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Women have more power and agency in Shakespeare’s comedies than in his tragedies, and usually there are more of them with more speaking time, so I’m pretty sure what Shakespeare’s saying is “men ruin everything” because everyone fucking dies when men are in charge but when women are in charge you get married and live happily ever after

I think you’re reading too far into things, kiddo. Take a break from your women’s studies major and get some fresh air.

Right. Well, I’m a historian, so allow me to elaborate.

One of the most important aspects of the Puritan/Protestant revolution (in the 1590’s in particular) was the foregrounding of marriage as the most appropriate way of life. It often comes as a surprise when people learn this, but Puritans took an absolutely positive view of sexuality within the context of marriage. Clergy were encouraged to lead by example and marry and have children, as opposed to Catholic clergy who prized virginity above all else. Through his comedies, Shakespeare was promoting this new way of life which had never been promoted before. The dogma, thanks to the church, had always been “durr hburr women are evil sex is bad celibacy is your ticket to salvation.” All that changed in Shakespeare’s time, and thanks to him we get a view of the world where marriage, women, and sexuality are in fact the key to salvation. 

The difference between the structure of a comedy and a tragedy is that the former is cyclical, and the latter a downward curve. Comedies weren’t stupid fun about the lighter side of life. The definition of a comedy was not a funny play. They were plays that began in turmoil and ended in reconciliation and renewal. They showed the audience the path to salvation, with the comic ending of a happy marriage leaving the promise of societal regeneration intact. Meanwhile, in the tragedies, there is no such promise of regeneration or salvation. The characters destroy themselves. The world in which they live is not sustainable. It leads to a dead end, with no promise of new life.

And so, in comedies, the women are the movers and shakers. They get things done. They move the machinery of the plot along. In tragedies, though women have an important part to play, they are often morally bankrupt as compared to the women of comedies, or if they are morally sound, they are disenfranchised and ignored, and refused the chance to contribute to the society in which they live. Let’s look at some examples.

In Romeo and Juliet, the play ends in tragedy because no-one listens to Juliet. Her father and Paris both insist they know what’s right for her, and they refuse to listen to her pleas for clemency. Juliet begs them – screams, cries, manipulates, tells them outright I cannot marry, just wait a week before you make me marry Paris, just a week, please and they ignore her, and force her into increasingly desperate straits, until at last the two young lovers kill themselves. The message? This violent, hate-filled patriarchal world is unsustainable. The promise of regeneration is cut down with the deaths of these children. Compare to Othello. This is the most horrifying and intimate tragedy of all, with the climax taking place in a bedroom as a husband smothers his young wife. The tragedy here could easily have been averted if Othello had listened to Desdemona and Emilia instead of Iago. The message? This society, built on racism and misogyny and martial, masculine honour, is unsustainable, and cannot regenerate itself. The very horror of it lies in the murder of two wives. 

How about Hamlet? Ophelia is a disempowered character, but if Hamlet had listened to her, and not mistreated her, and if her father hadn’t controlled every aspect of her life, then perhaps she wouldn’t have committed suicide. The final scene of carnage is prompted by Laertes and Hamlet furiously grappling over her corpse. When Ophelia dies, any chance of reconciliation dies with her. The world collapses in on itself. This society is unsustainable. King Lear – we all know that this is prompted by Cordelia’s silence, her unwillingness to bend the knee and flatter in the face of tyranny. It is Lear’s disproportionate response to this that sets off the tragedy, and we get a play that is about entropy, aging and the destruction of the social order.  

There are exceptions to the rule. I’m sure a lot of you are crying out “but Lady Macbeth!” and it’s a good point. However, in terms of raw power, neither Lady Macbeth nor the witches are as powerful as they appear. The only power they possess is the ability to influence Macbeth; but ultimately it is Macbeth’s own ambition that prompts him to murder Duncan, and it is he who escalates the situation while Lady Macbeth suffers a breakdown. In this case you have women who are allowed to influence the play, but do so for the worse; they fail to be the good moral compasses needed. Goneril, Regan and Gertrude are similarly comparable; they possess a measure of power, but do not use it for good, and again society cannot renew itself.

Now we come to the comedies, where women do have the most control over the plot. The most powerful example is Rosalind in As You Like It. She pulls the strings in every avenue of the plot, and it is thanks to her control that reconciliation is achieved at the end, and all end up happily married. Much Ado About Nothing pivots around a woman’s anger over the abuse of her innocent cousin. If the men were left in charge in this play, no-one would be married at the end, and it would certainly end in tragedy. But Beatrice stands up and rails against men for their cruel conduct towards women and says that famous, spine-tingling line - oh God, that I were a man! I would eat his heart in the marketplace. And Benedick, her suitor, listens to her. He realises that his misogynistic view of the world is wrong and he takes steps to change it. He challenges his male friends for their conduct, parts company with the prince, and by doing this he wins his lady’s hand. The entire happy ending is dependent on the men realising that they must trust, love and respect women. Now it is a society that is worthy of being perpetuated. Regeneration and salvation lies in equality between the sexes and the love husbands and wives cherish for each other. The Merry Wives of Windsor - here we have men learning to trust and respect their wives, Flastaff learning his lesson for trying to seduce married women, and a daughter tricking everyone so she can marry the man she truly loves. A Midsummer Night’s Dream? The turmoil begins because three men are trying to force Hermia to marry someone she does not love, and Helena has been cruelly mistreated. At the end, happiness and harmony comes when the women are allowed to marry the men of their choosing, and it is these marriages that are blessed by the fairies.

What of the romances? In The Tempest, Prospero holds the power, but it is Miranda who is the key to salvation and a happy ending. Without his daughter, it is likely Prospero would have turned into a murderous revenger. The Winter’s Tale sees Leontes destroy himself through his own jealousy. The king becomes a vicious tyrant because he is cruel to his own wife and children, and this breach of faith in suspecting his wife of adultery almost brings ruin to his entire kingdom. Only by obeying the sensible Emilia does Leontes have a chance of achieving redemption, and the pure trust and love that exists between Perdita and Florizel redeems the mistakes of the old generation and leads to a happy ending. Cymbeline? Imogen is wronged, and it is through her love and forgiveness that redemption is achieved at the end. In all of these plays, without the influence of the women there is no happy ending.

The message is clear. Without a woman’s consent and co-operation in living together and bringing up a family, there is turmoil. Equality between the sexes and trust between husbands and wives alone will bring happiness and harmony, not only to the family unit, but to society as a whole. The Taming of the Shrew rears its ugly head as a counter-example, for here a happy ending is dependent on a woman’s absolute subservience and obedience even in the face of abuse. But this is one of Shakespeare’s early plays (and a rip-off of an older comedy called The Taming of a Shrew) and it is interesting to look at how the reception of this play changed as values evolved in this society. 

As early as 1611 The Shrew was adapted by the writer John Fletcher in a play called The Woman’s Prize, or The Tamer Tamed. It is both a sequel and an imitation, and it chronicles Petruchio’s search for a second wife after his disastrous marriage with Katherine (whose taming had been temporary) ended with her death. In Fletcher’s version, the men are outfoxed by the women and Petruchio is ‘tamed’ by his new wife. It ends with a rather uplifting epilogue that claims the play aimed:

To teach both sexes due equality
And as they stand bound, to love mutually.

The Taming of the Shrew and The Tamer Tamed were staged back to back in 1633, and it was recorded that although Shakespeare’s Shrew was “liked”, Fletcher’s Tamer Tamed was “very well liked.” You heard it here folks; as early as 1633 audiences found Shakespeare’s message of total female submission uncomfortable, and they preferred John Fletcher’s interpretation and his message of equality between the sexes.

So yes. The message we can take away from Shakespeare is that a world in which women are powerless and cannot or do not contribute positively to society and family is unsustainable. Men, given the power and left to their own devices, will destroy themselves. But if men and women can work together and live in harmony, then the whole community has a chance at salvation, renewal and happiness.  

In the immortal words of the bard himself: fucking annihilated.

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sponfawn

This is amazing on every level

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unbossed
… Step 1. Realize that you should exercise. Step 2 ? Step 3. HEALTH!
When you’re depressed, that question mark can be a barely navigable labyrinth of garbage fires fueled by physical and mental exhaustion, self-loathing, defeat, and frustration. The last time I found myself trying to hack through that mess during a particularly dark period, I started to come up with my own list of bare-bones, practical tips to help me face the idea of moving again. Now I’m sharing them, in case they might help someone else in a similar position. I stress the word “might.” If you’re depressed, the last thing you need is another a-hole telling you what you should do. But if you’re looking for somewhere to start, I’ve been there too.

First heading? “You don’t have to exercise.” I love this entire piece. It’s going on facebook, that’s how much I love it. A+

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rawraceli

“The perfect body is a breathing one. Anything that serves those ends is worth considering. Everything else is noise.”

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ways to start feeling again

  • sit in the sun without anything to do, feel the heat of the rays hit your skin, realize that this sunlight has travelled a very long way to reach you
  • walk around barefoot and try to feel as much of the ground under your feet as you can, notice every rock and blade of grass
  • sit quietly for a while and notice the touch of breath in your nostrils, feel how the air gets cooler as you inhale and warmer as you exhale
  • drive around aimlessly and blast some of your favorite songs, scream/sing along to them and feel the vibrations of your favorite lyrics as they change the air in your throat and around you, feel that the music is healing you from the inside out
  • stay away from alcohol or drugs for a few days, try to be as aware and present as you can in every moment, stop trying to numb or dull your senses
  • eat a few meals without any distractions, notice every bite and taste every flavor that covers your tongue, be grateful for it all
  • look up at the stars and the moon, understand how small we all are and how immense the universe is, realize what a miracle everything is, let your heart swell with amazement and admiration for life itself
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Let's talk about mynoise.net

Have you ever been listening to Rainymood and thought, “Yeah, this is good … but it would be nice if I could customize the sound more, or if there was a little more choice.

Let me introduce you to MyNoise.

MyNoise is a customizable sounscape looper with so many options, even within each soundscape.  So say, for instance, you really love rain sounds when you write or study or relax.  Anything.  I know I’m a big fan of rain sounds.  They have a page for that.

But say you like really high, pattery rain, and LOTS of low thunder.  Here’s where MyNoise really stands out: you can customize that.  See those sliders with all the cute colors?  That is your equalizer. You can adjust the levels based on what you want to hear more and less of.  Here’s how it looks when you want high, pattery rain and low, rumbly thunder:

But say rain isn’t really your jam.  Say you want something a little more ambient, a little more background noise-y.  Something with people.  Well, they have customizable coffee house chatter that even has the levels listed for things like “kitchen,” “babble,” and “table”:

Or say you miss the ocean.

Or say you miss your cat.

Or say you miss your spaceship.

Or say you miss the dungeon where you and your team of scalawag adventurers used to explore and face off against, say, dragons.  In the dungeon.

This site is seriously so helpful, and those are just a fraction of every kind of sounscape the site has to offer.  The best part is that if you want to layer it with music (for instance, I’ll layer a playlist + rain + coffee shop if the scene I’m writing takes place in a coffee shop), you can adjust the master volume, meaning all of your layers stay at their respective volumes, just louder or quieter.

Enjoy!

OH MY GOD

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As an artist, I break things a lot. A real lot. Sometimes I bend and twist objects so far trying to fit them into places that they just weren’t made to fit into. But you know what? I don’t throw broken supplies away just because they didn’t work for that one project. I can fix them. I can glue them back together; I can add them to my findings hoping that one day I’ll be working on something so special and come to find out that piece I thought was unusable fits perfectly into place with something it was meant to be used for.

I think the same thing works for people too. Just because one position broke you doesn’t mean you’re worthless.

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gothicprep

“support the troops” has become a really bizarre unquestioned thing in america where you can’t say ANYTHING about the military whether it be pointing out that they have no business in half the countries they’re stationed in to the fact that this particular breed of patriotism is used to sell everything from war to professional football

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sponfawn

Like I can get it if it's "respect the individuals who risk their lives for people in our country" (even if misguided/misinformed by nationalistic propaganda, cuz they're trying to do something good, in their mind, most of the time).

But it's not about that really. They use "support our troops" to really mean "support the US military as an institution" but defend the saying/the army as if it's just about individuals.

Hypernationalism is pretty much never a good thing. Ever.

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demigration

Public service announcement: Please don’t support Urban Outfitters, not only do they constantly cause controversy with racism,and glorifying mental illness, but they’re ridiculously overpriced. I know you like their stuff but there are ((more affordable)) alternatives.  I get all my stuff at ameliastardust and it’s all great quality and not only is she not problematic but she’s a fellow tumblr user, so please just save your money and support actual good small stores like this.   

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demesmerize

i just find it funny that they sell the same exact things but urban outfitters hikes up their products ¾ths the price

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zeeavini

omg yes finally someone posts an alternative to urban outfitters instead of just bashing them, does anyone remember when they made a  Faux Blood-Stained Kent State Sweatshirt after the shooting??

oh my god this is actually insane??  I can’t believe they’re charging 8 dollars for a PLASTIC CHOKER. JFC. Also you guys can use the code TUMBLR for 15% off your order at AmeliaStardust.nyc, plus I throw in a free gift to make ya extra happy!

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Anonymous asked:

Hey I'm seriously freaking out about what to do with my life and how i'm gonna be able to afford dogs and all that lame stuff. What'd you go to school for? If any other dogblr has any suggestions on how to manage too I would really love it.

i mean… i’m still in school. i work as a nanny and i budget the shit out of my life and STILL have extra to save on most weeks. that’s what it all comes down to: managing your money correctly and responsibly. i’d tell you what i make per year on average, to make you feel better but i’d feel judged.

and i’m currently majoring in anthropology so there aint going to be anyone poorer than me. so if i can do it, you can do it.

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My only suggestion is to live well below your means. Budgetbudgetbudget.   I’ll leave myself open to be judged: I made about 18k base wages (not including tips) last year working two jobs six and seven days a week living in one of the poorest counties in the state, and put less than a quarter of that into savings that I’m currently living on as I re calibrate my life (Google “fuck you money” and why it’s a good idea). Things that cut down on my costs of living: Having roommates. I have not paid more than $350 a month for rent and utilities since I moved out of the dorms in college. I also have a cheap phone and a prepaid phone plan that comes out to being only $45/month. Student loans now operate under a “pay as you earn” plan, and since I earned poverty wages, I didn’t owe anything last year, though my crippling interest is collecting.  I have a fantastic credit score (speaking of, get a credit card and start building up your credit. Be smart about it.) and so I was approved for a good car loan and was able to sign up for the payment plan on my car that stretched it out over several years about brought my monthly payment down significantly (I’m aware that this does end up costing more money in the long run but I increased the amount I paid every month depending on the state of my income). My dog food bill is about $57 every six weeks for the cheapest bag of Acana (Chicken and Potato). I’ve been playing cat food roulette so I don’t actually know how much her food ends up being, but we can just assume that the cat food is about $25/month. Again, this is the higher end stuff, you can switch to something cheaper and be better for it. Cat litter is probably like, $8/month or something like that. I also elected to buy pet insurance for the dog in the event of an emergency because I knew I would not be able to afford vet bills without it. $350/year, paid for itself and then some over when he started limping. Flea and heartworm meds were cheaper for me because I worked at the clinic, so I think I got them at cost or close to it, but Allivet’s prices are very good.  And then go on to factor in gas and food. Cook your own food, don’t fall into the fast food trap (I spent way too much money on fast food, and it adds up quickly). Coupons and discount food stores are fantastic places. I’ve never been on any assistance programs, so IDK how those work. I like nice things, but I don’t like paying full retail price for nice things if I can help it because I do not have a lot in the way of a disposable income. Craigslist is a great place to get stuff inexpensively, as well as Ryanspetsupplies, and Chewy. Thrift stores are also great places, especially if they’re supported by an animal shelter because a lot of people donate pet stuff.  Not going to lie, it’s stressful. But you can make it work. You just have to set up your priorities and know how to access resources.

ayooo, since cynological took the plunge and posted how much they make per year: i’m looking at making a little less than 20k this year (about 5k less than last year). i pay ~$500 total in rent + utilities. i never go out… EVER. i only buy clothing at ross or marshalls (both are hella cheap and have quality shit). i make all my food and buy cheap ass groceries.

monty eats victor which is $44 for 40lbs. milo eats a zignature/acana (depends on how i am financially) which is around 28lbs for $50/70ish? milo’s food lasts me 6 weeks, monty’s lasts me 12 weeks. we get all our shots done at the mobile vet, and only go to the real vet for emergencies,  and the yearly physical, blood test and physical. 

before you get a dog SAVE MONEY IN CASE OF EMERGENCIES, even if you get the dog health insurance. and i’m not talking 500 bucks, i’m saying 2k at least. i cannot stress this enough. this is not only the responsible thing to do, but it will save your ass several times be it in an emergency or bc you don’t have enough money to eat that week. it doesn’t matter if you have to dip into it AFTER you get the dog as long as you don’t blow through it unnecessarily; this is something to fall back on bc financial hardships come around more often than you imagine. i’ve had to dip into mine several times in the past.

be responsible, build credit, don’t be stupid, kiss your wild-child days goodbye, and prepare for the worst case scenario.

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I just tweeted it and I figure I should also post it here. 

This website literally GRADES YOUR ESSAYS. You can choose your grade level, if you’re using American or British english, what type of paper it is (essay, short story, biography…), and it even checks for plagiarism. THEN once it’s grading your essay, it shows you grammatical errors, suggestions for better sentence structure, and a lot of other things. Reblog to save a life. 

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Things to write about and fill your journal with

1. Go for a walk. Draw or list things you find on the the sidewalk. 

2. Write a letter to yourself in the future. 

3. Buy something inexpensive as a symbol for your need to create, (new pen, a tea cup, journal). Use it everyday. 

4. Draw your dinner. 

5. Find a piece of poetry you respond to. Rewrite it and glue it into your journal.    

6. Glue an envelope into your journal. For one week collect items you find on the street. 

7. Expose yourself to a new artist, (go to a gallery, or in a book.) Write about what moves you about it. 

 8. Find a photo of a person you do not know. Write a brief bio about them. 9. Spend a day drawing only red things. 

10. Draw your bike.

11. Make a list of everything you buy in the next week. 

12. Make a map of everywhere you went in one day. 

13. Draw a map of the creases on your hand, (knuckles, palm) 

14. Trace your footsteps with chalk.  

15. Record an overheard conversation.

16. Trace the path of the moon in relation to where you live.

17. Go to a paint store. Collect ‘chips’ of all your favorite colors.

18. Draw your favorite tree.

19. Take 15 minutes to eat an orange.

20. Write a haiku.

21. Hang upside down for five minutes.

22. Hang found objects from tree branches.

23. Make a puppet.

24. Create an outdoor room from things you find in nature. 

25. Read a book in one day.

26. Illustrate your grocery list.

27. Read a story out loud to a friend.

28. Write a letter to someone you admire.

29. Study the face of someone you do not like.

30. Make a meal based on a color theme. (i.e. all white).

31. Create a museum of very small things.

32. List the smells in your neighborhood. 

33. List 100 uses for a tin can.

34. Fill an entire page in your journal with small circles. Color them in.

35. Giving away something you love.

36. Choose an object, draw the side you can’t see.

37. List all of the places you’ve ever lived.

38. Describe your favourite room in detail.

39. Write about your relationship with your washing machine.

40. Draw all of the things in your purse/bag.

41. Make a mini book based on the theme, “my grocery list”.

42. Create a character based on someone you know. Write a list of personality traits.

43. Recall your favorite childhood game.

44. Put postcards of art pieces/painting on the inside of your kitchen cupboard doors, so you can see them everyday (but not become deaf to them.)

45. Draw the same object every day for a week.

46. Write in your journal using a different medium (brush & ink, charcoal, old typewriter, crayons, fat markers.

47. Draw the individual items of your favorite outfit.

48. Make a useful item using only paper & tape. 

49. Research a celebration or ritual from another culture.

50. Do a temporary art installation using a pad of post it notes & a pen.

51. Draw a map of your favorite sitting spots in your town/city. (photocopy it and give it to someone you like.)

52. Record all of the sounds you hear in the course of one hours.

53. Using a grid, collect various textures from magazine and play them off of each other.

54. Cut out all media for one day. Write about the effects.

55. Make pencil rubbings of six different surfaces.

56. Draw your garbage.

57. Do a morning collage.

58. List your ten most important things, (not including animals or people.)

59. List ten things you would like to do every day.

60. Glue a photo of yourself as a child into your journal.

61. Transform some garbage.

62. Write an entry in your journal in really LARGE letters.

63. Collect some ‘flat’ things in nature (leaves, flowers). Glue or tape them into your journal.

64. Physically alter a page. (i.e. cut a hole, pour tea on it, burn it, fold it, etc.)

65. Find several color combinations you respond to in public. Document them using swatches, write where you found them. 

66. Write a journal entry describing something “secret”. Cut it up into several pieces and glue them back in scrambled.

67. Record descriptions or definitions of subjects or words you are interested in, found in encyclopedias or dictionaries.

68. Draw the outline of an object without looking at the page. (contour drawing).  

69. What were you thinking just now? write it down.

70. Do nothing.

71. Write a list of ten things you could to do. Do the last thing on the list. 

72. Create an image using dots. 

73. Do 3 drawings at different speeds.

74. Put a small object in your left pocket (or in a bag), Put your left hand in the pocket. Draw it by feel.

75. Create a graph documenting or measuring something in your life.

76. Draw the sun.

77. Create instructions for a simple everyday task.

78. Make prints using food. (fruit and vegetables cut in half, fish, etc.)

79. Find a photo. Alter it by drawing over it.

80. Write a letter using an unconventional medium.

81. Draw one object for twenty minutes.

82. Combine two activities that have not been combined before.

83. Write about your day in an encyclopedic fashion. (i.e. organize by subject.) 

84. Write a list of all the things you do to escape.

85. Cut a random shape out of several layers of a magazine. Make a collage out of the results.

86. Write an entry in code.

87. Make a painting using tools from the bathroom.

88. Work with a medium that is subtractive.

89. Write about or draw some of the doors in your life.

90. Make a postcard that has some kind of activity on it. 

91. Devise a journal entry using “layers”.

92. Devise an entry using “layers”.

93. Write your own definition of one of the following concepts, sitting, waiting, sleeping (without using the actual word.)

94. List 10 of your habits.

95. Illustrate the concept of “simplicity”.

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