you see perry the platypus as a child i was never able to express my gender. now i will force fem the entire tri-state area

this was a joke but i just wanna point out that this is canon

The force fem bit too. His evil scheme that episode is to give everyone dresses.

It’s called the “ballgown-inator”

oh my god

colour-code your infants so strangers know what their genitals look like

this is THE WORST idea anyone has ever had on this site. ever.

yeah you’re right……haha……..imagine some sort of dystopia where newborns were dressed in certain colours according to their genitals……….jeez……..how fucked up would that be……..how could I have ever come up with something so silly

my favorite thing that’s ever come out of those dumb “gender reveal” parties, you know the ones, is that people make cakes and other baked goods for them right?

and since everything in this hellscape has to be gendered including colors, they gotta use both pink and blue frosting when they decorate to keep the prospective parents guessing before they cut the cake open and reveal how they’re gonna color-code their babies, but that also means:

people are out here making blue and white and pink baby cakes and just, unintentionally throwing the trans flag all over their pointless “gender” celebration and i think that’s just superb

someone make me this cake when i get top surgery to celebrate

What if the trans community…stole gender reveal parties?

I hope the trans community steals gender reveal parties

i have a plan to announce a gender reveal party but never actually say “im pregnant” and just heavily imply it and then once everyones there announce that its my gender that im revealing and it started out as a joke but then my dad said hed go along with it if i padded my stomach a bit around my grandparents for at least a month

me: dress how you want!! gender is fake!!! nothing matters!!!!!!

trans person: i like gender tho

me: hell yeah i respect that!!!! i apologize and don’t mean to dismiss your identity with my optimistic nihilism!!!!!!!

Good post OP

Denounce gender roles but respect gender identity.

Denounce gender roles but respect gender identity.

how does one denounce gender while simultaneously reinforcing gender roles tho ? like isnt it enough for us to dismantle gender altogether and let ppl dress/present however theyd like WITHOUT all the harmful gender bullshit ? Like why cant everyone just be unapologetically themselves w/out all these boxes ?

Because some people like identifying as a gender/sex and it should be respected, this does not mean they or anyone has to follow the gender norms.

Sometimes labels can help someone understand themselves in a less nebulous way. And that's valuable. You can deconstruct gender roles, while still allowing yourself and others to identify with/as a certain gender if that is what's comfy and good for you/them. If you don't identify with any gender at all, that's still totally fine! It's just respecting that others may have a need/want to identify with one or more gender(s).

I remember posting somewhere once in a thread about why girls aren’t exploited in animation anymore where some guy said, “all the disney girls are drawn to be generally attractive, but I don’t think there are any eye-candy men… or are there? Are there any Disney men that lots of girls like?” and I mentioned Roger. Tons of girls replied agreeing with me and the original guy was like “wait, Roger? from 101 Dalmatians? What’s attractive about him, he’s tall and lanky and has a big nose, he isn’t muscley at all! Wouldn’t you all prefer Gaston or something? Or do you girls think his big nose is indicative of something else?” and I was like “no, you idiot, he’s a silly, goofy guy who likes animals and can play a bunch of instruments, that’s why he’s attractive. What’s the matter with you? Gaston, seriously?”

This is why we need more girls in animation. And more guys like Roger apparently. 

This is why I laugh my ass of whenever dudes talk about how men are “objectified” by the media too. Because 9 times out of 10, what men think is “women objectifying men” are characters like Gaston.

And Gaston is NOT a woman-driven fantasy. Gaston is a male wish fulfillment fantasy. Gaston is not what women want, he is what men want to be. He is hyper-masculinity to an extreme degree, dripping with sexism and testosterone. The fact that men think that Gaston is what women want says an awful lot about those men. 

While I don’t want to generalize, female fans tend to prefer a very different kind of male hero. We like the Rogers, the Milos, the Hercules. Genuinely kind, often awkward men who are sometimes vulnerable and respectful to women. 

Yes, this is a generalization. I own up to that. But I think it’s important to remember that there is often VERY big difference between what MEN want to be and what women WANT in our media. 

Reblogging this again because fucking this. And hell, even the muscley dudes (see: Khal Drogo, Hercules, Thor, Captain America) are loved, not because they are muscley, but because they are sweet and loving and adorable. We love Thor because his mispronounces “Hubble” as “Hooble,” not because of what he can do with a hammer.

Reblogging for the awesome comments.

It’s not like they’re doing it by accident with movieverse Thor, either. The guy’s basically a walking checklist of “Romance Novel Hero” tropes - it’s like a sexy lumberjack wandered into the wrong genre one day, somebody handed him a cape and a magic hammer, and he didn’t have the heart to tell them there’d been a mixup.

There was this amazing post about this premise, with Hugh Jackman on magazine covers as examples. On magazines where the target audience was straight men, he was like wolverine - angry, neck ligaments straining, revealed flexing muscles, mouth open like a battle cry, intense lighting highlighting his physique. On a magazine targeted to straight women it was much softer lighting, he was smiling, relaxed, in a soft white sweater. There may or may not have been a puppy.

Shots fired

great

Wait this was supposed to be a bad thing???

Good.

nobody ever talks about how saying non-binary genders don’t exist is racist as fuck

How?

many many many indigenous cultures have historically included more than two genders and to say that those genders do not exist is to say that those cultural traditions are invalid, and that only the imperialist gender binary is correct. which is racism. 

Source?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hijra_%28South_Asia%29

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bakla

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kathoey

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Muxe

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Two-Spirit

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fa%27afafine

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M%C4%81h%C5%AB

Do you need any more or are you done being a dick 

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/apr/16/india-third-gender-claims-place-in-law

http://content.time.com/time/world/article/0,8599,1820633,00.html

http://www.npr.org/blogs/pictureshow/2012/05/30/153990125/in-mexico-mixed-genders-and-muxes

http://www.nativepeoples.com/Native-Peoples/May-June-2014/Two-Spirit-The-Story-of-a-Movement-Unfolds/

http://theculturetrip.com/pacific/samoa/articles/fa-afafines-the-third-gender/

For those who don’t like Wikipedia

THISTHISTHISTHISTHISTHISTHISTHISTHIS

THE WESTERN IDEA OF TWO GENDERS IS EXACTLY THAT

WESTERN

THERE ARE HUNDREDS OF CULTURES ACROSS THE WORLD WHO SEE GENDER AS A SPECTRUM OR OTHER FORM OUTSIDE OF TWO GENDERS

Judaism has been recognizing six genders for thousands of years. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_and_Judaism

SIX.

JUDAISM.

Fuck off with this “binary gender is commanded by God” bullshit. 

Emma Goldman, she said this in 1923

It’s not our business

Gender of the day: lizard threatening you with its eyes

People need to realize that there’s a difference between straight people and Straight People™

Straight person: Hey, you got a new haircut. Looks really good.

Straight Person™: No homo, but your haircut looks good on you.

In case you were confused 👌

Just like how there are white people who are gay and then there are the White Gays

White people who are gay: “I’m gay.”

White Gays: “I can’t believe I got accused of racism after calling that person a racial slur! I mean, I know what racism looks like because I’ve been discriminated for my sexuality. How is me being racist even possible? I’M GAY!”

Lmao all the angry White and Straight people in the comments, keep reblogging

neurotypical: i don’t have any mental illnesses or disorders Neurotypical™: Happiness is a choice!! ✨✨Have you tried yoga? Drink more water and eat kale ✨✨

cis person: i identify completely as my assigned gender Cis Person™: It doesn’t matter what you identify as, cause you still have Female Genitals! I’m not being offensive!! Read a book on Human Biology! 🚹🚺

men: I identify as male.

Men™: feminazis ruin everything, get back in the kitchen and make me a sandwich bitch

atheists: I don’t believe in god or identify with a religion

Atheists™: Don’t fucking talk to me if you believe in God. Open your closed-fucking-minds!! (usually targeted towards Christians)

nice guys: hey I know when not to invade someone’s space and I totally respect boundaries

Nice Guys™: IVE BEEN YOUR FRIEND FOR A MONTH AND NOW YOURE TELLING ME YOU DONT WANT TO FUCK ME ???? WHAT IS THE POINT OF WOMEN IF YOURE NOT HAVING SEX WITH ME?

this post got all kinds of better since I last saw it

This post is perfection across the board.

It’s good to finally see this written out because yes.

baby boomers: we're older and recognize things are different now, but here's some wisdom from personal experience Baby Boomers™: I washed dishes to pay my way through college! It's not hard to get a job, you're just lazy and disrespectful! You need to go to rigorous schools as much as possible to get a good job and live the American Dream in the suburbs!!! All your interests and your generation's culture are shallow/silly!!! Technology is sucking your soul and no one talks to anyone anymore!

Guys, what’s the line between tomboy and actually being bigender?

In my case, being bigender/genderfluid, it’s that I experience dysphoria. Gender isn’t your presentation. A cis butch lesbian or tomboy is still a woman even though they might wear masculine clothing. Just like a cis man in a skirt is still a man. 

Like, here’s where I see it being a bit confusing for some people. My best friend likes to wear exclusively sports bras because she wore them a lot in the past and now seeing her chest in a more normal bra just looks odd to her. She is still cis, her presentation is just nonconforming of social expectations of her gender. Outside of that quirk, she has no issues with people seeing her as female and has no issues with her anatomy.

I am bigender. When I have top dysphoria, wearing clothing that hides my chest only does so much. It’s the fact I have breasts that makes me uncomfortable at those times. Being upset about people seeing me with boobs is then a side effect caused by the fact that my brain is telling me they shouldn’t be there, but the problem is not actually my presentation.

And, I mean, one issue tumblr overlooks is body dysmorphia, I’ve noticed.

You can be dysphoric about physical traits and still be cis. Muscle Dysmorphia is a thing, which is primarily in (cis) males where they view their body as too small/lean/etc and try to increase muscle mass. Think of it in a similar vein as anorexia. 

Gender dysphoria is related to gender physical/sexual traits and often secondary sex characteristics. It’s more the fact characteristics exist when they shouldn’t, or are lacking when they should be there. The other primary thing is that when this are done to combat the dysphoria, like wearing a binder or particularly flattening sports bra for top dysphoria, are done, the symptoms go away.

Now, this is a generalized statement, as people can experience gender dysphoria differently. I’m of the school of thought that you need some form of dysphoria to be trans, because otherwise what is bringing about the idea that you’re not cis?  It’s also fair to note that dysphoria is not constant and can be very mild for some people. Everyone experiences it differently.

One method is to read the perspectives of other people who are trans, how they figured that out, and see if it sounds familiar.

The question I’d ask first is: is there anything outside of your clothing/hair that makes you feel like you are not cis? If so, what is it? Does having/lacking breasts bother you beyond how it pertains to clothes? What about the stuff downstairs?

Note: Some people experience top or bottom dysphoria and do not experience the other until after the first type has been treated. Just like having issues with your chest size or presentation doesn’t mean your trans, lacking one and having the other doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not trans. 

Gender is weird and ultimately it’s something you figure out with self-reflection.

Additionally, speaking as the friend who wears sports bras all the time, wearing a regular bra actually causes me a fair amount of dysmorphia. I become actually, viscerally distressed at the sight of myself with a “normal” chest. My skin crawls and I want to cry and run away so that no one has to see me with actual, noticeable breasts. Like, even just thinking about how it feels and writing this post is making me so, so, so uncomfortable. I’m typing parts of this one-handed because I keep covering my chest with one arm even though I’m wearing a sports bra and no one is even looking at me anyway.

(And yes, this definitely started because I wore sports bras a lot. I mean, hell, I used to wear padded push-ups. But as time has gone on and my desired presentation has changed, what started as a mere preference has turned into something much more psychological.)

My dysmorphia is different from the dysphoria experienced by trans and nonbinary folks because it’s not that I want my breasts gone, or that I feel like they aren’t an actual part of my body. Quite the opposite: I love my built-in stress balls and would be really, really uncomfortable with my body if I woke up one morning and they were suddenly gone. 

I just feel like, in some cases, they look Bad and Wrong, and that people are judging me for them and laughing about them. Yup. When I wear a regular bra, I feel like people are looking at my chest and laughing about it like it’s a bad haircut or a monobrow or some other totally superficial thing that makes a person look “ugly” by most standards. And it does more than chafe my pride; it makes me deeply distressed and want to hide.

However, I am, as was previously stated, cis. I have no issues with being seen as and addressed as a “she”; it’s what’s right for me. I mean, my “ideal” presentation is people doing a double-take and then going “oh, that’s a girl”. But what that just means is that–even though I like a little ambiguity–I ultimately identify as female and prefer to be seen as such. 

Dysmorphia is very real, and the distress it causes can be just as upsetting as that caused by dysphoria. (Take it from someone who experiences the former, and has listened to the experiences of friends who have the latter.) But the two are separate phenomena with different implications, and should be treated as such. So like, that’s another thing to consider in your self-exploration.

Now if you’ll all excuse me, I’m going to spend the next hour screaming internally and hiding my chest behind things even though, again, no one is actually looking at me.

To add to this, dysphoria isn't a prerequisite for being trans. Im nonbinary, and for me im not usually dysphoric. It's more that sometimes when people call me a girl/woman it's... Gross? Like it just feels wrong and don't want. (I say sometimes, cuz my gender/comfort tends to shift around) and when I first found out that being nonbinary was possible I was like "Oh! I have a word now/im not broken"

Informative Ancient Egypt Comics: BROS

Our 1st place contest winner requested a Niankhkhnum and Khnumhotep comic as their prize.

I took a class about Ancient Egypt last semester and we had a whole lecture dedicated to talking about how gay Niankhkhnum and Khnumhotep were. Their tomb walls were decorated with scenes of them ignoring their wives in favor of embracing each other. In one scene, the couple is seated at a banquet table that is usually reserved for a husband and wife. There’s an entire motif of Khnumhotep holding lotus flowers which in ancient Egyptian tradition symbolizes femininity. Khnumhotep offers the lotus flower to Niankhkhnum, something that only wives were ever depicted as doing for their husbands. In fact, Khnumhotep is repeatedly depicted as uniquely feminine, being shown smaller and shorter than his partner Niankhkhnum and being placed in the role of a woman. Size is a big deal in Egyptian art, husbands are almost always shown as being larger and taller than their wives. So for two men of equal status to be shown in once again, a marital fashion, is pretty telling. Not to mention they were literally buried together which is the strongest bond two people could share in ancient Egypt, as it would mean sharing the journey to the afterlife together. And yet 90% of the academic text about these two talks about these clues in vague terms and analyze the great “brotherhood” they shared, and the enigma of Khnumhotep being depicted as feminine. Apparently it’s too hard for archaeologists to accept homosexuality in the ancient world, as well as the possibility of trans individuals.

On the last note, I was walking around the Field Museum of Natural History in Chicago and there is a mummy on exhibit. It caught my attention because the panel that was describing it was talking about how it was a woman’s body in a male coffin and wow, the Egyptian working that day really screwed that up. My summary, not actual words, sorry I can’t remember verbatim but it basically said that someone screwed up.

They claimed that the Egyptians screwed up a burial.

The Egyptians. Screwed up. A burial.

Now I’m not an expert in Ancient Egypt but from what I know, and what the exhibit was telling me, burials and the afterlife and all that jazz DEFINED the Egyptian religion and culture. They don’t just ‘screw up’. So instead of thinking outside the box for two seconds and wonder why else a genetically female body was in a male coffin, the ‘researchers’ blatantly disregard the rest of their research and decided to call it a screw up. Instead of, you know, admitting that maybe this mummy presented as male during his life and was therefore honorably buried as he was identified. But it would be too much of a stretch to admit that a transgender person could have existed back then.

(Sorry I can’t find any sources online and it’s been like 2 years but it stuck in my mind)

There’s a lot of bigoted historian dragging on my dash these days and it makes me happy.

Once again, more proof that we queers have ALWAYS been here, and it’s a CHOSEN narrative to erase them.

@temple-of-rah

I am reblogging this for the lols as well as a very accessible and engaging reminder that every historical narrative is created by human beings interpreting existing evidence and will necessarily reflect their biases, experiences, cultural norms and taboos.

Human objectivity is a myth, and until we have diversity present and speaking out in and across all disciplines, the truth will remain obscured.

On the “female mummy in a male coffin” thing: This becomes extra sad when you realize that we have actual primary-source documentation of three genders in ancient Egyptian culture. And yet literally everything is filed as “male” or “female” and crossing of the two is treated as a mistake.

@niczka