selfihateyouithink reblogged
Your soulmate is not someone that comes into your life peacefully. It is who comes to make you question things, who changes your reality, somebody that marks a before and after in your life. It is not the human being everyone has idealized, but an ordinary person, who manages to revolutionize your world in a second…
Anonymous (via scatteredneedles)
#Quote#Same#Hi yes this is me#If a person you're friends with offers absolutely no change to you and tries to make you stay the person you were...#That's not nope#Platonic love#captain americant#Love#Relationships#Friends#Fandom friends#Soulmates#KEEP. IN. FUCKING. MIND.#That doesn't mean that you should expect to change who you are down to the bone for the person who's your 'soulmate'#That's not good; in fact that's a terrible relationship#It means that sometimes you're ready to change because you're unsatisfied with who you are but feel trapped in it#and a soulmate will enable that change will encourage that change and you'll fit together perfectly as a result of it#This isn't a 'Love Redeems' quote: if you're a villain from head to toe and you become every good thing they want of you#That's not 'soulmates'; that's codependency#That's not redemption; it's appeasement and you are entirely precariously still awful contingent on whether they leave#Soulmate-ness isn't colonization and settlement of your personality by the other person#Soulmate-ness is a revolution you fight yourself and they show up to aid you because they want what you wanted#They're not your savior: they're your ally to a war you didn't even realize you were fighting mentally#until they show it to you from where they can view it and you can't: how it's affecting other people#Ugh all I can think of is#4x22 Lucifer Rising#Dean.Cas#Dean is the touchstone for Castiel's love of humanity#Life philosophy#Random