Oh….I’m sorry anon, should we have said “not all men hate women, there are some assholes who do of course, but generally it’s safe to say most men love and respect women”. Does that make you feel better?

Because that’s kinda obvious and I’m getting tired of spelling it out every time I see a sjw/radfem go on about how they think LITERATELY ALL MEN hate women and want nothing more than to see us suffer.

~Venus

I am really tired of vague comments like this. If you are upset at something that has been said; Be clear!! what post, who said it and why did it upset you. 

Also if it was referring to Saturn's comment I don't really see how it an absolute statement. She simply said she didn't agree with the comment that all men hate women. How that is making blanket statement idk

~Mercury

if you are a man and you get aroused by a grown woman calling you daddy there is something wrong with you lol bye

SJWs and religious fundamentalists have the same obsession with what complete strangers do in their bedrooms 

Here we go with people taking agency away from submissives again.

I like calling my men “daddy,” and I’m a man.It arouses me, not just them. It doesn’t matter what kind of BDSM you’re into. Daddy Dom and Little Girl (or Little Boy, in my case), Master/Slave, Sadism/Masochism; every relationship is always about mutual pleasure and consensual fun. If it’s not, you need to get the fuck out of that relationship, because it’s toxic.

"Daddy" has been a term associated with sex and sexuality for decades. It has other meanings, too. It’s often used as slang for a wealthy, older gay gentleman. It can be used as a euphemism for both the penis and for exceptionally large breasts. Young women in relationships with older men will sometimes call those men their “daddy,” probably because those men are old enough to be their fathers.

"Daddy" isn’t arousing because the man is turned on by little girls. It’s arousing, because it has a history as a sexual term, one that a submissive might call their dominant. The kink isn’t little girls (especially since women aren’t the only ones who take on the submissive role). The kink is dominance and submission.

Basically, keep your nose out of our bedrooms. What we consent to isn’t your business. We aren’t hurting anyone. Everything we do is consensual, and the BDSM community takes great strides to ensure that submissives are kept safe from known abusers. Our doms aren’t forcing anything on us. Our doms aren’t forcing anything on anyone, and if we find out they are or have, we dump their asses and spread the word.

It’s none of your business what we do, consensually, in the privacy of our own homes. uvu Bye~

Exactly…I like being called Daddy, Master, Sir, etc because it means I have a certain degree of power/dominance that my submissive gave to me willingly. If you don’t like BDSM that’s cool there are things that aren’t for everyone. But don’t go shaming people because you can’t understand it yourself…Your ignorance is showing.

i’m a switch, i like being called daddy some times and other times i like calling my fiancee mommy. she takes care of me and i take care of her! littles and mommy’s and daddies have nothing to do with incest or pedophilia! get your head out of your ass! —batman

Some info on all this stuff -Hermes

Not even into BDSM and I call my boyfriend Daddy because we have a son together and honestly, as dumb as it may sound, the responsibility and romance of being parents together is a huge turn on for both of  us so it definitely does something for us to be called Daddy or "Mim" as I'm called (son isn't my biological son).

~Pluto

guys no

misandry is not a thing

stop trying to prove that its a thing

it is not a thing

Yeah it is a thing.  If someone out there hates men, it’s a thing.  And people do; if you look through this tag you can see that.

As for your tags, it doesn’t matter whether it was caused by the patriarchy; if it exists it exists.  And if the Ban Bossy campaign is anything to go by, feminism would far rather make females out to be victims than help males.  Because the campaign not only makes it seem like girls can’t handle criticism, the stats are cherrypicked and meaningless in context.  Meanwhile boys of the same age group are doing worse than girls over the board (something that created a complete over-hall of the educational system when the sexes were reversed) but I guess coddling females is higher on the feminist agenda.

Please don’t dismiss male problems when there is absolutely no moral reasoning to.

Well said!

~Pluto

Can Tumblr feminists stop pretending that men are the biggest problem that women face in society?

Other women are the biggest problem that women face in society.

Other women have always insulted me much more viciously than a man has, other women have attacked me where men haven’t.

Men might objectify me, they might rape me, they might treat me like their property. But women hate women and that is the root of the problem.

I thought this was interesting. I'm not sure it's the root of the problem, or that it's worse, but I'm honestly not really sure where to go with this myself. Anyone have any strong feelings about this?

~Pluto

Resources for Male Survivors

I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with:

www.malesurvivor.org

www.violenceunsilenced.com

www.rainn.org

www.pandys.org

www.1in6.org

www.soulspeakout.org

Thanks everyone!

Happy to pass this along. 

~Pluto

This is what a REAL rape prevention campaign looks like

All the awards.

DO ME A HUGE FAVOR AND REBLOG THIS!

This is perfection in a campaign

I love how they included a situation where a guy could’ve gotten raped. People don’t seem to realize that males get raped too. It’s less common, but it happens. That is what sets this campaign apart from others. 

I will always reblog this, seriously, share this.

Tbh i hate these pictures. It still promotes the idea that only men rape and it clearly states that men can stop rape. The thing is that women rape a good amount. 

Mod Mercury actually responded to that if you're interested. I agree with you that it doesn't comment on that, but I think we get a little obsessed with every single thing not being exclusionary here on tumblr. It's possible for a single post to talking about how men can stop rape and then, maybe they could also have a campaign about how women can not rape as well. And then, maybe in time, we can get a "people can stop rape" which I've seen as well. I think that it will take time for us to get to that kind of gender/sex neutrality and I think campaigns like this are trying to step in that direction and should be noticed for that.

~Pluto

guys i finally found a safe space for straight people to be themselves!

men and the wealthy are also safe here.

I honestly don't get the point of posts like this. Are you saying that straight people, men, or the wealthy don't have any problems? Or that they are the default, or seen as normal, and there for no one picks on them for any other trait they may have? Do you think a person's sexuality, gender, or financial status is the entirety of their being and, by necessity, that they have no other traits that might make them feel unsafe in the world?

~Pluto

Women can be hypocrites too, since some of you don't seem to fucking get it

Like “oh she didn’t sleep with me what a bitch” is in absolutely no way different than a woman saying “i slept with him and he didnt even offer to pay for dinner? What a dick! ” or “he never called me after we hooked up last week! What a fucking douchebag”. Just because you give a girl friendship doesn’t mean your entitled to anything, just the same as when you decided to sleep with a guy, he doesn’t owe you anything either. Yeah, so if he’s a “douchebag” because of that, you’re really no better than the “nice guys” you claim to hate so much. I’m glad I could clear that up for you.

I’m sorry, I can’t hear you over the sound of you not paying for my dinner. What are you even good for?

Sex with guys is a chore. The least he could do is pay for dinner.

Honestly men are so bad at sex they really should buy us all sorts of shit to make up for it. Consider it a “shitty in bed tax”

Tax is doubled if all they want is a blow job too. Men are so boring and unimaginative.

Really I think men should buy us dinner and stuff just because they exist and are annoying. Forget sex, the very presence of men is offensive and irritating. Buying me things is a good way to make that less unpleasant. :)

I sincerely hope all of you are trolling...If a woman agrees to have sex with a man that she is not in a relationship with, he doesn't owe her anything. If a man agrees to have a friendship with a woman, she does not owe him anything. The same is true if you flip the genders, or add other genders. Furthermore, if someone has to "pay" in any way for sex, then you shouldn't be in a relationship that involves sex. That's really low. I'm not sure you should be in a relationship at all. (Please, please, please be trolls...)

~Pluto

Sofia Vergara on women.

Could you imagine if this was a dude saying this about a woman ? The feminists on tumblr would absolutely lose their fucking minds.. “OMG WHAT A MISOGYNIST RAPIST FEDORA WEARING DOUCHEBRO WE MUST KILL HIM” they’d all shout from their pms fuelled rage. I find it funny that feminists can justify a woman making jokes about killing a guy and then the next minute turn around and bitch and moan and complain and try and ruin some guys life because he told a girl she looked pretty or something that feminists think is oppression but really isn’t. (catcalling is oppressive though!) Shut the fuck up, if you think that, then you actually don’t know anything.

I actually agree. I personally find what she's saying is very creepy. Is it really something to brag about that you find that women will be more violent in their murder than men?

~Pluto

“Gender Bias in College Admissions Tests”, FairTest.org

And then people urge me everything is fine, of course it is, when you’re ignoring statistics that is.

(via cwnl)

Fun fact: SAT tests predict college performance pretty well for men, but they strongly underpredict college performance for women. http://spp.sagepub.com/content/early/2012/12/20/1948550612469038.abstract

HMMMM

(via brute-reason)

I think I’ve reblogged this before, but that study needs to be shared.

(via conjecturesandconversations)

I thought these were some really great points and I’m happy to pass this along. I have one question: what can be done?

~Pluto

(via sailorsoldiersofjustice)

Weren’t the considering doing away with the SATs entirely?

-Jafar

(via disneyvillainsforjustice)

Honestly that would be marvelous. I think interviews and essays (even if not written wonderfully) show intent and devotion to one's studies far more than grades or SAT scores. Maybe even more of a focus on recommendation letters or a show of projects done in and outside of school that the student did especially well on.

~Pluto

“Gender Bias in College Admissions Tests”, FairTest.org

And then people urge me everything is fine, of course it is, when you’re ignoring statistics that is.

(via cwnl)

Fun fact: SAT tests predict college performance pretty well for men, but they strongly underpredict college performance for women. http://spp.sagepub.com/content/early/2012/12/20/1948550612469038.abstract

HMMMM

(via brute-reason)

I think I’ve reblogged this before, but that study needs to be shared.

(via conjecturesandconversations)

I thought these were some really great points and I'm happy to pass this along. I have one question: what can be done?

~Pluto

I saw this cute girl at a coffee shop sitting all alone and I came up to her and asked her what she was drinking she told me “That’s none of your business” bitch I was trying to be fucking romantic and find love at a coffee shop

Fuck you and your fucking coffee

GIRL DRINKING COFFEE ALONE MUST NEED MAN

I WILL BE THAT MAN

I WILL BE HERO

GIRL REJECT ME

GIRL HAVE NO RIGHT TO DO THAT

GIRL IS BITCH AND I HATE HER

I AM ROMANTIC WHY GIRLS NOT LOVE ME

Honestly why is this an issue? Girls try to flirt and find love in public with random people that catch their eye. But Oh heaven forbid a guy try it. This is hypocrisy at a high level. I can’t cound how many stories pop on my dash even including girls snapping pics of the random love interest and all the comments are awww and sweeet. Gotta love double standards. ~chibiusa

I agree that that's a double standard but I don't think these incidents should be seen as "men" and "women" but rather as individual situations. That individual woman didn't want to be hit on and so the individual guy should have realized that and moved on with his life without blaming her and others should not generalize that situation to be reflective of all men or all women. Men will sometimes do the same thing to women and both men and women hit on others.

~Pluto

on the day before valentine’s day this year, my two friends (one male and one female) decided to do a social experiment. they posted the exact same status on facebook and left it up for five minutes, before taking a screenshot to see what reaction they got. I think the pictures speak for themselves.

How upsetting! but also how eye opening...

~Pluto

On Misandry

This is the thing about Misandry:

It exist, there are indeed women who hate men just for being men. But it’s NOT the same as misogyny, misandry is not institutionalized, misandry is not internalized, misandry does not cause the dead of men (okay maybe, but not in the scale of misogyny), misandry is usually a reaction misogyny

Thank you

You should read this post, specifically the last comment being made by the owner of the blog.  There is a historical basis of misogyny in western society but in the present day misandry is arguably just as bad a problem as misogyny.

*eyeroll* Misandry would be as bad a problem as misogyny if it was as widespread as misogyny. But it isn’t, I mean men who are “feminine” are shamed for it, more so than women who are “masculine” (that’s misogyny because it’s saying that there’s something shameful about being feminine, aka female)

It pretty much is as widespread in the west.  Not in places like Saudi Arabia, in in the west it certianly is.  Just because you know and/or care more about women’s issues does not negate the issues men have.

I have no way of saying it next part without coming off as horribly rude so please forgive me: stop making everything about women.  By your logic masculine women are shamed because being masculine is shameful.  In reality it’s because men and women have rigid gender roles that harm everyone and both men and women reinforce those gender roles because that’s how society has raised them.  It’s derailment to act like all the crap men get is because of women and it feeds into the toxic mindset that women are always victims, when they aren’t.

It’s true that women who do no adhere to conventional Femininity are shamed for it, but it’s not nearly as bad as the shitstorm that descends on a man who dares to challenge conventional masculinity. An example: Women can wear pants, but men cannot wear skirts.

And it’s not because of women, it’s because of our sexist society; when I say that it’s misogyny I mean that society thinks that things that are “feminine” are inferior to those that are “masculine”, i.e. a girls can mostly get away with being tomboys, but boys who are sissies are gay or have terrible parents (or both). Heck! Some people still use those words sissy, pussy, “being a girl” as insults! As if been a girl was an insult

People also use the term “dick(head)” as an insult.  To insult a woman’s looks you can call her a man.  The insult is in the misgendering, not what the term represents.

So women are allowed more freedom than men to step outside of gender roles but society is still misogynistic?  Society’s expectation of men is rigid and terrible and we need to stop making it about women because that does nothing.  Femininity not being bad wouldn’t help men at all, because men would still be expected to be masculine.  It is the absence of masculinity that causes men to get crap.

I wasn’t saying it was because of women, I was saying that men and women uphold rigid gender expectations.  Society is only how it is because its members allow it to be, and they allow it to be because that’s how they were raised.  Men and women hurt each other and they hurt people of their own sex as well because of internalised expectations society has.

Personally I don't understand the point in arguing which is worse or which is institutionalized or internalized or which has lasted longer. All I care about is fighting any instance of either of them existing. Isn't that what's most important?

~Pluto