Credo by Neil Gaiman.

Oh I’m LOVING this flag

Um I want to buy one to replace the current rainbow flag in my room

needed this

I want one so bad. A huge, obnoxious one to cover a whole wall

Reblog to make a white gay big mad

ok, I'm getting tired of explaining this...

THIS

is the INTERSEX flag. Got it? Intersex; It’s not a gender.

It is not the bigender flag.

It is not the bigender flag.

It is NOT the bigender flag.

I’m getting sick and tired of clueless dyadics using stealing our flag and erasing intersex people.

There’s also a few flags that are confused - for some reason - for the intersex flag:

This is the OII flag, and Australian intersex organization/group. Yes, it’s cool that this Intersex group has created their own flag, but it’s not the universal intersex flag.

…Oh, and for some reason, this flag

keeps being used (by dyadics) thinking that it’s the intersex flag. IT’S NOT. It’s “official” name is the Herm********* Flag. Yeaaah, no. Let’s not use this flag, EVER. It’s actually pretty disgusting.

If you’re going to include intersex people in your flag posts, which you fucking should, please at least know what’s the real intersex flag before you go around claiming you’re some kind of ~ally~ or thinking that you are doing us a favour. You’re really not. 

~Mod A

Update: Please don’t just like this, REBLOG it and spread it around. Lookin’ at you, dyadics. ~Mod A

hey so it’s march now aka the beginning of endometriosis awareness month and i feel obligated to remind you that debilitatingly painful periods are not normal. if you or someone you know is ending up sick or bedridden every month, you are not crazy and deserve medical attention from someone who will take you seriously

hey it’s march again let’s get this post circulating again

As someone who gets cramps so bad I can’t walk and was told that this was normal, please spread awareness about this. It’s not normal at all, and you’re not crazy or weak or anything people would have you believe. Your body is an asshole and there is a doctor somewhere that will listen and help.

Platonic love is not a runner up to romantic love. Platonic love isn’t second place. Platonic love isn’t less real, less valid or less powerful than romantic love. Don’t let your platonic love take a back seat to romantic love.

feel free to unfollow if you:

this applies to mutuals as well. your dash should be your happy place, so no hard feelings and i wish you the best in life

I’m adding here that I don’t actually check my followers list ever - I only ever check the number if I’ve had a rash of new follows - so if you’ve got any anxiety about offending me, don’t worry, because I literally won’t see. Your dash is your safe and happy spot, and if my content doesn’t jive with what you want to see…that’s fine with me.

Reblog if your blog is safe for people of all genders and sexualities

All aces and aros are valid members of the LGBTQIA+ community!! Every single one!!

Like holy shit. Tonight I’ve seen a bunch of shit (in the ace and aro tag!!!) about how aces and aros are “cishets trying to invade the community.” No, we’re nonstraight people looking to join the nonstraight community because we’re not straight. If you’re not a heterosexual heteroromantic, you’re automatically not straight.

And guess what???? There are trans aces and aros! There are aces and aros who are attracted to the same gender, or more than one gender!!! But to force members of the ace and aro communities to defend themselves by proving they’re “gay enough” or “trans enough” to be allowed in the LGBTQIA+ community is horrible!!

We’re not trying to shout over the rest of the community. Our voices do not take away from anyone else’s. I see a lot of shit about how we’re “trying to silence the real queer community” and how we’re “straight people looking to be oppressed lol.” But just because I’ve broken my arm doesn’t mean your shattered spine is any less life threatening, or that my need for a hospital is any less valid than yours. Suffering is not a contest, and people with broken arms shouldn’t need to protest that they have fractured ribs as well just to get in the hospital doors.

We are not saying your issues are not valid. But your issues being valid do not make our own any less so.

Two four six eight, I’m not fucking straight.

you’re still trans if you respond to your birth name

you’re still trans if you sometimes slip up your own pronouns

you’re still trans if you dont correct people who misgender you, because you’re scared or you just can’t be bothered 

you’re still trans if you haven’t felt ‘trapped in the wrong body’ since childhood

you’re still trans if you only started questioning after discovering the internet

you’re still trans if you dream of yourself with your birth name

you’re still trans if getting misgendered doesn’t feel like a stab in the gut because it happens so often that you’re used to it

you’re still trans if you’ve changed your name and pronouns 5000 times

you’re still trans if you don’t want to transition and you’re happy the way you are

Possessiveness 101

Totally cool: “Hey, do you want to be exclusive?”

Red flag: “No one but me is allowed to touch you.”

Totally cool: “It makes me feel weird when you flirt with other people, can we talk about that?”

Red flag: “If you loved me, you would stop being friends with them. You KNOW it makes me jealous.”

Totally cool: “I hope we’re together forever. I’m so in this for the long haul.”

Red flag: “If you ever left me, I would kill myself.”

Totally cool: “Your mom is really unkind to me, can we try to minimize how often you bring me when you visit her?”

Red flag: “Your mom hates me, you need to stop talking to her. She’s trying to ruin our relationship.”

Totally cool: “I love you so much, oh my god.”

Red flag: “It’s a good thing I love you so much, because no one else would. You’d be alone forever without me.”

Other important red flags to keep in mind: someone who wants to jump into emotional/financial co-dependence very fast (like moving in together right away, or becoming each other’s only confidantes right away) and won’t take no for an answer; someone who tries to minimize how often you leave the house or interact with other people; someone who threatens you or themselves or your family or pets or possessions or financial future; someone who uses guilt to keep you from leaving a relationship.

Very important reminder: You do not need a reason to leave a relationship. Neither does the other person (or people). A relationship is over when one of the people in it says it’s over, period. Obviously it’s kind to take the end of a long relationship seriously, but abusers and manipulators have lost the right to that conversation. Lie if you need to–your safety is much more important than their feelings.

Trust your instincts!

I will reblog this forever

This is so true and more people need to realise this

Just a little PSA

I know this can be kind of a hot-button topic with Tumblr artists especially so I just want to clarify

You absolutely ARE allowed to reblog my art and tag it as “me”. “kin”, “kinfeels”, etc. 

I understand that tagging things as kin or kinfeels does not necessarily mean you feel you are that specific individual thing, but rather that that thing resonates with you. A monsterkin person reblogging Zeph and tagging him kin is no different than a wolfkin person reblogging a photo of a wolf and tagging that as kin. 

Basically, as long as you’re not trying to use my art/characters as your own characters/personas, I don’t really mind. 

Be yourself :)

This goes for me as well!

Can I just say, uh, I’m pretty sure noticing you’re asexual is harder than noticing you’re gay, straight, pan or otherwise. Like, I just read someone’s desciption of hitting puberty and, like, there’s nothing like that. There’s no sudden ‘boob’ moment, no sudden ‘fuck, I’d fuck that’ moment, not sudden anything. You just, like, plod on through life as usual going ‘oooh, that’s pretty, I’d like that hair’ or ‘oooooh, they’re nice, I’d like to be close to them’ but there’s no like, ‘oh, someone would want to fuck that but I don’t’, you know? You just- you don’t notice, you don’t realise everyone else has ‘had a moment’ but you haven’t, you just- keep going as you always have.

And then, much much later, you start to wonder why people are getting so caught up in drama for romance or sex, like, why bother? It’s not worth it, they’re not worth it, why are you doing stupid things for something that’s so- and then you wonder if there’s something wrong with you, start mentally over compensating. Like ‘uh, okay, um, who should I date? Who can I stand to date? Who could I stand to fuck?’ like- it’s not, it’s not something you want, but you want to fit in, to be normal.

Sometimes you don’t even know that you’re doing it.

Sometimes you don’t even know asexual’s a thing.

I dunno, I guess, I just feel like, uh, people should understand more?

idk sorry thank you for listening to me

Thank you for perfectly describing it.

It’s way more difficult to notice the absence of something, especially when you’ve never had it in the first place??

It’s like being born without a nose and then being expected to understand what things smell like because everyone ELSE has a nose.

What really did it for me was understanding that allosexual people literally have an attraction to people. I sort of just existed and didn’t really think about (from about 18-24 saying well ‘maybe I’m ace’) literally until last year when I realized that allos don’t just vaguely think maybe they like that person’s shape or hair or eyes, they look at someone and go “damn son”

I love seeing those posts where people are like “if you have headmates or whatever you should be on meds because that’s not okay” posts. Like neurotypicals just think that there’s some magical pill out there that will ‘cure’ anything they don’t consider ‘normal.’ Meanwhile, in the land of reality, my shrink thinks it’s pretty healthy that I’m finally getting to know my headmates, and has no intention of putting me on magic pills, because as long as I’m not hurting myself or anyone else, who cares what neurotypicals think is ‘normal?’ Actually, let’s be real: who cares what neurotypicals think at all?

It is not a magic pill, it is called “Therapy” and you can even do it in groups!

i… literally mention my therapist… right there… in the original post…

did you not actually read this… do you honestly believe telling someone who has already admitted to being in therapy… to go to therapy… is a “gotcha” moment???

Okay, so there’s a relevant quote from Slatestar Codex here. (The link is to the source; attribution is a Thing.)

It is not a therapist’s job to make you normal. It is a therapist’s job to give you your life back, on whatever terms are acceptable to you. And if your therapist can’t do that, you need to find a new therapist.

For some people, having headmates and/or alters is a debilitating condition. They’re losing large amounts of time, having trouble going to work and/or school, or hurting themselves or other people. In that case, they probably do need help, but I think most people who are getting fucked up by their headmates that badly are willing to seek out help on their own anyway.

Other people who have headmates and/or alters find it to be a neutral thing, or even a positive thing. 

Have you ever been in a roommate situation where different people do different chores, because, (say) Kate loves to do the dishes, but can’t stand to vaccuum, and Toby’s the exact opposite? If Kate and Toby are headmates, they can wind up doing the same kind of thing. Headmates can also comfort you when you’re sad, remind you that your depressive or intrusive thoughts are not true, or help you deal with difficult people. 

So, if you’re in that kind of situation, where your headmates are helping you to be more functional than you’d otherwise be? A good therapist is going to treat it like the hair dryer on the front seat of your car. 

Sure, it is a Weird Thing. It makes you look a bit eccentric, and it’s not normal. But if having headmates keeps you from having repeated nervous breakdowns, helps you hold down your job, or makes it so that you can deal with your abusers? Then it’s a win, and a good therapist won’t try to ‘fix’ that. 

It is not a therapist’s job to make you normal. It is a therapist’s job to give you your life back, on whatever terms are acceptable to you.

this applies to so many mental things, too. i love my therapist because she helps me invent my own normal. my normal used to be… really unhealthy and dangerous. now it’s not.

Reblog if you support romantic same sex relationship themes and gay characters in childrens entertainment!

A series for an assignment on social issues. I chose to focus on blackface in fashion and the double standards of beauty women of colour face.