There’s something about so many people’s need to “cure” Astarion that just doesn’t sit right with me. Like he can’t truly have a happy ending unless they “fix” his vampirism. Like they’re Tav couldn’t just adjust their schedule for him and be there to comfort him if he ever feel down about missing the sun, they have to “cure” him.
This! These tags are exactly what I was getting at thank you @bhaalsdeepbat
That’s what feels off to me, that people just don’t want to engage with it and what it means to love someone with a life altering condition. They just want to magically make it all better.
I think in the case of Astarion, it's mostly people just wanting to give him the world if he asked for it, and not really engaging further than that. Like he does vocalize that he would like a cure for his condition and I know the lore is complicated for elves and vampirism like. really fucks that up. so I understand where people can want to go the cure route.
that being said, the "loving someone with a life altering condition" is one of the things that really draws me to astarion's romance and i would love to see other disabled folks weigh on that with their astarion romances bc it's such an interesting thing to explore with a disability lens
this is such an interesting perspective that i really hadn't considered before as an able-bodied person. but yeah. like.
i guess the angle i can relate to is neurodivergence -- imagine getting the tadpole that makes you neurotypical for a bit and then that just. goes away. at think, for myself at least, that would probably be a reaaaaally difficult thing to comes to terms with!