6. Two OCs of yours that look alike despite not being related?

Uhhhh, none of them, I don’t think? I’m pretty damn good at making my characters different ages, ethnicities, genders, body types, skin tones, eye colors, hair color and styles…. Hm maybe I should do a headshot collection to compare one of these days…. but no I can’t think of any two that look similar enough to be confused for one another or as related, sorry!

12. Name an OC that isn’t yours but who you like a lot.

spartadog‘s Ian, definitely. He is probably the closest thing I have to a character crush. I love him so fucking much and it kills me that he’s not a canon character so that other people would grow to love him as much as I do. Like, physically pains me ;_;

17. Any OC OTPs?

I’m a multishipper, and very few of my OCs are paired with others of my own OCs. Though I guess Rebecca and Ashley are up there for cutest couple award (even if they don’t stay together forever; they’re teenagers, give ‘em a break), and Sherri and Maurice White are my favorite married couple. Beyond that, my Ángel and spartadog‘s Milo, my Derrek and spartadog‘s Matt and the slightly crackship that might turn canon that is my Tommy (real name Ali) and spartadog‘s Ian. I’m also a huge fan of poly relationships and all the struggles that go along with them, which is why Ian/Dick/Jason is my OT3 forever despite Jason and Dick belonging to DC eheh

33. Your shyest OC?

Probably Tarik, my Arab-analog Pokemon OC. He’s genderqueer, demisexual, a Sikh-analog, and doesn’t much like conflict (despite being pretty awesome at gatka). He doesn’t know what to do when people flirt with him, and while he’s friendly he’s not likely to initiate conversation. He prefers the company of his Pokemon and his garden.

I’m poly, Sparta doesn’t know what he is, but at the moment we’re not currently looking

Nooooo I tell people straight up if they ever annoy me, and it’s not them I generally find annoying, but rather a particular topic of discussion, which I will ask to be changed. And if it’s ‘cause I never initiate conversations well. That’s because I have terrible horrible anxiety and pretty much think that I’m not worth anybody’s time so why bother :’D I have a whole list of people on Skype that I never initiate conversations with except for people I’ve known for upwards of three or four or more years because at that point I know they’ll stick around despite all my issues. But if you ever initiate conversation with me, I usually will answer. And if I don’t, it’s not anything to do with you, and everything to do with me not having a good mental health day and having my socialization battery drained dead.

Aw, I’d never ask you to say it to my face if you weren't comfortable with it Anon

My boyfriend is amazing and loves me despite my disorder. I just have a lot of days where I feel he deserves better. Stinking thinking as they say in Al-Anon, but I’m slowly learning to overcome it. We’ve got a year under our belt together, and closer to three as friends. We communicate openly and honestly and there’s no secrets between us. It’s the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had and I’m thankful every day that I have him in my life at all.

Considering most of my friends are from America, which is a shitty country to live in, and talk about wanting to escape all the time, I don’t think it’s ridiculous at all. Some places are a lot less tolerant of anyone that doesn’t fit their societal standards. As most of those societal standards are actually unattainable, it makes for some rough living. Throw in some double standards and you’ve got an absolute mess.

So no, you’re not being ridiculous. Every country has its problems, and sometimes just moving to another part of it is enough to escape those problems (or the people who live there causing problems), but sometimes you need out and there’s no shame in that.

Do what you need to do to be safe and happy Anon.

There is a difference between having anxiety or another mental disability, and just saying that you hate children because they happen to be under a certain age limit. Vent all you need to, and I’m sorry your anxiety causes you to feel so uncomfortable around children, but don’t you dare do it in the earshot of children.

Basically having an anxiety disorder =/= spewing hatred of children.

I’m not saying people can’t dislike children, or can’t not want to have any. I’m saying don’t be so frivolent with your words when it comes to them. They are vulnerable and hearing that kind of shit is damaging.

I wish I could say that it was something I always knew, but it was actually a slow discovery for me. There was no one thing that made me go “that’s it, that’s what makes me trans.” It was a slow realization of several things. I grew up not even knowing what transgender meant. It wasn’t until I was almost 20 that I learned about it, and at the time it didn’t strike me as something that was applicable to me. But as I learned more, and did more research, I learned that a lot of my feelings and behavior as I grew up could be attributed to being trans.

It helped to realize that there’s no set traits or behaviors or even body parts that are specifically male or female. Everything is a giant spectrum and to try and label this as male and this as female is not only wrong, but impossible. Every trans person feels differently about their body, and while some have the stereotypical “no, this is wrong, all wrong” feeling that comes with being in the “wrong” body, there is no right or wrong way to feel.

My situation, personally, is that I actually see myself as a man despite the fact that my body doesn’t look like a cisman’s. It’s just society that makes me doubt myself, and how other people see me. I can be shirtless and flex in the mirror and my chest doesn’t bother me in the least. But as soon as I walk out the door and have to deal with being misgendered and objectified due to my chest, then the dysphoria hits and I want nothing more than to get surgery.

What helped both me and my boyfriend come to terms with our transliness (is that a word? Well it is now) was to look up Youtube videos about the “Not Trans Enough Project”. I suggest you give a look Anon, and I hope you figure yourself out! I know it can be a terrifying process, but you’ll find happiness once you know for sure either way.

Also, don’t forget to look up other genders, like genderfluid, agender, androgynous, genderqueer, and so on. You never know which might be a good fit!