of our own boundaries and personhood. UGH UGH.

I really don’t think people realize what a problem this is. I know for instance, my mom doesn’t understand what it’s like dealing with porn sick men. How much sex has changed due to it.

#even if ur one of those ‘sex work is empowering work and a free choice’ ppl how can u support porn when it does this? #like even if u genuinely believe that everyone in porn is super happy and loves it how could u support this? #young girls are being abused & raped directly as a result of porn & porn culture & being socialized to accept it (via danglelikedatsyuk)

In the South, this 24/7 porn culture empowers the fundies and the churches,  mainly.  They get to be seen as *stalwart moral bastion* against *sexually-berserk mainstream culture/pornland*… although of course the fundie males are watching as much porn as anyone, the girls don’t know this at first. The really successful (and fashionably diverse) mega-churches are making female converts using their “wholesome family environment” as bait. It used to mean, country music and no cussing (lol) .. now it is code for: no porn and no alcohol and everyone knows that.  

I see sensible young girls and women hanging around the churches and it’s obvious its because they think they are safe there.   (and I wish we had other places for the girls to hang out, where there are gyms and audiovisual rooms and the kinds of things big institutions like churches can offer.)

Like Andrea Dworkin said, the right wing/religious conservatives offer women a protection racket:  Go along with us, we will protect you.  Young women are particularly sexually vulnerable and that’s exactly when the fundies swoop in like vultures and start offering free bus rides to church.  

I don’t think it’s porn I think it’s self fucking control we teach men they are entitled to shit that we must have what we want and we deserve it. This type of teaching leave no space for self control. Like it be okay if men watched porn a recognized that no human is a sex machine or there for your pleasure. We have to teach men to fucking control themselves

^^

Additionally, as an actual sex worker, and someone who works in porn, the industry is a wide and diverse world of positive representation and caustic stereotypes. There are so many sites with little regulation and that is where the problem lies.

We grew up in an age of immediate accessability and were given little guidance because our parents very rarely took the time to understand the internet and then did not convey the risk factors of porn to us beyond shame. Why are children accessing porn in the first place? Every porn site has an age restriction and theoretically those sites should be blocked.

If we are gonna really get into it, the bigger issue is the lack of true sex education that is offered with immediate gratification of Google. Sexuality needs to lose its immediate naughtiness because sexuality is a very natural part of growing up. But the education must not be treated as dirty and shameful. It makes people hide, repress, and to gain misinformation.

Rather than demonize sex workers demonize the people allowing their children to access porn and the studios who are perpetuating tropes of sexual brutalization and normalizing unsafe practices. Nice try though, just say you hate sex workers and leave it at that.

Tbh I feel like it's a problem of regulation and what we teach kids about sex early on. We often don't address the issue at all, so of course porn is going to be their main teacher. We don't teach everyone what true consent means, we don't teach everyone what to do if someone pressures them or sexually harasses them, and what it means when you're the perpetrator. We don't teach everyone that 50 Shades of Gray is not about love or even what BDSM is supposed to be, but abuse and unacceptable violent behavior devoid of love. We don't teach everyone that people - especially girls - are 3-dimensional human beings who have every right and inclination to deny you what you want, and you HAVE to respect that.

THIS was my response to something ALL WOMEN deal with constantly in their lives - random men messaging them with some comment regarding their looks/appearance/identity as an object. 

Do all men do this? No. BUT There is enough, that ALL women have to put up with it.  And until ALL men shame this kind of behavior, there will never be equality. 

I posted this image on my facebook and I had a female friend reply with this: “Change your privacy settings. Disable messaging to friends only. Sexism roams beyond unwanted attention, rapists aren’t getting convicted nowadays.“

NO.  This comment tries to imply that it is MY responsibility as a woman to not get harassed.  Thus removing the responsibility of the person who treated me like an object. 

It is not the responsibility of women to not get raped, harassed, unwanted attention, or unwanted touching.

NO ONE would dream of saying to a man “Well you shouldn’t have gotten punched”, or “you shouldn’t have gotten shot, why weren’t you wearing a bulletproof vest if you knew there was a slight chance someone might have a gun?” 

Just an experiment. Reblog if you actually give a fuck about male victims of domestic violence and rape.

Of fucking course

What sick bastard doesn’t

“You’d be surprised”, said Xaldien, who just lost four followers and received a lovely “men can’t be raped” anon shortly after reblogging this the first time.

Yowch, disgusting.

I’m glad my followers are infinitely more classy than that.  Depraved and perverted, sure, but classy none the less.

No means no, regardless of who you are.

i’m concerned about boys with mental illnesses and eating disorders and abusive relationships and sexual assault survivor stories and self-harming tendencies who never get the attention or care or help they need because all of those things “don’t happen to men” or because “all men are horrible monsters” and i just wanna say if you’re a boy and you’re struggling with something hard, your gender doesn’t diminish or dismiss your struggles or make them any less significant or difficult and i love you and i’m here for you

This is rape culture.

This is white male privilege.

This is injustice.

The rapist and the judge are revolting, sociopathic spawns of the devil.

Rapist: Brock Allen Turner Judge: Aaron Persky

From NY Magazine, who cited The Guardian as the original source.

have you ever seen a face more deserving of having a brick thrown through it??

*white man passes by my car*

Me: *locks the doors*

*Black guy walks by my car* Me: *hopes he doesnt sexually assault me*

Sex offenders are overwhelmingly white males.  Nearly 99% of sex offenders in single-victim incidents were male and 6 in 10 were white (Greenfeld, 1997).    

Myth: Most sexual assaults involve a black man raping a white woman. Fact: Amir’s study (Page 5 under “Race” and the summary on page 11) found that in 93% of assaults, the rapist and victim were of the same race. In 3.3% of the cases, black men did rape white women, while in 3.4% white men raped black women. It is more comfortable for most white women and men to believe a potential attacker is a man of color.

Statistics confirm that 80-90% of perpetrators come from the same racial background as the survivor in all violent crimes.  The rate of sexual assault throughout all racial groups contains no significant difference.  However, the rate of sexual assault, regardless of race, is higher among lower income, urban residents.  If the perpetrator is of a different race than the assailant, he is more likely to be a white man sexually assaulting a woman of color rather than a man of color sexually assaulting a white woman.

Me: *locks the fucking door when a white man passes my car*

the fucking factual CLAPBACKS 💪💪💪

LMAOO

I love facts

But actually, I tend to find (especially groups) of older white men very intimidating and I automatically go hypervigilant.

Morehouse student Timothy Tukes accompanied by friend, Kim, engage in a silent protest with a message that speaks volumes ! #ithappenedtous #morehouse http://ift.tt/1YaMtmc

If you’re against sexual assault/violence, then you are are against it for ALL PEOPLE, not just women.

(tw incest/sexual assault)

a few days ago I was molested by a family member. I’ve raised enough money to move out & now need to get my engine fixed in order to move away. the person who molested me fucked up the engine and it’s $1500 total to fix. we’re getting a good chunk of that covered but I need help still.

there’s a donate button on my blog and [email protected] is my paypal email. thank you all so incredibly much.

[ csa tw, child abuse tw, rape tw, abuse tw, domestic abuse tw, cutting tw, suicide tw ]

It’s not just Chris Brown and Bill Cosby: white celebrities commit heinous crimes and abuse people just as much as anyone else (if not more), but where are the public call-outs? The damnations and blacklisting? Four of these people have won Oscars and another four have been nominated. Too often, abusers are welcomed back to Hollywood after allegations are publicized, and nobody seems to care. In the case of Roman Polanski, many celebrities even rallied to clear his name—including Martin Scorcese, Tilda Swinton, Wes Anderson, and over a hundred others. All of this makes abundantly clear that the art these people create is seen as more important than bringing them to justice, and the only time the public is actually willing to call anybody out is when that person isn’t white. And, even with cases like Bill Cosby and Chris Brown, the public and the media are always quick to protect the abuser and accuse the victim(s) of lying for attention—with Bill Cosby, almost forty women accused him of rape, but it took a confession from him for people to even entertain the idea that Cosby was an awful person. People cite “innocent until proven guilty” as their reason for not believing victims, instead of employing the societal mindset that would actually be helpful for victims of rape and domestic violence: always believe the victim first.

Please take some time to read this.

On 19/4, a water park in  Hanoi, Vietnam called ‘Ho Tay’ opened for free admission from 8AM-10AM (GMT+7). The chaos was terrifying, when the staff decided to close the gate due to overcrowded. Many people tried to climb over the fences to get in.

However, that was the least of the problem.

Inside, at the lazy river area, around 70 to 80 guys (even men who already had wives and kids) went together in groups. Whenever they saw girls, they started attack them by splashing water and WORST part was, they pushed her head down, DROWNING her and at the same time, RIPPED OFF HER BIKINI and started MOLESTED her. Some girls fainted and despite all the crying and screaming for help from friends, the group of animals won’t stop. They even PULL girls standing near the river down and started doing all those nasty things. AT LEAST, 20 girls were being sexually assaulted.

 There was a girl with her bikini torn apart and all the guys surrounding her, cat calling: Link 

Below is some photos of the incident.

The victims after they went home had anonymously leave confessions. Here are some of the confessions:

#1: We were holding onto the swim ring at the lazy river for about 3 minutes. Then we heard a commotion at the back, as we turned around we saw hundreds of boys crowded the whole river, screaming and going towards the three of us. I was shock and choked on water, many arms pushed my head down. I felt my breast and my private area being grab and pull and scratch very painful, my butt was groped too. My bikini top was pull up to my neck and the bottom was pull till my knee. Even though i was choking, but i felt clearly someone was fingering me, my legs was spread apart. My head was still pressed down, I was out of breath and I thought I was going to drown. The water go up my nose to my brain, my throat. Those arms scratch and pull me up, my head hit the coping. Then there was people grab my hair, my arm to pull out of the swimming pool. I was coughing really hard so I didn’t even realize I was completely naked…

#2: I was swimming in the lazy river with my friends. Behind us, all the boys kept splashing water like crazy, we were so freak out that all of us decided to go out of the river. As we just got out, one of my friend, who were still near the river, were pulled down and dragged to the centre of the river and was being splashed water and her head was pressed down. We saw our friend being surrounded by bunches of guys, we kept crying and called out: please help my friend, someone please help my friend. Around us, people kept on using phone to record and laugh like they were at the circus.

#3: My sister went with her friends. When they came back, they were crying their eyes out. Their necks, shoulders and thighs are full of scratches and bruises.

#4: It was too crowded so my boyfriend and I just played near the swimming pool coping. Suddenly I saw on my boyfriend head some milky fluid, when I touched, it was slippery and a bit thick. I dragged my boyfriend out of the pool immediately and asked him to wash his hair and we went home right after. Those animals masturbated in the swimming pool.

The facebook of the guy who started all these nasty thing had been tracked down. (This is the link)

And many other guys went home and updated their facebook status about their “achievements" at the water park like how many boobs they had grabbed or how many girls they’d molested on that day.

However, the Vice Managing Director of the water park said that “There was NO such thing as sexually assaulted at the water park, it’s just their bikini quality" regarding about the girls who had their bikini ripped. (Source / please note that it’s in Vietnamese) despite all the evidences and feedback.

Those guys are currently trying to take down photos of themselves and facebook statuses that they’ve updated (click here for the photo of some of them). But luckily, all of those have been screencapped. Most of their identities are revealed and all over the internet.

Even worse, when all the news are up, the comments make me sick to my stomach, many of them said that it’s THE GIRLS FAULT for wearing bikini.

LIKE HOW ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO DRESS TO GO TO WATER PARK? ARMOR? 

THOSE ANIMALS THOUGHT THEY’RE GOING TO GET AWAY WITH IT AND APPARENTLY AT THIS RATE, THEY WILL.

SO I AM HERE TRANSLATING THIS INCIDENT TO YOU GUYS HOPING THIS WILL SPREAD AS FAR AS POSSIBLE.

PLEASE SHARE AND POST WHEREVER YOU WANT. YOU DON’T HAVE TO CREDIT ME OR ANYTHING. JUST SHARE AND HOPEFULLY IT WILL REACH BIG NEWS SITES OR ORGANISATIONS.

PLEASE HELP THE VICTIMS GAIN JUSTICE. I HOPE THIS WILL GO BIG ENOUGH TO PUT PRESSURE ON THE VIETNAMESE GOVERNMENT TO PUNISH THOSE GUYS. 

UPDATE: A professional psychologist with a Master’s Degree of Education said: “It’s THE GIRLS’ FAULT for not knowing how to protect themselves.”

He said “First thing first about this issue, the one who should be BLAMED THE MOST ARE THE GIRLS, in the environment where people are naked 80% or more, the action (referring to molestation and rape) is inevitable.”

He also mentioned that it’s the environment that can cause someone to lose their control over excitement and that’s why the girls should know how to protect themselves, like if you want to protect your valuables, for example, motorbike, then you should locked it carefully etc. (source)

Another VICTIM BLAMING by a person who has high education. I’m so fucking done with all this shit.

How to Cure a Rape Survivor

You don’t.

You stop treating her like a problem to be solved,

stop searching for the equation

of how to make her feel better.

There is none.

You lose the term damaged goods and find the words

You are still beautiful no matter what.

You stop plucking the petals off daisies in a circle

of your closest friends like a seance

to figure out if she still loves him despite

what he did to her body.

You accept that this is none of your business.

You stop destroying flowers

and start helping her grow instead.

You don’t give up on her, because Jupiter has

over 63 moons, yet no one measures its worth

in numbers, only by the way it manages to exist

in a perfect vacuum.

You don’t measure her worth by the number of times

her skin was occupied without her permission.

She is still Europa, and Ganymede, and Callisto.

He is not the only one who still remains inside her.

She is full of birdsong and gunpowder and sparklers

and bridges and Sunday morning writing sessions

on a typewriter so old the keys crack like a spine.

There is a tree growing inside her stomach.

Even after the winter strips it of its leaves,

summer after summer,

it still bears fruit.

Found this in a stall in the girls restroom at my school. Hell yes

i love the gender neutrality js

HELL FUCKING YES

HELL FUCKING YES

HELL. FUCKING. YES.

YOU GO MOMMA

FUCKING CLAP BACK

THATS HOW ITS DONE PEOPLE