People trying to pathologize like eating sweets and jerking off is wild. "I stopped doing this thing that feels good and I want more now ?? So this is an addiction and I have to keep avoiding it until the craving goes away" no you just want to enjoy things because you're a human being. Chocolate and porn and whatever aren't, like. Meth. It won't kill you to feel good. You don't have to be a medieval monk

Like yes it's possible to have an unhealthy relationship with whatever gives you the easiest dopamine hit but the thing is that that's more symptomatic of, like. Being depressed. Than pleasure itself being evil and bad for you

If you feel like you're overindulging in 1 thing, the solution is to fill your life with a variety of indulgences, not live in deprivation.

If you feel like you're overindulging in 1 thing, the solution is to fill your life with a variety of indulgences, not live in deprivation.

While separating relationships into strictly sexual, platonic, or romantic or some combination of those is fine for understanding the aromantic and asexual spectrum at a basic level, we must eventually understand that some relationships will never fit into these categories and often queer relationships are more complex than that, and our definition of queer relationships must include abstract relationships.

official relationship anarchy post

"Only what you allow to affect you can affect you" may be true for various minor annoyances - but when it comes to big things like trauma, abuse and mental illness, you cannot just "choose to rise above it" and no one should expect you to be able to do so.