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I used to get angry at some feminists for saying this, but I have also come to the difficult conclusion that a lot of women really do enjoy men being awful to them. If you browse fanfic websites like Ao3, you’ll see thousands of rape fantasies written by women, enjoyed by women. In the past when I attempted to criticize this, they responded by telling me I’m ruining their fun. That really says it all. That is what they consider fun.

I think women realized it’s easier to jerk off to their pain for momentary pleasure than take the long, difficult process of recovery and healing

Everytime I see a rape filled booktok book or ao3 fanfic go viral as a funny weird thing to laugh at, this statistic just pops up in my head

I tried taking "the long, difficult process of recovery and healing" by talking to several therapists at different stages in my life - throughout which I continued to be sexually abused, which curiously enough also included health care professionals that I ran to for help, like the one who told me to strip naked purely so he could squeeze my tits when I was just 11 years old.

First it was a child therapist my mom was friends with who told me point blank she couldn't help me, then proceeded to tell my mom all my secrets I had just told her in confidence because I thought we had doctor patient privilege and I could trust her; then when I was a teenager it was a man who immediately told my father that my harrowing story was not as bad as he thought (?) and who never gave me any advice or provided me with any help but tried to give me medication (I refused); trying free helplines made it clear they did not employ actual medically trained health care professionals of any kind, just like the people who these days work for BetterHelp; and what can I say about the therapist who spent 90% of the time talking about himself, who also never gave me any kind of wisdom or insight or, dare I say, therapy, but who did helpfully suggest he could hook me up with (and I swear that this is true) a sadomasochistic dom, telling me he had done that sort of thing before for his patients. He confessed to me that he had in the past hooked up victims of sexual abuse with men who are sexual sadists and offered to provide me with the same service instead of curing me of my sexual trauma. You can read that again as many times as you like that it's not going to change or get any better.

My personal lived experience has demonstrated over and over again that there is no help to be found anywhere, but there will always be people who either will try to profit off your personal tragedy; or people only too willing to blame the victims and say that it's their own fault that they were dressed too sexily, or that a sexual kink that was inflicted on them means that they're degenerates, or that the only explanation to their problems is that they just aren't willing to "take the long, difficult process of recovery and healing".

Andrea Dworkin

Andrea Dworkin stole other women's intellectual property and passed them off as her own; and she was a "queer theorist" i.e. part of a group of subservient-to-men lesbians who helped paedophile males to gaslight society into accepting that it would be beneficial if men were allowed to rape their own children and animals.

Lmaooo. LOL even.

HoW aM I sUpPoSEd to LeArN fRoM mY miSTaKesssss

School clearly did nothing for you anyway.

Fucked around.

Found out

As we Canadians would say

Beauty!

Consequences

"You're actually going to ruin my life" No, YOU ruined YOUR life when YOU sent those messages to who-knows-how-many women.

the real kicker is he hasnt even apologized, he just said "i just apologized for it!" no you didnt.

and "how am i supposed to learn from mistakes?" via consequences. thats how everyone learns from mistakes.

There were these guys who raped and impregnated their own underage sister. Their lawyer's defence was along the lines that they were sorry and their futures should not be compromised because of such a silly mistake as raping and impregnating a child who is their sister. So the judge released them and back they went... to the same house to live once more with the same underage sister to rape her some more, because we can't just spoil the future of such promising young men, now can we?

So now when I hear a male cry about how unfair it is that he is facing the consequences of his actions, using words such as "what about my future" I immediately press the nuclear red button.

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Why Seth MacFarlane’s misogyny matters

http://www.vulture.com/2013/02/why-seth-macfarlanes-misogyny-matters.html

(via meggannn)

By Margaret Lyons

YES GOD FINALLY.

this is in france, but hopefully this’ll slowly mean fewer creepy abusive parents making their kids childhoods into Content:tm:. 

another important thing mentioned in this article:

This is an essential part of emerging tech rights, esp for young influencers and media users. Kate Eichhorn recently wrote a fantastic book abt this called The End of Forgetting: Growing Up with Social Media that explores the ways permanent records of childhood — particularly representations the children themselves may not be in control of, such as the children of mommy-bloggers or influencers used for clout — can have lasting influences on how we mature in a digital society

Most people over 20 or so have grown up on an internet with natural growth cycles; certain forums and MMORPGs die over time, and our Yahoo sites and Club Penguin accounts die with them. But the centralization of social media platforms, data monopolies compiling detailed profiles on both creators and their audiences, and the incentivizing industry of younger and younger influencers (this article mentions a 6 year old girl making $18M), will make it harder for younger generations to control their digital selves. Hopefully other countries will also realize that virtual autonomy is an important civil right, and a necessary protection for our children

To clarify: this law is specifically in France, nowhere else, but it should at the very least start shifting how we treat and more importantly how social media platforms treat “child influencers” so that they have at least a bare minimum of protection as they grow up.

What about kids who are exploited by their parents in the entertainment industry all the time, always have been? So many of Hollywood's greatest super stars in music and movies began as kids and some ended up in a bad way (as in raped by paedophiles, dead by drug overdose or writing autobiographies were they rejoice their moms are dead), while some went on to have brilliant careers. Should all minors be banned from working in Hollywood? Should movies like Harry Potter only be animated motion pictures?

One of the only things I want to push back about the Edinburgh Rape Crisis Case case, is that rape victims who request female-only workers aren't "gender critical". Women in hospitals who ask for female nurses aren't being gender critical. Elderly women who request female carers aren't being gender critical.

They're just requesting a basic, single-sex service that is apolitical and has no ideology attached to it. This used to be like an ordinary thing women and girls could ask for without question.

The problem comes when they decide trans women, who are women, don’t count as women.

This isn’t a “decision”, it’s a biological fact. Being born with a penis makes you different from biological women. And women don’t want to share these spaces with trans identified males. There’s no ifs, no buts, no asterisks to this policy. Women deserve single sex spaces without question, because it’s about protecting a population that has always been vulnerable to male violence, not about protecting the feelings of biological males.

Hot take but i think maybe part of the reason why young women are so receptive to pro-trans lobby discourse about how there’s nothing to fear about shared bathrooms between the sexes, is they don’t have kids. I have a clear memory of being a naive 10-11 years old at a restaurant, watching my mother take my little brother (6 or 7) to the women’s room. Why are you going with him and why to the ladies, i laughed, isn’t he a little old for that? My mother looks for a second as if weighing if i’m mature enough to understand what she’s about to say. Then: “you never let a little child alone in a bathroom, especially the men’s. Anything could happen.” “Well, why do i get to go alone?” “You’re older, and you go to the ladies’ room, it’s safer.” And to be clear, my mother is a pretty laid back parent. She was not being paranoid there: she was just taking a precaution i came to realise any parent would. Because you have to when it’s your kid’s safety on the line.

“Oh, a man could always enter the women’s bathroom if he really wanted to, so why bother in the first place?” Because the social stigma associated with men entering women’s spaces is its own form of protection, albeit imperfect. And you would take even that away? Only a very sheltered person, who had only themselves to think about, would be so careless.

The original 2005 NY times article. The idea being reiterated in 2018 by a federal judge in Florida regarding the Parkland shooting.

if you’re not a NYT subscriber, here’s the Wikipedia article with links to related cases: “Town of Castle Rock v. Gonzales”

basically, cops only need to protect property and serve property owners, not the people

Police Have No Duty to Protect the Public

Officers had no duty to protect students in Parkland Massacre, Judge rules

Police officers only have the duty to not kill those already in their custody, and they don’t even manage to do that.

Hmm, who would make this comment under someone talking about being sa'd? 🤔🤔

Oh. What a surprise 😕

For real, how does anyone hear about SA and just be like "not all men 🤓☝️" and "oh pwecious little baby boys, it's not you fault, it's ok 😢😢😢"

Well I know the answer, and it's because these disgusting fucks have zero sympathy for female sa victims (but will DEFINITELY do anything to clarify that men can be sa'd and claim that sa is totally 50/50 and has nothing to do with biological sex)

According to crime stats in nations like Sweden it’s closer to 60/40 (cause Sweden actually labels women assaulting men and boys as rape unlike most western nations)

Women do rape especially young boys

For example most teachers that assault students are women and their targets are boys

Stop acting like children and young men aren’t victimized by older women just because they don’t physically hold them down

Rape is still rape even if it’s forced via power or threats like we see with teachers

Of course men can be raped, even by women, how did I "act like children and young men aren't victimized by older women"? I genuinely would love to know how you came to that conclusion.

I think going on a whole tangent about not blaming men and that women rape too on a post about someone being sexually assaulted by a man is pretty fucking insensitive to the victim. It's simply not the right time and place.

Your response makes me think you care more about shutting up female victims than actually helping male victims.

Most teachers who commit rape are male, not female and by a very large margin. And this in spite of the fact that it's a female-dominated profession which really goes to show how dangerous men are across the board.

BTW, misconduct means: "Failing to maintain proper boundaries (hugging, inappropriate relationships, personal correspondence outwith normal protocols, other non-sexually motivated unusual or sinister conduct that risks harming students or others) Dishonesty. Falsifying Qualifications. Fraud – Misappropriation of Monies."

how can you feel safe in a world with prisons holy shit "there are boxes where people lock you so they can forget about you and millions of people are involved in running and building these boxes." how would you not be fucking paranoid???? wtf who came up with that idea. insane!!!!! i dont want to go in a fuckign cage wtf????? dont do that!!!!!

- “A Criminal with a Noble Face”:  Oscar Wilde’s Encounters with the Victorian Gaol by Kristian Williams

Oscar Wilde went to jail for raping children, so perhaps consider not standing up for him but rather for the victims.

In the mean time in Great Britain today most women in prison are jailed for poverty, namely for 1) not paying their TV license and 2) for opening the door.

They're disproportionately targeted for this on the basis of their sex.

Disabled mum's 'terrifying' prosecution for not paying TV licence

Sky News speaks to "Claire" who was prosecuted for not paying her TV licence at the same time she was battling to successfully gain a lifetime restraining order against her abusive partner.

The disabled single mother-of-two says the courts did not take her situation into account and was frightened of being sent to jail.

She is among 31,000 people prosecuted last year under a fast track justice system which critics argue is unnecessary.

Just as disturbingly, in jail they are guarded by mostly male prison guards who abuse them, namely sexually, and who withhold necessities from them like food and medical assistance as a form of punishment.

Oscar Wilde was sent to prison for raping underage boys and he was not as poorly treated 100 years ago in Victorian England as ordinary women of today are.

Women's prisons: Ex-prisoner gives a rare and shocking account of life inside

Former inmate Scarlett Roberts kept a diary of her time inside a women's prison. She tells Sky News that incarceration left her helpless as she watched her life "fall apart".

Her testimony comes as a new government report criticises the prison service as "unfit for purpose" for "many women".

I was looking up some statistics on juvenile detention centers when I came across this chart from the Department of Justice. It lists crime categories, and among other things, what percentage of those arrested for each crime category were female. It also only lists offenses committed by minors. I scrolled through, and noticed that in every category females accounted for less than 50% of arrests, except for one in which females were a whopping 69% of arrests. Which category, you ask? What was the singular category in which females are overrepresented?

Oh, just FUCKING PROSTITUTION.

I was so confused, at first I thought I made a mistake and was looking at adult arrests. Criminalizing and arresting prostituted people of any age is abhorrent, but I figured surely no one with a brain could justify arresting a child for being abused, right? Right?

Wrong. According to this data, in the US in 2019, nearly 300 minors were arrested for the "crime" of being sexually abused. 14% of those arrested were age 14 or younger. I then did some more research and discovered this information, provided by Shared Hope International:

As of the most recent SHI report, only 10 out of 50 US states have comprehensive safe harbor laws for sexually exploited prostituted minors. 28 out of 50 states have fully or partially comprehensive safe harbor laws. That means in 22 states, minors can still be criminalized for experiencing sexual abuse and trafficking. Not to mention the significant lack of states providing affirmative defense, which would help protect victims who harm or kill their abusers and traffickers. These laws and lack of protections are harmful to all victims of child trafficking, but especially target Black girls, who are incredibly vulnerable to childhood sex trafficking.

This information is honestly some of the most disgusting information I've ever learned. I did some more research into what can be done to help change this, this page from Shared Hope International seems like a good place to start. It helps you contact your governor, state legislators, and federal legislators in support of safe harbor laws, as well as other pieces of legislation meant to protect victims. Please, those of you in the US, take a moment out of your day and contact your representatives. Rights4girls also is doing some incredible work in this area, so check them out and maybe donate if you can. If anyone knows of any other charities that address this, especially ones outside of the US, please share them too. No child should EVER be arrested for being abused.

Typically when I tell radfems on this site that quoting from Andrea Dworkin is platforming a paedophile I simply get no response. They just continue to put her up on a pedestal as a supreme example of what a true feminist is supposed to be, this woman who was a class traitor and a handmaiden to any man who feels entitled to raping his own children and animals.

These are the screen caps that I show them as proof, btw.

If you don't care about this then you don't care about society.

Their indifference is what's convinced me of what a sham radical feminism is - perhaps what all feminism is, who knows.

After all, why would a true feminist also support men at their worst, most anti-social practices? Why would a feminist movement take such exception to the occasional trans woman inmate in prisons, but not to the habitual presence of male guards in all-female prisons? Why would a feminist movement care so much about stopping women from cultivating femininity (makeup etc) but then encourage women to cultivate masculinity? Either appearances really don't matter and both men and women can be either feminine or masculine, or radfems are lying when they say their objection is to people identifying outside of their biological sex when it's really cross-dressing that bothers them - something that in no way threatens women's sex based rights.

if you are a budding feminist, be advised that the screen cap bellow was the reply I got from a tumblr blog when I criticized JK Rowling for quoting from Dworkin. To reiterate, this has been my experience, whenever I have told a fellow feminist that Dworkin was an apologist for the rape of children and animals. It's never "I didn't know that, that is shocking and awful, I won't quote from her in the future". Rather you either get total silence or this:

And just for the record...

1 - Notice how this person took my criticism of another individual to heart as if I were accusing her. That's because she identifies with Dworkin. She supports Dworkin and her rapist ideology, that's why she was offended. It's because she doesn't reject her ideas, she embraces them.

2 - What I said was backed up by evidence and she's just embarrassed that it's impossible to defend rapist ideology without giving away that one is a rapist, hence her evasions and obfuscations.

3 - And finally, where is the evidence that great writers were also dicks? Remember the Christopher Hitchens razor: a statement offered without proof can be dismissed just as flippantly. I presented proof that Dworkin is a class traitor and a paedo.

There is no evidence that Dickens or Nabokov were either rapists or supporters of rape in their published work. Lolita was an entirely fictional novel, not an ideological manifesto in favour of paedophilia, as anyone who has actually read the novel would know. How does reading novels make me an anti-intellectual? Or indeed challenging women like Dworkin who deserve to be exposed as the frauds that they were?

Not that Dickens or Nabokov are relevant in a feminist discussion and there was never any point in bringing them up except to muddy the waters and obfuscate some more. They were men after all and from my observation men are hardly ever egalitarians. But as I have previously pointed out, women are hardly ever feminists either and women who claim to be feminists are just more proof of this, not the exception.

Let me put it like this: if you were writing a fictional novel with feminist characters in it, would the feminists in your novel support male rapists and then chide the women who criticize apologists of sexual abuse? Of course not. But if you explained your reason is that it's just not realistic to describe a feminist as someone who would ever defend rape... then I'd say read again this entire post and see for yourself that IRL even the concept of men raping their own children or animals doesn't faze them. They protect the men and chide the women, like the good little handmaidens that they are.

Don't bother joining feminist groups or interacting with them. There is nothing to look forward to but more of this forever. Feminism is just another sewing circle for women to gather around and chit chat, no more or less so than skin care channels or, indeed why not, sewing circles. You might as well go for the later. There's bound to be less hypocrisy there and you might make yourself a sweater.

They made the decision to abuse you. None of it is your fault. It doesn’t matter what you did. There is nothing you could have done to deserve it. It’s their fault. Not yours. I promise.

I never thought I'd see the day when JK Rowling would quote from Dworkin.

Andrea Dworkin was a class traitor who stole ideas from other women without giving them credit; and a queer theorist who in her published work advocated on behalf of men who feel entitled to rape animals and their own underage children.

She was a total fucking monster and the only good thing about her is that at least she's dead. And this is the "person" that JK Rowling quotes from, as if there weren't quite enough real feminists in the history of feminism that she could look up to.

rape being used as a weapon of war is so heart wrenching. it was used during the partition of india, the french used it in algeria, serbians used it against bosnian women, it’s being used right now in syria and what’s so heart breaking is the fact that women choose to commit suicide because of the possibility of being raped. humanity never learns, we really have failed.

i read a case study of a french soldier raping an algerian woman, he said [to his victim] “we can tell your filthy husband what we got up to when we find him”. she asked to be killed before they found her husband. in bosnia, serbian men raped women systematically so that the child would have “serbian blood”, ‘to weaken bosnian men’. during the partition women were raped in revenge attacks or deliberately raped because they [both hindus and muslims] knew how important ‘honour’ was to the other party, hence if their daughter was raped by ‘the other’ they would end up abandoning her or killing her. so this is why it’s so hard to see it happening again in syria because of the pain it has caused in the past for women.

I’m really tired of MRA’s bringing up war as a reason men are more victimized than women and have it harder than women, they really believe only men see and experience the horrors of war while all women are safely and comfortably tucked far away from war zones. In most wars civilians make up a large chunk of the casualties, often even the majority of casualties, and mass rape / torture of civilians as a terrorizing tactic has always been a major component of most if not all wars.

I’m reading Svetlana Alexievich’s “The unwomanly face of war”, and so far none of the women she talked to –women who served in the Soviet army during WWII– says anything about rape, though they tell other horrible, unimaginable things. But one man tells this: “We advance… The first German villages… We’re young. Strong. Four years without women. There’s wine in the cellars. Food. We’d catch German girls and… Ten men violated one girl… There weren’t enough women, the population fled before the Soviet army, we found very young ones. Twelve or thirteen years old… If she cried, we’d beat her, stuff something into her mouth. It was painful for her, but funny for us. Now I don’t understand how I could… A boy from a cultivated family… But I did it… The only thing we were afraid of was that our own girls would find out about it. Our nurses. We were ashamed before them…”

A female soldier tells her this: “The Germans didn’t take women soldiers prisoner… They shot them at once. Or led them before their lined-up soldiers and showed them off: look, they’re not women, they’re monsters. We always kept two bullets for ourselves, two –in case one misfired. One of our nurses was captured… A day later we took back that village. There were dead horses lying about, motorcycles, armored vehicles. We found her: eyes put out, breasts cut off. They had impaled her on a stake… It was freezing cold, and she was white as could be, and her hair was all grey… She was nineteen years old. In her knapsack we found letters from home and a green rubber bird. A child’s toy…”

I don’t know if in WWII rape was used deliberately as a weapon of war, or was just a consequence of misogyny and desensitisation to violence combined. Still, this illustrates what women are subjected to in war. War is hell, but especially for women.

@discourse-ting I’m sorry I’m so rusty at tumbling😭 loved ur notes

”The violent break-up of Yugoslavia, which was preceded by economic collapse, began in 1991. It was the same year that the government decided to permit hardcore sex films to be broadcast on public radio stations and that the first locally-made pornographic film was produced.  While the old Communist Yugoslavia did not censor love scenes in its state-run film industry, it condemned pornography as the exploitation of women and banned its production.

The first graphic pictures of mutilated and dead from war hit the airwaves at the same time Yugoslavs were [legally] allowed to watch porno films. The war was, like the sex films, about the lifting of taboos, about new forms of entertainment to mask the economic and political collapse of Yugoslavia.

In Belgrade, at the war’s height, there were seventy escort services, three adult cinemas, and twenty pornographic magazines in circulation. After midnight the public television channels ran hardcore porno films.  War turned Belgrade into Caligula’s Rome. There was a moral lassitude in the air, bred of hopelessness and apathy.

War breaks down long-established prohibitions against violence, destruction, and murder. And with his often comes the crumbling of sexual, social, and political norms as the brutality of the battlefield is carried into personal life. Rape, mutilation, abuse, and theft are the natural outcome of a world in which force rules.

The wars in the Balkans saw the rise of rape camps, places where women were kept under guard and repeatedly abused by paramilitary forces. When this became boring—for perverse sex, like killing, must constantly entail the new and bizarre—the women were mutilated and killed on video.”

(From War is a Force That Gives Us Meaning by Chris Hedges)

Russian veteran of WWII describes Russian soldiers raping underage girls.

Lol the author who wrote the “apocalypse where trans women must eat testicles to survive and also the evil TERFs run around killing trans people but also sometimes having affairs with them” book is mad about Dworkin.

Violence is helping with a book this dude dislikes.

In that case - I dislike “Manhunt” and it has done me a violence.

Andrea Dworkin was a class traitor who stole other women's ideas and passed them off as her own, and a queer theorist who in her published work advocated for the idea that men raping their own children and animals made society a better place. The only good thing about her is that at least she's dead.