Anonymous asked:
I've always seen Xander as one of those 'understandable but not sympathetic' characters. After everything with his family it's easy to see why he's a mess when it comes to relationships, so I can understand why he's the way he is and feel sorry for him, but equally there are 'dude, stay in your lane, she doesn't need your permission' moments where even if I know where he's getting his ideas of masculinity and power dynamics from, it's still not ok.
i agree to an extent. but i feel like this can be said about all the characters on the show. xander is not better than any character but he’s also not worse than any.