#s47e169 #1628PDT i’m getting better at boundaries and i’ve learned that it’s simply practice, which, you know, go figure that just means expressing them in small ways over small things with small connections — acquaintances, or people i’ve just met — so that the movement flows when i face a more intimate boundary violation, and i’m reflexively protecting myself instead of reflexively betraying myself. telling some random gamer in the voice chat who just called an opponent a whore that i’m not okay with whorephobia invites him to consider who he’s hurting, but more importantly, it lets my body feel the ordinary rightness of voicing her pain over whorephobia in her group in the moment, prioritizing that over some idea of “the team” that, with open whorephobia, does not include her, and in fact punishes her for being around when someone calls the group “boys” and i speak up to remind them that’s not the group makeup, it’s practice at saying that to a group, practice at feeling paths out of the pain of that moment, and then taking them, instead of believing they’re not for me because i’ve been terrorized out of even thinking about them practice at understanding: people who need me to be silent about what hurts me only get better at hurting me when i comply and while i keep silent about what hurts me to satisfy the people around me, the people around me will continue to expect and demand my silence in the face of their abuse and i’ll get better at that, like i have for most of my life everything is practice 🐝 #autistic #adhd #intersex #transgender #BIPOC #csasurvival #mytransreality (at Occupied Duwamish Territory) https://www.instagram.com/p/CUXQ2LxFlo7PbIhD1CRpTIDTUQkCRP5fD4Zk-00/?utm_medium=tumblr
