Oh good, exactly what I needed today. A passive aggressive MRA anon in my ask box.
On the VERY LOW CHANCE that you are actually curious, and just want to know the answers to these questions, I’m going to actually answer them. If, however, as I 100% believe, you are an MRA anti-feminist who thinks you’re questions are a “GOTCHA” against feminism, then kindly take my answers with the two middle fingers I’m aiming your way.
1) “How come women have shorter prison sentencing?”
First of all, “women have shorter prison sentencing” is not totally accurate, and LARGELY depends on what crime we’re talking about, where in the country/world we’re talking about, whether the woman is white, how dark her skin is, and many other factors. Women who harm their husbands in self defense, for instance, are largely given much HIGHER prison sentences than men who harm their wives NOT in self defense. Also, dark skinned black women are largely given much HIGHER prison sentences than white men.
In a general sense, though, in the cases in which women ARE given shorter sentencing for the same crimes, it’s a side effect of men perceiving women as being less threatening, less powerful, less important, and also less capable of doing the kind of labor that the system uses prisoners for. So basically it’s a weird “positive” side effect of men thinking women are worth less and capable of less than they are. That attitude has a million negative effects, and just because it might (MIGHT) have a handful of positive ones for women, doesn’t make it good for women or worth it.
And on top of all of that, feminism is about seeking gender EQUALITY, which would have the side effect of fixing that issue.
However, it’s worth noting that fixing this issue may not look the way you expect, since the justice system and prison system in general is extremely fucked up, racist, and basically modern day slavery. So real feminism would be more about changing the system to one that actually HELPS society, than it would be about convicting more women for harsher sentences.
So, TLDR: “How come women have shorter prison sentencing?” Well… they don’t. And even in cases when they do, it’s because of misogyny, and feminists are working on changing it for the better of everyone.
2) “Why do women have shelters just for them. But men do not?”
Women have shelters just for women because women are predominantly harmed by men, and history has shown that including men in women’s safe spaces makes those “safe spaces” no longer safe.
((Side note here, I’m referring exclusively to cis men, since I don’t know any statistics about trans men on this topic, and I am referring to ALL women because excluding trans women from women-only-spaces is transmisogynistic and therefore generally misogynistic, and because trans women have never posed any real threat to cis women within safe spaces, but ABSOLUTELY need safe spaces at least as much as cis women to))
There ARE some safe spaces specifically for male victims/survivors of domestic abuse, and there are some safe spaces that are not gender restricted.
You’re right, however, that there aren’t as many. This is partly because there aren’t as many male victims/survivors of domestic abuse, but it’s also because society at large thinks that men aren’t capable of BEING victims/survivorsof domestic abuse, because the patriarchy (again) perceives women as being less threatening and less powerful than men, and perceives any man who has been abused by a woman as having been weak and feminine and a joke and not worth protecting or defending.
Women know that that’s not true, so women actually DO fight for the rights of male victims/survivors of domestic abuse. Any shelters that do exist have been fought for almost exclusively by feminists and male survivors. Men who aren’t survivors don’t tend to take this issue seriously or think about it at all (unless they need a “GOTCHA” argument against feminists, despite it not being that at all).
Also the patriarchy assumes that all men and people are cishet, so there’s little to no consideration for trans men who’ve been abused generally, or for cis men who’ve been abused by other men.
TLDR: “Why do women have shelters just for them. But men do not?” Men actually do, but not as many as they should, and that’s because of misogyny too, and feminists are working on changing it for the better of everyone.
3) You’re overall MRA bullshit attitude:
Honestly, just fuck off with your “Why aren’t feminists prioritizing men? Where’s your gender equality now, huh?” attitude. Feminists are prioritizing women specifically because society doesn’t.
Why aren’t there more shelters for men? I don’t know, why don’t you ask that question of anyone who ISN’T marginalized based on gender? Why don’t you ask that question of anyone with real power? Why don’t you ask that question in any context OTHER than trying to make feminism look bad?
How dare women prioritize women, right?
How dare women not put men’s needs first in absolutely all areas, including their activism for their own rights and safety, in the face of overwhelming oppression and violence BY MEN? How dare women carve out safe spaces for themselves in a society that is basically just one big safe space for (white) men? How dare they, right?