Hi, I’m trying to get over my ex and move on, but it’s been really difficult. During our relationship, I constantly felt insecure and undervalued because he never expressed how he truly felt. He treated me in a way that seemed like he didn’t really care about me, and when the relationship ended abruptly, I was devastated. Even though I know it wasn’t good for me, I still think about him and feel a pain in my chest. I know I need to move on, but I don’t know how. Do you have any advice to help me forget and get over this relationship?
Dear anon,
I’m not sure why, but your story reminds me of someone I once knew.
It seems like a long time has passed and you still haven’t moved on. Normally I would advise people to do their best to move on, but in your case maybe what you need in order to get closure, is just talk to your ex.
Pick up the phone and call them. We’re literally just human beings on a swirling planet in space. Nothing’s that deep, and yet, everything really is that deep, so it’s worth fighting for if it's keeping you up at night. Take them off the pedestal and treat them like a person.
This was once your person, who you spent nights on end sleeping skin to skin with, who you shared homecooked meals and belly-aching laughter with. You once shared everything with them. You deserve to get answers to your questions. Call them and get your closure.
You seem to be assuming they won’t even answer... but at least give yourself the chance to try. You owe yourself that much.
I’m rooting for you, anon.