ties that bind, socks that hold
Why your socks should match your tie, not your outfit
Intro: John as the body, Sherlock as the heart
After observing their attraction cues and their protests to those attractions, I wrote this post about how Sherlock is uncomfortable with his emotional attraction and how John is uncomfortable with his sexual attraction and vice versa. (x)
Watching the scene where Sherlock and John have a mock affair, at the encouragement of Mary something struck me,
The repetition of the word, ‘tie’, makes this funny. They attempt to co-ordinate the excuses for their mock affair and fail, twice. It’s made funnier by the fact that Sherlock attempts to recycle, 'tie’, each time, in a different context and still fails.
Then, I thought about this show and repetition. When something is repeated there’s always a reason. Like, Irene saying, 'I know what he likes’, several times, this is a meaningful clue to us about what Irene’s role is on the show.
So, 'ties’. What are, 'ties’? They’re things that go tightly around your neck. They can be colourful. Formal, informal. They can be loose, they can be tight. They can be a noose. Then I thought abut the saying, 'the ties that bind’, and, 'cutting off all ties’: 'ties’ are bonds, they’re attractments.
Now, once we have a theory, we can check it against other mentions of ties by Sherlock. We know that Sherlock fears them and shuns them, literally. And also,
In this context this association is further cemented. This comment is against the backdrop of John being what I call, 'first lady John’, he is being incredibly supportive and attentive, like the wife of a public figure. Furthermore, this case is about a man grateful to be reunited with his family, at last, and we have this Sherlock looking child admiringly giving him this tie pin. This shot is evocative equally of parent lock as it is of Sherlock’s inner child. In either possibility, Sherlock is keeping himself insular: he doesn’t do ties.
Then I thought that if ties were symbolic then socks could be, too. When I thought socks I immediately thought about the Red Hot Chilli Peppers playing with nothing but socks on their penises. And about men masturbating into a sock. A sock is a tube. It is phallic. It’s a sheath. It could have a sexual connotation.
So, a penis reference for John and a heart reference for Sherock fits with the idea that this is each of their areas of fear of attraction.
Yet, here each of them is representing them and bringing them up.
Now, if we look at the socks/tie scene again we can see that John wants to get the right, 'socks’. And Sherlock wants to get the right, 'tie’. In a relationship one would hope to get both, the right person for your heart and body: someone you love and want, as well. But, we see each is concerned with a different aspect: sex and love.
Then Mary, goes with John’s idea of, 'socks’. Why don’t you get the right socks? Mary agrees you should pick the right person to be with sexually. i.e. her.
(Mary takes the side of the sexual analogy because in this context she represents sex. She is the one that John loves who has sex with him, this is her advantage as a potential mate of John’s over Sherlock. If we theorise that John loves Sherlock even more than he loves Mary then why is he choosing Mary? Because she will have him [Remember his proposal, ’…if you’ll have me, Mary… Now, remember Irene saying, 'Have you ever had anyone?’, to Sherlock. To have = sex]. Simple as that, Mary will have John, sexually, she will be in a relationship with him. Sherlock closed that door and John went another direction. Doesn’t make it the right choice, though.)
Now, what are the right, 'socks’, for John? With whom should he be sexually attached? Mary? Or Sherlock?
Here we see John ready to marry Mary and he says that the socks should go with his outfit. Whereas Sherlock thinks the socks should go with his tie.
An outfit is the whole of one’s clothed, 'look’. The totality of all your clothes, one’s appearance. 'Outfit’, is John’s appearance.
If he picks socks to go with his outfit, he picks Mary. His appearance is that of a straight man, since he’s never explicitly said he’s bi. The sexual liaison he is choosing goes with his image.
Sherlock is saying that his socks should go with his tie. Your penis should go with your heart. John should be with Sherlock because he loves him more.