right now you might be in a situation that you think you won’t survive but six months ago you were in a situation that you didn’t think you’d survive and two years before that you were in a situation you didn’t think you’d survive and the point is you will always surprise yourself and you will always make it through
here’s a little something my therapist told me that helped me out:
even people with the worst trauma tell themselves “it could have been worse”
even people with the most unpreventable trauma blame themselves.
every single person who has gone through trauma beats themself up over it.
those thoughts that you shouldve done something different or that you just need to “get over it”… they aren’t true. they’re just symptoms of real, valid trauma. what you went through was hard. no human being deserves to go through that. you are allowed to be upset. you are allowed to feel angry and scared. your feelings are valid, and it was not your fault.
— Pablo Neruda
Honestly sometimes you want things to work out and it doesn’t and time passes and you look back and understood why it didn’t happen then. The universe or whatever you believe in, is always looking out for the best for you so mourn but move on. There are better things ahead always.
Reasons to live: lonely edition
If bras hurt your shoulders and make your pain worse, don’t wear them. If that itchy sweater your grandma gave you aggravates your sensory problems, thank her for it, but don’t wear it. If heels make your feet ache or make your dysautonomia flare, wear flats to parties. You shouldn’t follow any social conventions that make your symptoms worse, let alone ones related to something as insignifcant as the clothing you put on your body.
Choose recovery,
Choose recovery again,
And again,
And again, and again, and again, and again.
Even if you feel like you have nothing to offer, you’re still allowed to be here. Your existence and value are not dependent on what you can do for other people.
here’s a secret: you’re not annoying, I promise! even when you talk about your feelings, even when you ramble on about that thing you found that makes you so happy, even when you need space and have to take time for yourself. you are always loved, even when you feel like you’re at your lowest. no one is judging you for thinking about yourself sometimes. you’re not selfish for taking care of yourself.
I want you to know that it’s okay if all you managed to do today was breathe.
It’s okay if you didn’t manage to get out of bed.
It’s okay if you didn’t get that piece of work done.
It’s okay if you couldn’t socialize today.
I’m proud of you. Tomorrow is a chance for a fresh start. Stay strong and be safe.
not eating means no energy and no energy means not being able to play with small doggies bc ur too weak so please look after your bodies ok do it for the doggies who want to play with u
beauty tip: surround yourself with flowers
do you ever just wanna hold someone so so tight and make them feel okay and heal all the pain and hurt in their heart, fill them up with so much love and make sure they never feel sad or broken again
if you were truly a bad person, you wouldn’t be so hung up on the morality of your mistakes. the fact that you want to go back and make it right means you’re growing from this and you’ll try to do better next time.
ways to become friends with yourself:
