I’m gonna spell this out: if you’re trying to be “trans inclusive” when describing your sexual orientation and you reduce people to their genitals by saying stuff like “I’m attracted to people with vulvas”, you’re being transphobic, objectifying, fetishizing, and disgusting. (And transmisogynist...

Going to be absolutely honest. I used to say I would date anyone so long as they didn't have a cock. Almost entirely because of past trauma, but it (thankfully) didn't take me long to realize that I was reducing people down to their genitals (something I fucking hate when done to me) and I was also assuming that I /had/ to have penetrative sex with these people with me on the receiving end if we ever did date, again due to past trauma.

Since then I have realized that I give zero shits about genitals. Zero. None. At least genitals that aren't mine but my dysphoria is usually manageable. But yeah. I realized what a shitty human being I was being and I changed. Because if I decide to date someone, it's going to be because they are a gigantic nerd that I feel a connection to, /not/ because their junk happens to fit inside a narrow-minded checklist I've made for myself.

As an Ace, pretty much all junk looks really super unappealing to me anyways (at least sexually) but that's totally unrelated. Kissing looks super gross too, for a sense of scale on how much it's really not what it is so much as what you do with it.

But yeah if this is how you think and you're not willing to change kindly get the fuck off my blog :D