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Occasionally fighting with your friends is normal, but if it hurts you too much, you're allowed to walk away.
Sometimes people grow in different directions. Sometimes other feelings get in the way that make it impossible to keep a good relationship. Whatever it is, your comfort is the most important thing.
Hello beautiful Scouts,
First of all, thanks for all the messages of encouragement. They mean the world to me, and I'm sure the other mods feel the same way.
As you might have imagined, I'm still struggling with my relapse. I'm currently in a phase in which I think people don't like me, I fear my friends only hang out with me out of pity, I'm scared people will start realising I'm not as cool as they thought I was...
It's really tough, but I have a weapon I didn't have in the past, and that's awareness. I know this won't last forever, and I know it's all in my head. Still, it's difficult and exhausting.
I'm trying to stay strong, because I deserve to be alright. I do, you do, we all do.
Lots of love.
Hi! Um I just wanted to say I have a little bit of a problem with the decision making one that just went up. While it's true that it means they trust you, it is extremely stressful and unnecessary to make decisions for other people? Especially if they can acknowledge them. You can help, but not decide. In fact, this past summer I had such a terrible problem with people wanting me to make decisions for them I had a terrible cutting/panic attack relapse and it took me completely removing (1/2)
myself from situations where there was a possibility of me talking to these people. So, I dunno. I really love this blog and you're lovely and it brings me so much cheer and just aahhh I felt it was important to talk about that decision one :< Thank you for your hard work!! (2/2)
This is an ask we just got (the person wants to remain unnamed in public) and I just wanted to address this for everyone to see.
It's definitely not necessary to make decisions for others in their personal lives, most of the time. But sometimes you are put in charge of them: if they're worried about a new medication affecting their decision-making, or if you're part of a group and voted to be leader, or they're someone you're dating and leave a choice about whose family to spend holidays with up to you. Situations like that. This isn't about unsolicited decision-making, or someone merely coming to you for advice. This is about when they've previously asked you "can you help me?" and you're in a position of authority either over or with them because of that.
You should always take care of yourself, yes. If someone is stressing you out by relying on you all the time, remove yourself from the situation (hopefully while finding them another support, but sometimes you don't have the chance to do that). If at all possible, leave something that causes you to relapse or not be okay and don't look back. Self-care should always come first.
But that doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't recognize that you're the type of person people will trust with an important task, or that you can't try to handle it by reminding yourself of that before reaching a point where you have to step away.
--Sailor Mercury
For those in long distance relationships. Luna knows.
Haruka & Michiru approve of girls who like other girls.
-- Sailor Uranus
