Raise your hand if you’ve ever been in a really uneven and/or toxic polyamorous relationship and seeing those posts that suggest ship wars and love triangles can/must always be solved by OT3ing everything kills you a little inside
#[raises hand three dozen times]#Wank for TS#Polyamory#Poly#Abusive poly#Shipping#Badwrong ships cw#(I'm expecting this to be just me honestly but it'd be nice if it weren't)#(***Caveat: you can definitely Like this even if you haven't been in a bad poly thing but still feel this way. for solidarity.)#Not all love triangles or ship wars can be solved by poly#I would never actually say the words 'if you've never been in a bad poly relationship then shut up about this' but sometimes I want to#Because I'd rather someone had killed me off or written me out instead of keeping me hanging on so I could watch as I was slowly exiled#And I can tell you firsthand not all dynamics work together and I can probably tell you better than some other people which ones won't#(Abuse/neglect x 2 is not more fun because you're not 'left out'; it feels WORSE)#(Some people just don't work in poly in general and some people work very badly except for specific poly it's not a band-aid solution)#PTSD cw#probably#Abuse cw#Suicidal ideation cw#Fandom is#Fandom#Random