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Anonymous asked:
is there a label that ACTUALLY means 'attraction regardless of gender' and doesn't have transphobic origins?
yes it’s called “bisexual”
sapphicsinthecloset reblogged
Anonymous asked:
as a bi girl -- saying """"""monosexual"""" people have privilege over multisexual people is as dumb as saying bi people have bi privilege. any perceived privilege probably comes from bi erasure/biphobia coming from straight people, which is absolutely not the fault of gay men and lesbians. we're all a community and we should act like it
ugh yes. it reminds me of “bi het” discourse that this hellsite was on.
(basically for the youngins of tumblr bi het was what biphobes within the lgbt community were calling bisexual people because when you’re in a “”””””straight””””””” relationship you’re not being oppressed by your “”fellow straights””.)
Unfortunately this post has been gaining serious traction after all those Twitter dummies started tweeting
Anonymous asked:
This is in no way meant to be biphobic But I would just like to know so I understand Right, with bisexuals when they picture say their future family do they tend to picture having it with a man more than a woman because it’s the norm? I was talking to my friend who is bi and she says when my future husband and I and then says or wife. Like forgetting. So is this the case with most bi?
It depends, I tend to just say “future husband” because I don’t want to make other people uncomfortable or I just don’t feel comfortable sharing in public.
@ all my bi folks that date str8 people
It is more than okay to not disclose your sexuality to anyone, including your significant other.
It is okay to date someone and find out they’re homophobic but you don’t leave because you love them.
It is okay to break up with someone homophobic/biphobic because your feelings and opinions matter just as much as anyone else’s.
It is okay to not date anyone out of fear of biphobia or lack of options.
It is okay to not have experienced anything as far as dating, including kissing and handholding.
It is okay to date casually. You are not a stereotype.
It is okay to be you.
Anonymous asked:
Hi I’m bi and when I came out to my friends they judged me and didn’t seem to want to be around me quite as often but now they’re saying they’re bi as well . I don’t want to be annoying but I’m just frustrated ? I don’t know
All I can say is that people change. I was homophobic at one point, and even when I subconsciously knew I was gay that still continued, and I couldn't really admit it to myself.
Your friends might have struggled with coming out due to their own internalized biphobia. You got treated unfairly due to their old views, and it really sucks to have been hurt by someone who shows that they were capable of change all along.
Like, this isn't really an advice post so much as an opinion, but like. They probably were fighting their own internal battle with internalized biphobia and took it out on you. Maybe you reminded them of the internal conflict they felt.
It doesn't make the way you were treated ok or right, but hopefully it can help you move on with them.
Anonymous asked:
So my crush says she’s bi but prefers boys and has only dated boys and wants to marry a guy (behind her back ppl say she just says she is bi to get attention) but I just don’t knowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww (also I think she is starting to guess that I’m gay 💀)
Sounds like she is bi with a preference for boys. Honestly, it is really biphobic for people to be saying that she is straight and pretending to be bi for attention. Bi people can have preferences, but that doesn’t mean they are secretly straight (or secretly gay). Obviously, I don’t know her but I would take her word on what her sexuality is over anyone else’s.
Anonymous asked:
hi im a bi girl and i think i have internalized biphobia :( (never towards others!! just myself. I invalidate myself a lot and dont think im wlw enough or that im doing it for the 'trend' even though i know i am wlw and always has been) any tips on how to gradually stop?? thanks
just remembering that youre valid and saying positive things about yourself and your sexuality daily
Biphobes are so dumb
You tell them you’re bi and they’re like “source????”
Anonymous asked:
how to come out as bi? i feel like it's harder for ppl to understand than if i were to say "i'm a lesbian"... i'm scared of confrontation and being called stuff like "attention seeking" and "fake". help i really want to come out to some ppl and i know these possibilities will always be there
I’ve never really come out as bi and before then I came out as a lesbian when I thought I was one. I’ve only ever been outed as bi; however, I will say that it is a bit different.
People understand being gay/lesbian in a superficial sense. Many people have probably only met one or two out lesbians in their life (the majority of LGBT people are bi actually) so it is a bit intriguing for them.
People have certain ideas of what being bi is and different expectations for it. Some people will just treat you “like a lesbian that likes guys” (which I don’t have time to unpack at all) and others will just think you’re faking for attention or just on your way to becoming gay.
There’s clownery when you come out no matter your sexuality or gender so don’t get the wrong idea and think that it’s all fine and dandy coming out as a lesbian.
Being bi is one of my favorite things about myself and I’m so glad I was able to discover this part of me that’s always been there. Lesbians are lovely and I love every single one of them, but they unfortunately deal with the same about of oppression that we do.
Anonymous asked:
I am bi and proud. I love my boyfriend, and I still can love girls. Being in a hetro relationship doesn't mean I'm straight. -this is what I say to myself daily to kill my internalized biphobia.
yes! down with internalized biphobia!!
(also side note: for me i never refer to my relationships as hetero because nothing that involves me is hetero and that helped me deal with my biphobia a lot just by changing my mindset)
Anonymous asked:
I had a very sweet lesbian friend, but i started dating a boy (im bi) and suddenly she became a mad biphobic bitch saying that if I was just "basically straight all this time, I shouldn't even be her friend tbh, since she's only friends with gay people" and I'm just????? So mad at her, I don't even feel bad for ending our friendship
Yoooooo, this is all kinds of yikes. I’m really sorry you had to go through that, you’re not suddenly straight because you’re seeing a guy. And you shouldn’t feel bad for ending the friendship; that’s one person you do not need in your life. I hope you find some friends in the community that will love and support you like you deserve.
-mom em
sapphicsinthecloset reblogged
Anonymous asked:
Could you guys talk more about internalised biphobia and bi girls who thought that they were lesbians? I love the stuff on comp het and lesbians who think they experience attraction to men ect, and it is very helpful and offers a lot of important information for young lesbians and wlw in general, but it was so hard realising I was bi and I identifyed as gay for years, and i want more young bi girls to realise that you can like multiple genders and it's okay to be bi if that makes sense?
We can certainly try! I’ll reach out the other mods about it, we have a few bi/pan gals and maybe they’ve had similar experiences
Hello! It’s your local bi friend. At one point in my life I was identifying as a lesbian. (For almost a year I think) I had just gotten into a relationship with a girl my longest (gasp!) at the time of a whole month. I started dating a boy to cover up the rumors that I was gay. This boyfriend, I didn’t like him at all which seemed to me as evidence that I didn’t like guys at all. How could I not find him attractive? He was mediocre just like all the other boys I knew.
I broke up with my first “long time” girlfriend. Afterwards, I started developing feelings for this guy. I kept pushing down that feeling because I was sure that I wasn’t actually interested in him and only wanted attention. Plus, he was dating one of my friends at the time. Of course, nothing happened while they were dating.
Eventually I realized that I was noticing guys. Like, actually noticing them. I began daydreaming about them almost as much as I daydreamed about girls. I still wouldn’t call myself bi. It sounded like a dirty word to me. My family members were accepting of gay people, but bisexuals? Never. As one family member said, “Bisexual is just another word for wh*re.” I started identifying briefly as pan or “heteroflexible”, but it didn’t feel quite right. At this point I was at my full blown MOGAI phase as a “heterosexual h*mosensual biromantic.”
Anyway, I met people who were bi and identified that way. I read up on bi culture and bi history. I got involved in the online bi community and never went back.
Anonymous asked:
Told my hetro™ friend that I am bi, her response “are you sure? You seem pretty straight to me.”
“are you sure you’re straight? you seem gay as hell to me.”
Anonymous asked:
I'm sad because people wont date me for my bisexuality. Like if it was for my face or for my annoying personality i'd get it??,? But....... it's really sad that people usually turn me down solely because i'm bi.. :(((
I’m really really sorry anon. I know it’s tough right now but one day you’re gonna meet someone who won’t be a biphobe and you will be happy I promise.
This is why I don’t tell 99% people im bisexual
jess-iplier
It’s either this or gross fetishization.
nudeparrot
I love how gay people do it too. Just… really? You’re literally saying the same shit to bisexuals that straight people say to you, and you don’t see the hypocrisy?
asking-ask
If youre biphobic or hate bisexuals, fucking unfollow me, for serious.
Anonymous asked:
read something on tumblr earlier about how bisexual women are invading lesbian spaces or somethng in reference to wlw in general and I'm just... disappointed about it I can't get it out of my mind, especially as a bi girl.. just wanted to get that off my chest :(
um that’s biphobic and gross and completely untrue! try not to worry, lovely! you’re not invading anybody’s space