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Like that “get naked, have sex all the time, be sex positive” feminism is so flawed like shut the fuck up lol like….the whole point of feminism is to have agency and control oer our own bodies, thoughts & culture, not for other, more privileged females telling other females from marginalized groups what to wear and what to do…. get the hell out of my face
The fact that if two characters are even slightly antagonistic towards each other people automatically are like “OMG there’s so much sexual tension between them!” really pisses me off. Antagonistic feelings between people ≠ sexual tension; admittedly there are times it might but it doesn’t happen often.
make me choose: @padagirl Endverse!Cas or Endverse!Dean
[watches Abandon All Hope]
[carefully considers the Meg and Cas scenes]
[rewinds several times]
[talks it out on Twitter]
Yep. Heterosexists made something out of absolutely fucking nothing. Some of the metas I have read on this are just absolutely fucking laughable.
Apparently undermining an enemy's convictions to keep her distracted from a slowly succeeding escape via telekinesis is "caring about and respecting her",
being audibly overexerted and angry when unable to kill her (because she is a hugely powerful demon queen under the protection of an archangel and you are in a ring of Fire that tends to dampen your powers) is "probably unable to kill her cos he liked her",
and using a rapist's technique against her (Did he read her successfully [for once] cos she gave him long enough and he had nothing else to do, stuck in the ring? Did he read her mind when he touched her forehead? Idk but he knew what was coming from her.) by faking leaning in for a kiss and using her as a bridge to get out of the ring--leaving her screaming and burning as you walk out, is considered "attraction" and "sexual tension"--even a "crush" you always had, instead of victory over a hated enemy and survival. At least. If it happens between two characters coded male and female.
psa: stop treating asexuals like they are incredibly innocent children who have a weird obsession with dinosaurs/dragons/unicorns/ect because this stereotype is actually kinda belittling and degrading because not wanting to fuck people doesn’t make you a child who only wants to draw with crayons and eat mac n cheese fuck off with your “uwu” bullshit.
Hannah: We always said the humans were our original mission. Maybe it’s time, Castiel. Time to put them first. Castiel: Where is all this coming from? for casthewise
I need asexual awareness because when I tell people anything along the lines of, “Oh, I don’t really care for sex,” “I actually wouldn’t mind at all if I went my entire life without ever having sex,” “Ohh, he/she’s really attractive to look at, I- no, I do not want to have sex with them, I didn’t say that, did I? No, I didn’t. I just think they’re nice to look at,” “I don’t even like sex that much, most of the time I’d rather not do it,” etc., etc., etc.,
I don’t want to constantly be met with responses like, “That’s impossible,” “Yeah right,” “Very funny,” “Oh don’t be so embarrassed/don’t try to hide it, I can see you obviously want to have sex with that person, it’s okay you can admit it,” “But EVERYONE loves sex! You can’t not love sex,” “Okay, suuuuure, you keep telling yourself that,” “You’re lying.”
No, I am not lying. No, I am not trying to hide some deep, burning lust that I am ashamed of admitting or something. No, I am not trying to be sarcastic or crack a joke - my sexuality is not a joke. No, my sexuality and the the way I feel because of it is not impossible.
I just wish it could be more common to accept that some people are indifferent to sex (or repulsed by it, or like it but still don’t feel sexual attraction, etc.) instead of the common ideal being that all humans just HAVE to love sex all the time. I wish I could mention my asexuality in casual conversation without receiving snide, condescending remarks in return.
I wish I wouldn’t be called a liar or fake or a prude because of my sexuality.
I wish when I said I was indifferent to sex, people could just reply with something simple like, “Oh, really? Okay,” or whatever and move on.
My sexuality is not fake, or prudish, or a way of hiding insecurities, or a lie, or a joke, or impossible. It’s real, and it’s who I am, and I deserve to be treated with respect regardless of the fact I don’t always feel like having sex. The degree to which ANYONE, asexual or allosexual, feels sexual attraction should not determine the amount of respect they receive. And no one should be made fun of or called fake and a liar for who they are and how, in turn, they feel; what they can’t help and/or the personal choices they have consciously made.
Hi, could you please explain why your Sastiel tag is 'Lol Sastiel'? Thanks.
You’re trying to get me attacked again, aren’t you.
Have I not gotten enough trolls yet? (Not you, the people who’ll respond to my response.)
My Sastiel tag is ‘Lol Sastiel’ because Sastiel is not a thing in canon, at all, honestly, but it sometimes needs to be tagged so people can avoid it when I’m reblogging something that can be read that way.
Ok so if it was consensual, would you be ok with Castiel being in a heterosexual relationship?
Thanks for explaining! So what's your take on Cas in 2014?
Essentially this.
End!Cas is the product of a separate universe/timeline controlled, if not created, by Zachariah (and look at what he did to Dean and Sam in 4x17--do you really think we should trust what he makes of the characters in his worlds?). He's a "careful what you wish for", not a "this is/could be what Cas is really going to be like" meant to point out how 5x03's type of friendship, how Castiel choosing Dean in general over the angels, will drag Castiel down to Dean's level of everything he hates in himself: and I mean, exactly Dean's level. #Drugs, #alcohol, copious amounts of detached sex, #suicidal nihilism, and #codependent loyalty to an aggressive, stoic, seemingly unfeeling leader, are all so Dean it hurts, and that's where "Don't ever change" comes from. It's Dean releasing Castiel of his attempts to make Castiel exactly like him.
Additionally, on the other hand, it also, yet again, means nothing about our Cas, possible or not, but drive. I talked about this here: Castiel is very deprived of affection, touch, and appreciation in general, and it's not super impossible that, being sex-indifferent but not -repulsed, he'd go for what Dean taught him in order to get some of that ("hedonism" of just "I need to feel good somehow when everything sucks and oh look there's warmth and companionship baiting this hook" just like he described w/ April) in a apocalyptic, doomed context (think Dean/Anna in 4x10); no attraction necessary, only drive, which I already acknowledged he has.
Hi! It's me, Sierranic, I changed my blog :) I'm a little confused by the conversation you sort of had with soullessbrothers... are you saying that it's wrong for someone to see Castiel as heterosexual, and attracted to Meg, April, etc., based on what we saw on the show? I think that's what the writers were trying to portray. Or are you saying it's wrong to rule out any other viewing of Castiel?
If people only read you they'd think that being a demisexual only makes you sad. I hate that. I hate it because it's not true. You can be healthy and emotionally happy and secure in yourself. I hate that you use a shared sexuality to explain away your personal issues. I hate that you took something that isn't yours to push out your feelings at other's instead of looking in. best of luck to you - last i'll say on this.
straight people are so weird every time two queer people are near each other theyre like ARE YOU DATING and everytime a boy and a girl are near each other theyre like ARE YOU DATING and every time two genderless void creatures from The Beyond are near each other theyre like ARE Y
winkydean:
is there really anything worst than having a notp becoming canon
#a notp not being canon but everyone insisting it is
People who want to see Dean as a crossroads demon kissing Cas and stuff like
Lilith was powerful enough to warrant actual sex when she made deals
Do you think Dean will be satisfied with just a kiss
Do you.
Audre Lorde, A Burst of Light: Essays (via coraldagger)
Maybe I am misunderstanding, but are you saying that anyone who doesn't agree with your exact interpretation of these characters is an asshole?
I’m saying every individual who is part of/aligns with these people, who erase queerness in general, and demisexuality as part of the queer representation in question, to maintain these characters are unequivocally straight (I don’t care what you do with Irene for the most part because she’s already queer and lesbians could do with fewer ‘but she likes this guy cos he’s special’ assertions and queer people in general could do with a lot less bisexual erasure, but much rather demi than ‘exception’) is an asshole, yes. Yes, they are. Every single one.
I’m saying every single person who normalizes socially sanctioned heterosexist heteronormative bullshit by acting like one instance of non-heterosexual attraction is never enough to make you queer, erasing demihomosexuality, is. an. asshole.
And no, I don’t care how that makes those people feel, I really fucking don’t. I don’t care. I’m very tired of parts of fandom erasing my sexuality so they can push straightness into/onto fucking everything and perpetuate heteronormativity and allonormativity.
You can come at me, if you want, telling me ‘x’ person is the exception or what-the-fuck-ever, and I will ignore and/or hit back at you. I’m at the point of “fuck allosexist heterosexist assholes who want to erase me, all of them”.
Every person who hits back at “Dean is bi(romantic bisexual, cos that’s mostly what we tend to mean)” with “Dean is straight but [x dude]sexual” as opposed to “Dean is demihomo hetero” and the like in other fandoms, etc. is an asshole, and I don’t care who knows it until they care enough to stop being asses and erasing my orientation everywhere to protect straightness.
