callout post for "work"

"work" has done many terrible things such as

please spread this around we can't let "work" keep getting away with this

If your democrat friends start muttering about stolen election conspiracy theories, the time to have a sit down with them and express your concerns is NOW, while you still have a chance to reach them, not 6 months from now when they're fully conspiracy-pilled.

Here's some of the talking points and why they're bullshit:

But just as importantly as the facts: sit down with your friend and talk about the anxiety that's behind their conspiracy leanings. Acknowledge their pain and fear. Help them find ways to feel less powerless and regain their sense of agency. Take them to a mutual aid event, involve them in a fundraising event for a marginalized group, invite them to a local community effort. If they spend more time feeling connection and empowerment and less time doom scrolling online, they're far more likely to stay in reality.

Is he "female socialized" or is he just a standard flamboyant sensitive artsy gay dude who would honestly be indiscernible from any other fem gay guy if you didn't see him as a walking vagina first and foremost.

Is she "male socialized" or is she just a tomboy with a fucking spine who doesn't let anyone talk to her any old kind of way who would honestly be indiscernible from any feminist cis woman y'all gas up on here if you didn't see her as a walking penis first and foremost.

Honestly, in my work as a therapist, I’m seeing this A Lot, and tbh I still don’t have a satisfactory approach to it. A heavy dose of Existentialist “create your own Purpose” tempered with “when the plane’s going down, put your own oxygen mask on first”, but… yeah, there is no ethical way to work on individual emotional distress without acknowledging the systemic socioeconomic, geopolitical fuckery going on at the moment, and the sheer grief that comes with it.

This is one of those areas where like on the one hand as a chronic moderate-severe depressive this shit hits me hard and on the other I’m watching people technically more mentally healthy than me struggle with the vast pointless mess of existence for the first time and it’s a trip.

Some tips from the inside, in case they help:

- life has always been pointless. Or rather, we have always been unable to control the relative point-fulness of life. The factors involved in opening the possibilities of who can have a large scale impact where are so insanely complex that they can at best only be pieced together imperfectly in retrospect

- the only thing that has changed is your awareness of this fact. No, seriously. The sun will eventually swallow the planet; at any moment without our knowledge or control the sun could flare in weird ways that will kill us all; etc. There was geopolitical and socioeconomic fuckery as bad or worse going on before: you just didn’t see it. Promise.

- you do what you can with what you have. You do what’s in front of you. Humanity has survived all of this before; it may survive it again. It may not. You can only do what you can: take what lessons exist from the past and apply them.

- sometimes it is just that bad and they are totally out to get you. The question is, what do you do about it?

- almost without exception in human history the answer has been “build community; support the one you have; reach out to connect MORE and to make the world more kind and less hateful than before.”

- recognize you’re trying to tackle god-level problems with a brain originally meant for keeping small proto-fish from being eaten. Treat that part of your brain like a very anxious toddler or rescue pitbull. Give it small measurable victories and successes even if you have to make them up. Make sure it’s fed and watered and has enough rest. Medicate it if you have to - there’s nothing wrong with that. The opposite, in fact.

We are hairless plains apes living in a thin skin of atmosphere between spinning liquid superheated death and the void of absolute cold, sustained by the radiation of a supermassive explosion that will kill us at the slightest excuse. We have always been unlikely and implausible and probably doomed which means every moment we are able to live, thrive and help others do so is an incredible victory. Don’t quit now. ❤️

Holy fuck I needed this

Kindle the Light, Shelter the Light, Protect the Light, Be the Light.

We can none of us save the world alone, we can only save each other: by thus is the world saved.  Everyone helps someone.

Would being called big dog fix me? Who knows?

Mixed reviews

"What's up, big dog; I'm ratsmacker" is going to live rent free in my head for a little while

Boys who up smacking they rat?

i’m home sick with the flu and i just received this email from my father

still getting notifications from this post 12 years later…… will i ever be free…..

Thank you tumblr for 2012 posts.

This gif is outrageous

 ■ The so-called “blood explosion” which punctuates the conclusion of Akira Kurosawa’s 1962 movie Sanjuro remains one of the most memorable and influential special effects in film history. Production designer Yoshiro Muraki would later recall this scene was filmed in a single take. No such effect had ever been attempted before, as movies of the time rarely showed violence with graphic detail. Filled with uncertainty, Muraki worried the blood spray he’d rigged up wouldn’t impress Kurosawa, so he added an extra 30 pounds of pressure to the fluid pump. At the moment the pump was activated, the additional pressure caused the compressor hose attached to actor Tatsuya Nakadai to blow a coupling which created a slight, unintentional delay before the fake blood began to spray, and caused a much larger gush of fluid than planned. It sprayed so powerfully Nakadai claimed it almost lifted him off the ground. His heart sinking, as he believed the delay and over-pressure had ruined the effect, Muraki nervously glanced at director Akira Kurosawa, but Kurosawa only nodded in approval.

“oh god i fucked this up”

“yoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooOOOOOOOO”

And to think this is so iconic that “two dudes clash, there’s a beat, then one dies incredibly violently” is just a must-have for action in anime

Its crazy to think that this iconic visual that has been so ubiquitous in pop culture for so long despite that the source material barely being known by people all came from actors staying in character thru an FX malfunction.

Sanjuro and its predecessor, Yojimbo, are both available FOR FREE on The Internet Archive! They’re KICK ASS movies and you should watch them!! You have no reason not to!!!

If you like anime, if you like Westerns, if you like samurai or cowboy tropes at all, you should really really watch some of Akira Kurosawa’s films! Rashomon is also very good and has had a really profound impact on modern film and storytelling!!

The Markup Sticker is a humorous item from Super Mario Party Jamboree that can be used on a player to double the price that player must pay for Stars and items on the next turn, suggesting that shops all collude to gouge that specific player on that turn.

However, the internal name for that item is even more humorous, whereby it is called "inflation". This suggests that instead of the prices simply being marked up as a malicious sales tactic, that player is hit with a localized instance of economic inflation instead.

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Google "Mario inflation" to find out more.

pesident babas extremely popular flagship policy, ECONOMY IS GOOD, is going to prove hard to beat

really, a trolley can’t be that different from a paintball gun on the pain scale, can it?

The problem w writing fiction is that you'll be like tee-hee I'm going to write a story about a fucked up little scenario that's got nothing to do with anything in real life, just some pure messed up nonsense, and then you finish it and take a step back and go aw rats I made a metaphor again

The commitment to the bit! The t-shirt that names the over-the-counter pain killer this man will have to take after this Oscar-winning performance!

does anyone wanna hold hands until we feel a little braver

the reblog map is all of us holding hands btw

We are each other's night sky. No one is alone here.

ID: the reblog map for this post. it looks like a starry night sky. there are 18837 reblogs shown. ID end.

It really doesn't require like a doctorate to understand the appeal of even the most filthy booktok fantasies. Idk why we're all pretending it's some kind of impenetrable enigma (this is sarcastic: I Know Why) that so many women wanna read about Men Who Are Dicks, Out Of Love

Like if you think about the experiences of heterosexual women for longer than like 20 seconds you can probably start to guess why "Oh he's a raging, violent douchebag, due to the singular passion he has for me" is such a common fantasy. This isn't rocket science

I'm not sure we need societal explanations for why Modern Romance Novels with Dark Edgy Love Interests are popular; there's a much simpler explaination of

1. Most everyone wants someone very interested in them and Hot. It's almost too common to state

2. Like explosions in movies or violent video games, some things are much more fun when the downside risk is null

3. Some people are subs

Some of it’s the fantasy of the person who does things to you without asking, but always does exactly what you want them to do, so you never have to communicate your desires.

... are people theorizing that men don't like Women Who are Dicks? Because I can tell you that this is absolutely not true, and if you have a gendered societal explanation, it seems like the existence of the opposite-gendered trope at least warrants a rethink of the forces at play.

Male romance fantasies absolutely include lots of the tsundere types, the stone cold bitch who melts with affection later on. This is an extremely common archetype. Tough exterior, hidden vulnerability? This is, if my understanding is correct, essentially what tsundere is, and this has a lot of appeal to men.

And the fantasy, if I can break my personal rule to not psychoanalyze tastes in media, is both one of overcoming a person's natural personality and issues (she loves me that much that her standoffish and bitchy persona melts away) and a fantasy of counter-signals to romantic attraction being false.

But I think this is just a general human thing, not something that we particularly need a gender studies debate to explain.

(I am willing to accept that women prefer this sort of dynamic more men, if someone has data to show that, but the data would have to be good data, and then we could start arguing gender role stuff after that. But I don't have the data handy, so must only make the point that this is both a male and female fantasy.)

Confirmed that our cats do not like eggs. We tried giving them cooked egg without seasoning and they were both like wtf are we supposed to do with this

It’s safe to give your cats cooked unsalted unseasoned eggs once in a while a a treat but our cats didn’t like them. Yours might. Not ours.