Anonymous asked:

so if somebody has a severe anxiety disorder or mental disability that makes uncomfortable with children, we aren't allowed to vent about it? even if there are no children around? like ok i really don't like kids, i'll be nice to them and everything but my anxiety skyrockets around them and i feel SO sensory overloaded. i would never say to them that i don't like being around them, but the truth is that i don't, and i can't help it.

There is a difference between having anxiety or another mental disability, and just saying that you hate children because they happen to be under a certain age limit. Vent all you need to, and I’m sorry your anxiety causes you to feel so uncomfortable around children, but don’t you dare do it in the earshot of children.

Basically having an anxiety disorder =/= spewing hatred of children.

I’m not saying people can’t dislike children, or can’t not want to have any. I’m saying don’t be so frivolent with your words when it comes to them. They are vulnerable and hearing that kind of shit is damaging.

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shadderstag-old reblogged

kiango

please watch your language when you talk about children. they are not animals, they are not natural disasters, they are not evil little monsters, they’re just tiny people who are 100% dependent on the adults in their lives and i find it disturbing that people think it’s hilarious and cute to talk about how much they hate them

shadderstag-old

As someone who grew up around people who constantly talked about how much they hated children despite having children, this really, really, really bothers me. Whenever the topic of children comes up my friends immediately do the same. They hate children. Children are such a burden. Children are too much responsibility. Children are a problem.

If this is the prevailing attitude toward our species' future members, it's no wonder so many kids grow up hating themselves, and other children.

It's all they hear.

What really gets me are the people who say they hate kids, except for examples x, y, and z, all of which are kids they personally know and have interacted with. Gee, you /think/ that might have something to do with actually /knowing/ them?

That's like saying you hate all of the people you pass by in a day, except for the few friends you meet up with.

Stop judging children based on media. Stop judging them based on the screaming ones in public who have shitty parents that either ignore their kids needs or are flat out abusive, emotionally or physically. Stop judging kids for being cruel when they don't know any better and are just a victim to their upbringing.

Stop. Fucking. Blaming. Children. They are innocent and precious and the future of this world lies in their hands.

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shadderstag-old

30 Day Trans Challenge

20) Do you want to be a parent? Why or why not?

I want to be a dad so badly that sometimes it physically pains me to know it's not happening any time in the near (or probably far) future. I love kids. I've always loved kids. Kids have always taken a shining to me.

One thing that's been consistent throughout all my relationships has been the desire for children. Well, almost all my relationships. Not getting into that now though.

Needless to say, it's been something I've thought about for a very long time. I want to be responsible for another human being. I want to be responsible raising them, and teaching them the ways of the world, and encouraging them in whatever they wanted to do, and not forcing them into any labels or boxes they didn't want to fit in, and teaching them the things the education system and society sorely lack.

I want to be a good role model. I want to know that my kid looks up to me, and see someone who they can love and learn from. I want them to be able to tell me any secret. I want to be able to quell any fears they might have.

I don't want kids, I just want one. One kid to focus on and raise as my own.

I want to make bad dad jokes. I want to encourage my kid to pursue all their dreams, the sky's the limit.

And yeah, I want to change diapers and wake up to screaming in the middle of the night, every night, to hold my kid and rock them back to sleep, and I want to clean up the messes they make when they get into something they shouldn't have, and I want to take pictures of the drawings on the walls they make to immortalize them before washing them, and I want to go shopping with my kid and let them pick out their own clothes and toys while being mindful of price and spoiling them.

I just.

I want to be a dad.

So.

Bad.

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