Selfcare is a Journey

i cannot hate myself into a version of me i will love.

i cannot punish myself in any way that will unmake the past.

So it didn’t work out, and that’s okay. Maybe you gave it your all; maybe you feel you could’ve done more. Regardless, what’s done is done. Don't backtrack. Forgive yourself, focus on your healing, feel your emotions without distraction, and be gentle with yourself through this. You’re going to be just fine, love.

“Do it scared” but please realize that, if you Do It Scared too much and don’t let yourself rest + relax + have fun in between, you will fuck yourself up. If you “do it scared” all day every day, you will burn out badly and quickly. Sometimes this is temporarily necessary but please keep this in mind.

When you “do it scared” eventually you’re supposed to be less scared, eventually doing it scared is supposed to teach you the worst won’t happen, or it won’t be as bad as you think it is, or that the best outcomes are worth it, or you’re more capable than you thought you were. If you do it scared over and over and you’re still scared and you’re always scared, maybe it was never about pushing yourself, maybe something bigger is going on and what you really need is to be kind to yourself while you figure out what that is.

Snaily :)

i deserve to let things go, to not allow them to haunt me anymore since i am constantly changing and growing

reaching out unprompted can mean the world to someone

don't give up

makes me just think of this poem by Caitlin Seida

Speak to yourself softly. Even when you are burning and all you want to do is tear it all down, you deserve kindness.

Diet companies won’t tell you this but starving yourself is a lot worse for your health than overeating

What we're not gonna do is endlessly beat ourselves up over past mistakes. They've had their time. Now, treasure the wisdom they've gifted you. Forgive yourself often. Embrace the lessons and give yourself permission to evolve.

so you dated the wrong person and learned a hard lesson. you chose the wrong major and had to start over again. you cherished a friend who backstabbed you. it sucks, but it’s also going to work out. that’s life; you learn, hurt, love, cry, laugh, and keep going. you experience setbacks and you grow and it’s all okay.

Too many "how to recover" posts being all "step 1: love yourself ❤️". Like dude, I'm sorry, but that's just not step one - that's the end goal...

a quick “why is my life so bad” checklist

i myself needed to be reminded of this today. the freedom of summer also means the risk of falling back into bad habits if i'm not mindful