i genuinely don't know how to explain to you guys that "if they knew wilbur was shitty because wilbur was shitty to them too and didn't mention it earlier they're complicit" is literally just victim blaming. like. i'm sorry. i don't know what to tell you
i know i said i was stepping back but i'm just repulsed at a lot of shit i've been seeing here. a lot of victim blaming rhetoric and a lot of cryptoterf "assume all men = evil" shit. it's actually fucking repulsive and i've been trying to be civil and not cause fights because i didn't want to distract from shelby but it's getting fucking nasty and i'm real fucking sick of seeing it
you can call out abusers and criticize fandom misogyny without regurgitating radfem talking points and victim blaming rhetoric. it's literally not that fucking hard. i see shit like "question male ccs" specifically, as if women can't be complicit in abuse (even though minx is still running around with no consequences for doing just that). i see shit like "if someone is mistreating you you should be open about it otherwise you're complicit when other people get hurt".
and i'm sick of tolerating this shit, i'm just straight up blocking you if i see it. it's not welcome here.
also
this isn't putting words in shelby's mouth. she doesn't like this shit. knock it off