I don’t usually have feelings so when I have them they’re overwhelming

6 Questions to ask when you’re making a tough decision

1. What option would I choose if I knew I would definitely succeed?

2. What would I do if I didn’t feel scared?

3. Who can I talk to who’s been in my shoes?

4. What are the likely outcomes of each choice and decision?

5. What is the worst thing that could happen; what is the best thing that could happen?

6. Am I making this decision for myself, or am I choosing to please other people?

Recovery is not about never being sad again or never relapsing again or never struggling again.

Recovery is a mindset. Recovery is changing the way you think so that when you feel sad or relapse or begin to struggle again, you know how to cope with it.

So when we talk about recovery, we’re not talking about being fixed , we’re talking about modifying the way we process our thoughts and ‘failures’ in a healthier way. This way when we have bad periods they don’t consume us.

Recovery is a mindset.

“Everyone You’ve Loved,” 18 x 24" circa 2012

it’s 3am and i swear i loved you

“Mental illness is not an excuse to—“ WE KNOW. WE ALL KNOW. WE 👏🏻 ALL 👏🏻 ALREADY 👏🏻 KNOW 👏🏻 I have never ONCE in my life met an abuser or a shitty person who EVER blamed a mental illness for their actions. But you know who I HAVE met?! A TON of shitty people and abusers who REFUSE to acknowledge that they HAVE mental illnesses and instead blame their victims’ mental illnesses or conditions or use them as an excuse to abuse them!!! “Oh you have bpd so you know you’re hard to deal with” “well you’re autistic its hard to be your parent” “everyone knows students with ADHD are a nightmare” “I can’t help myself when you’re in one of your episodes” “do you even remember that right?” “You’re so over dramatic and you make things up because of x disorder” “you’re always imagining things” “no, you’re not remembering that right, you’re crazy” “stop acting like a fucking child, of course you are, it’s because you have x” why don’t we ever acknowledge that!