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Wondering now if all of the emphasis I put on queerplatonic intimacy in my works (i.e. kissing, holding hands, cuddling, sharing clothing, sharing a bed, etc. in nonromantic and nonsexual relationships) is influenced not only by my aspec identity but by the apparent NVLD deficit in understanding society’s typical definition of “personal space”
People should hc characters as being in a QPR more often actually
I have no idea why but the last four months or so in the year always bring back all my feels about all of my bromances in all of my fandoms and my heart gets so full and warm <3
Um, I just thought of another question, I'm sorry. Is it possible to maintain a romantic relationship and a QPR simultaneously? Or is that almost like cheating? I know it's not a romance but you said the gray area between and I don't know where the lines are. Can you have more than one QPR? I know this is a lot, you can ignore me if you want.
Yes, you can have a romance and a QPR at the same time ^^ As always, communication in a relationship is the healthiest thing for both! There are shades of gray that keep it from becoming black. There would be things a person would only be interested in doing with their romance partner that they wouldn’t with their QPR. It’s not like cheating because you’re not in a romantic relationship with those two people. You’ve had communication with both people and sussed out boundary lines. And yes, you can have more than one QPR!
Oooh ok! Thank you so much for answering, this is really cool!
No problem! I’m happy to help!
Oh I'm sorry, I didn't realize how intense that sounded! I'm just wondering what a QPR/ queerplatonic relationship is? I understand that its a very strong platonic bond, but what is the difference between that and a strong friendship/parent-child like(Chase and JJ)/sibling like relationship? Or are they QPRs as well? I'm sorry if I come off as rude, I'm not trying to be! I'm just trying to learn, I swear.
That’s not rude, it’s cool of you to ask! A queerplatonic relationship is a relationship between strong friendship and romantic -- it tends to break norms of society thinks friendships “should be” or “should do.”
Societal norms dictate that only romantic partners can do things like living together, raising children, and kinds of affection like holding hands, cuddling or kissing. And because of those societal norms, people have a tendency to assume that because a QPR does those things, they have to be in a romantic relationship.
The name itself says it: Queer as in different, and platonic as in friends. A different level of friendship -- the gray area between the strict black and white of romance and friendship. I hope that makes sense! ^^
I got to hang with my qpr yesrerday!! 😊
Aw, good! I hope you had a great time :D
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You,,,, you’re one of those little shits who picks a letter nobody can think of stuff with
Pssst Queer-platonic ships by @septic-dr-schneep
Yaaay :D
I have an odd question because i can't find an answer on google and you write queerplatonic relationships so I'm wondering if you can help me. My best friend and I are both bisexual women, happily married to two wonderful guys. I know in a way we have a queerplatonic relationship but i'm wondering if it's something different if we choose to kiss each other on the lips. Not like open mouth, tongue kissing or anything but simple pecks. We're both curious about it. Sorry if this was weird for you.
Well, it depends on if you think kissing on the lips is solely romantic in nature! I mean, I kiss my family members on the lips. Some queerplatonic people feel like kisses are too romantic/sexual, but they like kisses on the cheeks and other parts of the body because they are platonic and sensual, not romantic or sexual.
Guyyyys, send me questions about any of the QPRs! I wanna have something for my bromances to answer in the morning!
You can ask literally anything (outside of my banned topics, of course) it can be the most random crap, like “Which one likes [insert anything] and which one doesn’t?”
I just want to talk about my boys and their friendships ;w;
I wanna do this again :’D
Guyyyys, send me questions about any of the QPRs! I wanna have something for my bromances to answer in the morning!
You can ask literally anything (outside of my banned topics, of course) it can be the most random crap, like “Which one likes [insert anything] and which one doesn’t?”
I just want to talk about my boys and their friendships ;w;
But don’t you ship dost hark?
No, all of the relationships I write are queerplatonic -- meaning they’re closer than most friendships but they’re not romantic/sexual.
I think people just get confused sometimes from queerplatonic relationships. YOU CAN BE INTIMATE WITHOUT 👏 BEING 👏 IN 👏 A 👏RELATIONSHIP
Definitely
I have an english exam tomorrow and I've gotta write about this play that we read in class, which is more or less about love. But I'm worried now because I can only see the relationship as overprotective-familial love, rather than romantic love (which seemingly everyone else thinks it is). I'm debating whether or not to call it romantic or familial, do you think it would matter?
Well, I’m always one for familial love! And if everyone else thinks it’s about romantic love, maybe the professor would appreciate a different take on it, so long as you argue your case well!
Can you do something for me, please?
I want you to reblog this if you believe that two people can be very close and physically affectionate with one another, but still have a completely nonsexual, non-romantic relationship.
Even if the two people in question are capable of being sexually or romantically attracted to one another.
Because the friendship I share with someone I consider family in a way that transcends blood has been typecast as a romantic relationship ENTIRELY too many times, and I’m beginning to get sick of it.
Non-sexual, non-romantic physical affection is a thing, people.
Yeah I’ve had like a million people think that my best friend and I are dating. Like no, mate, he’s just my best friend and excuse me if I walk through the hallways at school holding his hand because he’s having a bad day (anxiety wise) or if I have my arm around his waist because he’s super light headed and hasn’t eaten anything except for lifesavers mints (it happens more often than you might think lol).
I have no idea when humankind started confusing intimacy with sex/romance but it would be awesome if we could stop.
This is one of the major reasons why having High School friends was hard because “so and so are dating because they’re sharing each other’s food” or “ holy shit they’re wearing the same outfit they MUST be dating” and “oh my god are they actually hugging/sitting together?!”
Joking with friends can also get taken WAY too seriously as well.
TELL YOUR FRIENDS THAT YOU LOVE THEM
GIVE THEM MASSIVE HUGS AND KISS THEIR FOREHEADS IF THEY’RE OKAY WITH THAT
HOLD HANDS AND LEAN ON EACH OTHER AND PLAY WITH THEIR HAIR AND PAT THEIR HEADS AND SHARE FOOD SAFELY
PLATONIC PHYSICAL INTIMACY IS AMAZING AND NEEDS TO BE PRACTICED MORE
Signed, a girl whose love language is physical touch and who adores cuddles from friends
^ ^ ^
I’m that girl’s aro/ace best friend and I have already told her that we will be cuddling as soon as we see each other irl again.
PLATONIC LOVE IS IMPORTANT.
PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS ARE MY SHIT
@septic-dr-schneep writes amazing platonic relationships :)
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That is the biggest compliment no matter how many times I hear it, thank you so much ;w;
If you were to describe every queerplatonic relationship you've come up with in one song, which songs would you choose?
Oh, that’s a fun question! :D
Dark/Host: These two have a whole playlist of twenty songs!
Jackie/Schneep: He Ain’t Heavy, He’s My Brother
Marvin/Chase: Cold Water
Google/Iplier: Lean On Me
Bim/Yandere: Fix You
