Is it normal for a Borderline to sleep around alot? I'm 22 and I've slept with about 50 people? I hate myself for it, But I have to joke about it all the time. I don't like sleeping with men, I always feel anxious and dirty afterwards. But I can't help it. I know that sounds awful. Please don't judge me. I just want to know if anyone else does this, And how to stop? Please.
That would fall under the “risky behaviors.” I would also maybe say impulsivity. To quote an answer to a similar question:“There is nothing wrong with being promiscuous. Although! If it is making you feel bad, then behaviors that make you feel bad aren’t great. I just want to make clear that being promiscuous isn’t what’s bad. If eating peanut butter made me feel bad, I shouldn’t eat peanut butter, but that doesn’t make peanut butter a bad thing. Does that make sense? Likewise, I don’t want to give you advice on how to stop sleeping around and someone take it as “sleeping around is a bad thing” when it’s not.
I think it’s worth figuring out exactly why you want to have sex. Is it to be adventurous? For intimacy?”
If you find out why you are doing it, it will make it easier to stop or replace it with something else (Adventurous? Maybe take up hiking. Intimacy? try to be closer with those around you. Etc.)
Don’t worry though. You aren’t alone at all. This is quite common in the bpd community
-Kelsi
