round and round the winchesters go

exitpursuedbyasloth replied to your post: “So anytime the guys have sex on the show it's rape? What? Two adults decide to have sex and somehow that's rape? WTH? I have seen anything that is even close to rape on the show.”:

I was dealing mostly with easily identifiable/memorable characters as one half of all the pairings, but yes, him too (and if you're going with consent issues in general in that episode, there is a dude who wished to be invisible so he could creep on women in the bathroom -_-). And the Nice Guy in S2 who brought his friend to life after she died while upset over her boyfriend and did a spell so that she would love him. And the sweet, romantic guy with flowers who then sexually assaulted the date for whom he'd brought them (who thankfully was punished by being killed brutally immediately after, in what is actually framed as a possible act of God and shakes Dean to the core as such).

If you go by individual episodes and secondary character interactions, there are so many more than I mentioned. I'm actually really angry at the fact that, as far as I recall, there are instances where the Winchesters textually try to save women from rape by men but there are no instances where they textually try to save men from rape by women, despite how much of it exists. There's a notably binarist, sexist undertone that AFAB/female-identifying people raping AMAB/male-identifying people is...ineffective, something to laugh off, not at all dangerous enough to inspire fear, or just proper punishment for bad men (like in the pilot, which is another I forgot, jfc, there are too many to remember). Even in the siren episode, when they get it, he's male-identifying/AMAB, whereas the rest of the time Dean's just excited to be in a strip club seeking the siren who raped three different men in an AFAB form.

(P.S. At one point you and I should discuss how Dean's siren appearing as a male-identifying/AMAB person is indication of his orientation because of how sirens work [via sexual and romantic attraction], but the Reaper using an AFAB/female-identifying form to entice Castiel is not. It's mostly, I think, to do with the fact that he didn't come to her house to have sex, and wouldn't have instigated that, even if he didn't [feel free to/couldn't] say no when it was pushed on him.)

Watching Supernatural as an incredibly aware rape (/abuse/trauma) victim who's unlearned patriarchal standards of rape is like watching Spider-man as an arachnophobe, except the spiders actually need to be there, nearly always serve the story, and nobody tells you you're overreacting and they don't see spiders at all, why are you so upset. And I'm just as invested in the angel and the human who've been raped (/around rape) multiple times as I am in the boy whose being audibly bitten by a spider in a room full of loudly crawling other ones makes my stomach roil and my body recoil.