Rejection is redirection. Rejection is protection. Rejection is not now, not yet, I have something better. Rejection is the universe redirecting you to what is truly meant for you.

Ladies take the advice and be as delulu as you want. You will never go wrong with betting on yourself and having blind confidence. When you sell yourself short the only people that benefit from it are others, and you’re the only one that suffers. So bet on yourself, aim for your wildest dreams and don’t ever let people tell you that your dreams are unattainable.

So I just posted my first reels on Insta recently and it made me wonder about the fear that so many people, particularly women have about being perceived.

I've heard it called "the witch wound", and especially female content creators relate to this a lot. It's basically a hidden remnant of trauma from being your authentic self, for fear of some form of punishment or being judged by society. This also ties in with the dark feminine movement that is now becoming more popular, as people realize that you feel most empowered and confident when you step into your truth and honor your boundaries and standards.

But basically I felt anxiety at the thought of sharing my content with certain people in my personal circle. For a moment I even thought of removing them from followers list but I decided to simply sit with the feeling and analyze it a bit.

And I realized it's not that deep. Whether in real life or online, anything you do can be scrutinized or judged, and you can't please the entire world no matter what you try. So what if you get judged, or someone doesn't like your post? Or leaves a disgruntled comment or shares with their friends? More engagement for your account. And if they don't like the content, they can always click unfollow.

It's literally that simple. As women I think we need to push ourselves out of our comfort zone and become more and more of our authentic selves. The world certainly needs more authentic voices, relatable content and actually seeing and hearing about genuine things that you're passionate about.

Seeing only the "highlight reel" only goes so far, and it's always when you stop caring what they think and do what you love and talk about the things you love that you shine brightest and attract your true tribe.

Some of the biggest creators and artists in my area made it the same way - by simply continuing to create what they enjoy and not caring about what people think.

One important thing to keep in mind when leveling up, is that next level won't feel magical forever. The initial awe and excitement will wear off as it usually does because we are human and capricious, and our egos/minds are wired to jump from one desire to the next. But don't let that blind you from keeping your eyes on the prize: and that is to keep on growing, not for the high or thrill of it, but simply for having a level up mindset because you know there's more for you out there in the world.

A mistake that you can do in your level up journey is waiting around for another person (friend, partner, family) to accompany you in achieving various goals, whether it's fitness, taking a course, or creating new habits. You can't wait around forever until other people decide to do the same things you do. Your path is miraculously unique. Decide what you want and go for it! It's one of the single most empowering acts you can do, having the go-getter mindset of deciding and then going for it. For as long as you rely on other people or factors outside your control, you & your level up journey will always depend on others. Take ownership over your goals and celebrate your ambition and independence.

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At each stage of your level up you should review your achievements and goals, review what things can be automated, scaled, improved, outsourced. In business but also in your personal life, you can benefit from the same intentional mindset. What may have worked a year ago may no longer be physically, emotionally or financially beneficial. As an entrepreneur look at how much you are worth (your time, skills, energy) and compare that against the various tasks and systems you have in place in your business. If you are worth 1k$/h, then outsource those menial tasks and pay that 100$/h while you focus on more complex tasks that earn a higher revenue. Revise, redesign, repeat. That’s how you continuously scale your business.

Be that woman who is always learning and overachieving.

Be that woman who uses SPF50 even in winter because she has done her research on skincare and the importance of taking care of her skin all-year round.

Be that woman who looks polished to the nines for any occasion, simply because every day is an occasion to celebrate her divine femininity.

Be that woman who wears her pearls, silky robes and perfume even at home and doesn’t need a special occasion to enjoy luxury.

Be that woman who chooses her own wellbeing, her own selfcare, her own mental health, above all (because nobody gets a medal for being a doormat and sacrificing their life for another).

Be that woman who takes great care of her skin, body and hair by educating herself and investing in the best products for her - even before she's 40, or 30, even before any skin conditions appear forcing her to take better care.

Be that woman who is so incredibly brave to step outside her comfort zone and continuously challenge herself to become a better person, a kinder person; to do more, to achieve more, to be more.

Be that woman who whenever she hits rock bottom, she mourns her losses, but next day is reborn from the ashes like a phoenix, ready to conquer the world again, because the only direction she is moving towards is forward.

The purpose in studying other people’s formulas of success isn’t to blindly copy/paste the same steps. The purpose is to learn and adopt any systems that apply specifically to your situation. Use systems in a way that they will work for you, instead of the other way around. Use them in a smart way, through intuition, through trial and error, but always with discernment. Remember, no two journeys are the same.

Keep building your sidehustles until you’re your own boss financially secure and you can quit your day job.

Keep leveling up your identity, character and education until you and your higher self are one and the same.

Keep acting, thinking and speaking as if until you are living as if.

The manifesting power is in your hands.

11 Keys to a Successful Mindset

1. Work smart, not hard. In other words, quality over quantity. It’s not the amount of work and time you put in, but your strategy.

2. Community over competition. You’ll go 1000x farther by taking advantage of powerful, successful people around you, instead of watching from the sidelines coveting their success. Turn them into friends instead of enemies. You gain nothing from the latter and everything from the former.

3. If they can do it, so can you. Another way to make the best of other people thriving is by following in their footsteps. If they’re thriving, it means there’s a formula to their success which you can follow.  

4. Rejection is redirection. Any doors that close are an opportunity for new doors to open. Realign your mentality to see these occurrences as blessings, because better things are coming for you.  

5. Mindset is the foundation for everything. Let your mindset be a fertile soil for infinite possibilities. If you poison it with negativity, only weeds will grow.  

6. By creating a plan to achieve your goals, you are planning for success. If you don’t have a plan, you have no roadmap, no direction, and you’ll be stuck at the starting line.  

7. 'How can I come out of this as a winner?' thinking will change your game, water your crops, clear your skin and bless your newborn business. Thinking like a winner = acting like a winner.  

8. Failure is not a dead end. It’s a detour signalling you need to change your strategy. It’s also an opportunity to learn and improving yourself.

9. Blessings shared are blessings multiplied. Share your knowledge with others, share your advice and tips and tricks, help lift others up and the universe will do the same for you. When you are open about your journey, show that anything is possible, and teach others how to do the same, you are passing on the torch of success.

10. One step at a time. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Likewise your business or glow up plans will take time, and that’s completely okay. It’s better to do one task well, than 20 tasks incorrectly. Be patient, and honour the process of building something incredible - it starts from the ground up, laying the foundation brick by brick.  

11. Solution-oriented thinking. It will get you farther in life than a problem-oriented one. When you see problems everywhere, you get overwhelmed and shift into defensive mode, which is not conducive to growth or productivity, but when you see solutions everywhere, you are thinking out of the box and opening yourself up to creativity, opportunity and possibility.

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If you don’t consider having clear goals as important, just think of it this way. If your visionboard for the future is blank, how do you expect the universe to weave your future in your favor? If it has nothing to work on, you’ll just keep attracting whatever resonates with your mindset (including scarcity mindset, the universe doesn’t discriminate), and you’ll simply “go with the flow” of chaotic events thrown in your path, wondering why you’re directionless.

Instead, opt for mindfully, intentionally choosing the life you wish to lead, and then acting upon it. Writing down yearly goals, setting up an online visionboard, whatever way you choose to get clear on your vision for your future - essentially, these are all creating a mental blueprint for your mind to follow. When you’re feeding your mind images of luxury and relaxation and joy on a daily basis, you are hardwiring your brain to focus on those things, to resonate on that level, you’ll be naturally attracted to all the events, people, synchronicities which can make that sort of life happen. Everything connects beautifully.

Babes, never underestimate the power of transforming your life by simply honoring your true calling. When you honor it, everything just falls into place. Art, writing, photography, music, webdesign, marketing, the list is infinite, whatever your calling is get out there and start showing up into the world with your gifts. You were born with them for a reason! That is your higher purpose, your soul path. That’s the key to your happiness, to inner peace, to finding financial freedom. It’s all hidden in your calling.

I’m so thankful every day for having given myself a chance. I’m so grateful for having come so far, for being brave enough to step out of my comfort zone. For doing things I never thought I could, and yet proving time and time again that I can accomplish anything I make up my mind for.

The same is true for you, darlings. You never know what you’re made of and how strong you are until you actually get out of your own way, step out of your comfort zone, and start challenging your limitations. That’s how true growth begins: by giving yourself a shot, and betting on your own success.

How are you guys enjoying the business tips so far? If there are particular topics you’d like to hear more about just drop me an ask. 😘 I’m happy to share more of my experience in that area.

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