Recommendations of anime that don't have the typical manipulative or jerk male prota that want the girl prota, that treats her bad, but then when he realize she is a person too just bc he sees her in makeup and a dress, then and only then he decides to be nice, and act not like a piece of crap. I'm tired of receiving recommendations of "confort anime" that is basically "I can fix him/she is not like other girls/he is nice deep down and ignore he is manipulate ".
Fucking please drop animes that are not dark, the dude don't owns the girl or something like that, romantic but not toxic, dont make fat shaming and don't have the "imperial japan was cool"/"the upper class is good"/the royals are Like Us Too (tm) stuff. Not for me, but for the person that keep seen this shits even when harms her.
U know what, drop a show even if is not an anime.
Bonus points if the girl/women is small.
I know this is like an impossible task, but for fucks sake there most be something out there that is a rom com (or the like) but is not misogynistic and with hetero cis couples (don't look me like that, is the only type of animes/TV shows this person watches, don't want to see other types or with queer couples which breaks my heart bc I'm queer).
For reference to establish what I need: no things like spyxfamily, naruto, one piece, death note, inuyasha, paradise kiss, the apothecary diaries, the magus apprentice, violet evergarden, or that anime with the magic gigantic cat and his owner that is thin af but is constantly called fat in the show.