guys, slash fiction can be real fucked up (content warning: rape)

Let me just start by saying that fandom fetishization of gay dudes/gay relationships is not something that can or should be compared to the way society at large treats and has always treated women as sex objects. There are a lot of women who have and still are addressing this issue better than I ever could, and I’m not going to talk over them by saying the same things they’ve said. What I will say is that a bunch of people being skeevy predominantly in a fandom subculture is not on the same level as long-term societal fetishization.

But it’s actually bothering me considerably that people are acting like bad attitudes exist in a vacuum and are above any form of criticism since fetishizing gayness isn’t on a widespread societal level. I don’t think slash or slash fiction are inherently harmful — actually, I know they aren’t. Good m/m fiction results in an overall rare normalized portrayal of a gay relationship. But if I see one more person say that queer men can’t ever become uncomfortable about some aspects of slash fandom I am going to poop a brick. I am all about telling the guy yelling STUPID SLASH FANGIRLS U RUIN EVERYTHING to shut the fuck up, but legitimate criticisms that don’t fall back on misogyny and homophobia shouldn’t be lumped in with that basic bullshit.

#Life philosophy #Except can we dispense with 'femme' guys and just say guys are lots of different ways #Though I totally see your point--the traditionally 'femme' characteristics do get attributed to the sub #Or the submission to that one #Which makes me wonder...if someone can write a defense of Dean as a sub because a lot of the things he actually DOES have #as personality are traditionally 'femme' whereas Cas seems to be written traditionally 'masc'#Despite Dean's posturing otherwise #LOL #Sorkin's Wardo #That is a HUGE problem with the way people write him and I hate it so much #Ville Valo #I can't #Shipping #Fan fiction #Fandom #Humanity fail #Justified misanthropy #Racism cw #Sexism is not supposed to be a thing #Heteronormativity cw #A wrist movement and a fashion sense do not an orientation make #(Or a sexual position or BDSM identification)#Misogyny #Human sexuality #Human equality #Human decency #I need this because humanity #Rape #Same #Random

selfihateyouithink reblogged

misandry isn't real, dudez

I’m a guy, and I need feminism. Not “men’s rights.” Feminism. Here is why.

Everything that MRAs talk about that men can’t do or are socially punished for arise directly and immediately from misogyny. Not “misandry.” Misogyny. Whether I am expressing my emotions, playing with children, baking, having sex wherein I am penetrated in any way, wearing the wrong color, talking the wrong way, moving the wrong way, being sexually harassed/assaulted, or paying too little attention to looking like I’m not paying attention to how I look, when society punishes me or derides me or marginalizes me for these things, it is happening because they are things women, not men, are expected to do, and our society at large fucking hates women.

Has that sunk in yet?

Men, can you even think of a single goddamn way you have ever been mocked that wasn’t related to something that a misogynist society sees as feminizing? Even when large men are mocked for their bodies, they are referred to as having “man-boobs,” for fucks sake.

How do you expect to improve those things with “men’s rights?” What right are you fighting for? I can tell you what I think you’re fighting for. I think you’re fighting for the right to contain and control misogyny, and direct it back at women, where you think it belongs. You want to maintain your privilege but erase its consequences, and that’s why your movement is farcical; it’s a big fucking feedback loop. How do you expect men to be free from the peripheral effects of misogyny when you refuse to even fucking believe it’s real?

#Hi yes this is me #Life philosophy #Misogyny cw #Misandry #Men's rights #LOL #Male privilege #Feminism #Intersectionality #Patriarchy #Human sexuality #Human equality #Human decency #I need this because humanity #Random