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By: Andrew Doyle

Published: Feb 11, 2024

One of the more maddening aspects of the culture war is that language has been rendered meaningless. Most of the disputes are destined to remain unresolved because there are few shared definitions among competing parties. We are left with armies of straw men thrashing about on an imaginary battlefield, while most of us look on in a state of bewilderment.

The recent debates over “conversion therapy” are a case in point. At a Labour Party event in parliament on 29 January, Keir Starmer pledged to “implement a full, trans-inclusive, ban on all forms of conversion therapy”. He is likely to find some support among the population. A YouGov poll last year revealed that 65 per cent of voters believe that “gay conversion therapy” ought to be banned and 62 per cent feel the same about “trans conversion therapy”. This would suggest that most voters do not recognise the difference between the two, a natural consequence of a climate in which discussion of sensitive issues is routinely stymied by both the browbeaters and the browbeaten.

Yet when we wade beyond the messy definitional quagmires, we find that the phrase “conversion therapy” is only coherent when applied to sexual orientation rather than gender identity. The consequence of this semantic ambiguity means that most people do not understand that in order to oppose gay conversion therapy, one must be opposed to a ban on “trans conversion therapy”.

This will require some explanation. When we hear the phrase “conversion therapy”, most of our minds leap to a variety of horrific practices. In America, Christian fundamentalists have established programmes to address the “problem” of homosexuality. This was satirised in an episode of South Park where Butters Stotch is mistakenly assumed to be gay by his parents and dispatched to “Camp New Grace” whose slogan is “Pray the Gay Away”. At one point, the boys attend a presentation by Pastor Phillips, who tells them that he “used to have unclean urges” but was healed through the power of prayer, all the while prancing around like Nathan Lane in The Birdcage.

The episode doesn’t shy away from the darker side of these kinds of retreats. Suicides are shown to be common among the boys, all of which the staff are happy to shrug off.

One might argue that “praying the gay away” is at least a step forward from the brain surgery, castration and electric shock treatment favoured by scientific practitioners in the twentieth century. One thinks of the American psychiatrist Dr Robert Galbraith Heath, whose team implanted electrodes into the brains of patients which were then stimulated while the victims were shown heterosexual pornography. Heath claimed to have successfully converted a gay man, and wrote a paper with his colleague Charles E. Moan called “Septal stimulation for the initiation of heterosexual behavior in a homosexual male”.

This was happening in England too. In 2014, I performed in a show called Outings at the Edinburgh Festival Fringe, in which verbatim testimonies of coming-out stories were dramatised. One of the scenes had been submitted by a Liverpudlian man who, as a teenager in the 1960s, was referred by doctors to an institution where he was forced to look at pictures of naked men while drinking to excess and being injected with substances that caused him to vomit. These medical practitioners also applied electrodes to his penis. Needless to say, it didn’t work.

Another form of conversion therapy is the “corrective rape” of lesbians to “cure” them of homosexual tendencies. I recall a chilling account of one victim, Simphiwe Thandeka, who was interviewed by the New York Times in 2013 as part of a piece about the “epidemic of corrective rape” in South Africa. A tomboy in youth and a lesbian in adult life, Simphiwe was raped on three occasions by an uncle who then paid a friend to rape her multiple times and take her as a wife. She was left pregnant by this man and HIV positive from her uncle. Her mother and grandmother encouraged her to keep it a secret, saying that it was a “family matter” and “not to be spoken of again”.

Such practices are, of course, already illegal in the UK, so why are there so many calls for bans on “conversion therapy”, even from members of the Conservative Party? In the past we have seen Labour politicians holding placards calling for this “trans-inclusive ban”, and now Starmer has confirmed that this is the official Labour position. But what precisely does it mean?

In her book Time to Think, Hannah Barnes revealed that between 80 to 90 percent of adolescents who were referred to the Tavistock paediatric gender clinic were same-sex attracted. We have known for a long time that there is a strong correlation between gender nonconformity in youth and being gay in adult life. Members of the staff at the Tavistock itself joked that “soon there would be no gay people left” and whistleblowers revealed that homophobia was endemic. In other words, children who are likely to grow up gay are being “fixed” by medical practitioners to better conform with stereotypical heterosexual paradigms.

Starmer’s proposed “trans-inclusive ban” on conversion therapy is therefore based on a misunderstanding. It conflates the state-sanctioned torture of gay people in the past with the important work of paediatricians that support children who are struggling with their feelings. Moreover, Barnes’s research shows that the Tavistock clinic “ignored evidence that 97.5 per cent of children seeking sex changes had autism, depression or other problems that might have explained their unhappiness”. With only 2% of the country’s children suffering from an Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD), why did 35% of referrals to the Tavistock fit into this category? In almost all instances, children who are prescribed puberty blockers go on to cross-sex hormones, which in some cases lead to irreversible surgery. We are dealing overwhelmingly here with gay and autistic children, fast-tracked onto a pathway to sterilisation.

The Scottish government has already charged down this regressive path via its consultation on “banning conversion practices”. As Dennis Kavanagh’s excellent overview shows, it seeks to introduce a “new criminal offence which imposes liability for practices that seek to change or suppress a person’s sexuality or gender identity”. This risks the criminalisation of medical practitioners who do not automatically take the “gender-affirmative” approach, and could see parents referred to social services if they fail to support the “social transitioning” of their children (the practice of allowing children to dress as the opposite sex and be referred to by different names and pronouns). Social transitioning has already been criticised as “not a neutral act” in the interim Cass Report (whose conclusions led to the decision to close the Tavistock), and could risk exacerbating feelings of gender dysphoria that in most cases will naturally resolve themselves. The proposed Scottish legislation can be read here, and the deadline for consultation responses is midnight on 2 April.

The “gender-affirmative” approach favoured by clinics across the western world has already been widely debunked, most notably in an open letter last July to the Wall Street Journal by twenty-one leading experts in paediatric gender treatment. They were writing to oppose the view that gender-affirming care is best for children, and pointed out that the common claim that puberty blockers reduce the risk of suicide is simply not backed up by the evidence. Unsurprisingly, this open letter went largely unreported.  

As for puberty blockers, the interim Cass Report found that there is a lack of secure evidence for their safety. In June of 2023, the NHS announced that puberty blockers would be limited to children on clinical trials. Following similar reviews, Finland, Sweden and Norway have also implemented restrictions. The risks of sterility, depression, and lifelong regret are now clear. So why is there not a serious discussion taking place about banning puberty blockers altogether? Why are medical experts willing to experiment on the most vulnerable in society on the basis of intuition that flies in the face of the evidence? Studies show that in the vast majority of cases feelings of gender dysphoria in youth are resolved by puberty. Why are we blocking the cure?

Thankfully, more and more people are waking up to the scale of this problem. This week, there was a debate in the House of Lords in which many of these concerns were raised (the full transcript can be read here). The debate was on the new Conversion Therapy Prohibition (Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity) Bill being championed by the Liberal Democrats. Baroness Claire Fox was particularly strong on the point of “gender identity” and how the proposed legislation fails to define it.

“How would the noble Baroness, Lady Burt, define gender identity, before she tries to embed it in UK law for the first time? It is, at best, a contested concept. I appreciate that a precise, fixed definition might be tricky, when this particular identity can cover over 100 to 300 genders – transgender, gender-fluid, genderqueer, gender-variant, genderless and non-binary.”

Were it not for the inherent austerity of the House of Lords, she might well have added the identity category of “genderfuck”, defined on LGBTQIA+ Wiki as “a gender identity and/or gender expression where gendered expectations are deliberately played with to combine gender-specific signals”. Make of that what you will. 

And also this week, the equalities minister Kemi Badenoch wrote to the Commons women and equalities select committee about her discussions with former clinicians at the Tavistock. The conclusion? So called “gender-affirmative care” amounts to “conversion therapy for gay kids”. Crucially, she cited a survey of detransitioners (those who are pressurised into transitioning and later regret it) in which 23% of respondents put their experiences down to experiences of homophobia. Badenoch quoted a gender clinic in Germany:

“It must be understood that early hormone therapy may interfere with the patient’s development as a homosexual. This may not be in the interest of patients who, as a result of hormone therapy, can no longer have the decisive experiences that enable them to establish a homosexual identity.”

It is profoundly disturbing that Starmer’s Labour party is now officially supporting gay conversion therapy in the form of a ban on “trans-inclusive conversion therapy”. A charitable interpretation is that Starmer simply does not understand the issues behind his dangerously anti-gay proposals. Homosexuality was removed from the World Health Organisation’s list of psychiatric disorders in 1993, and I am sure that our likely next Prime Minister does not sincerely believe that gay people require medical treatment. But if his policies are enacted, his good intentions will count for nothing. With all the information now freely available, ignorance is no longer an excuse.

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By: Bev Jackson

Published: May 12, 2023

Who is responsible for undermining the rights of lesbians and gays at the United Nations? Why, that would be Victor Madrigal-Borloz, the UN’s Independent Expert for Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity (SOGI). “What’s that?” you say. Shouldn’t he be protecting the rights of people who are attracted to others of the same sex? Ah, but SOGI is a way of getting round that. Having an advocate for Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity is a bit like having one for Veganism and Chicken Farming. It doesn’t work.
Victor has just concluded an official visit to the UK — probably his last, since his second term is coming to an end. For the first nine days of his ten day visit, he met almost exclusively with gender identity enthusiasts. It was not, I think, a question of saving the best (in his view) for last.
Victor is a passionate advocate of gender self-ID. He has an impressive ability to claim over and over again, with a straight face, things that are untrue. He seems to have got on well with Nicola Sturgeon. He came to her aid twice to promote Scotland’s ill-fated Gender Recognition Reform Bill. One of Victor’s favourite untruths is that international human rights law requires the introduction of gender self-ID. This completely false notion relies on a little-known document — the Yogyakarta Principles or YP — which identifies as “best practice” when it is simply an activist manifesto. Human rights law professor Rob Wintemute, one of the signatories back in 2006, later changed his position when he realised that the impact on women’s rights had not been considered when the YP were being drafted. 
Where Victor is supposed to represent SOGI, he just focuses on the GI without the SO. Victor is the only Independent Expert (IE) to have a dual mandate encompassing irreconcilable aims. It recently emerged that he receives funding from the Arcus Foundation, which means that rather than “independent expert”, he is a paid mouthpiece for gender identity.
Victor maintains there is no conflict between the rights of LGB people and those claimed under the banner of “trans rights”. Whatever definition of “trans” you choose (and there are as many as there are scandals in the SNP), this is obviously untrue. Either people born male belong on a lesbian dating site, or they don’t. Either persons born female can be in a gay men’s sauna — without revealing their little secret — or they don’t belong there. Either it is fine to say you’re only attracted to people of the same sex, or it isn’t — because saying so out loud is hurtful and makes you a transphobe or a “sexual racist”, as Nancy Kelley (somehow still CEO of Stonewall) has been known to say. In this conflict you can jump one way or the other, but you can’t say no jumping is required.
Victor also insists — and this is his favourite mantra — that self-ID has not caused any problems in any country in the world. He has been sent pages of evidence to the contrary: abuses in prisons in countries from Ireland to Canada, explanations that data is becoming impossible to collect, abuses in women’s and girls’ sport, the self-exclusion of women of faith from vital services. Above all, there is documentation of what happens when children are sold a lie. It really isn’t possible to change sex. It is difficult to hear the pain expressed by dozens of women, and some men, now in their twenties or thirties who dare to speak in public about their bitter regret that they believed the lie, acted on it and are forced to live the rest of their lives with the consequences.
Sex is sex, and gender is — who knows? Victor knows, apparently. He also has a bridge to sell you.
LGB Alliance and other LGB groups have sent him numerous submissions, but he buries them and dismisses criticism of self-ID as “bigoted and exclusionary narratives”. It is of course exclusionary to exclude males from lesbian spaces. Nasty bigots. Everyone who stands up for sex-based rights is so used to being called names, that the abuse just inspires confidence — no one who has real arguments resorts to name-calling.
At LGB Alliance we became so concerned by Victor’s non-fulfilment of his sexual orientation mandate, his misrepresentations and his dismissal of our concerns that in January this year we submitted a long and detailed complaint in several languages to the President of the Human Rights Council and published it on our website.
This visit to the UK, Victor’s swan song in his ill-fated position, was a last chance to repeat the many points we have made to him over the years. We were pleased he met with Joanna Cherry KC MP, Chair of the Human Rights Committee, who was doubtless able to correct his misunderstandings of international human rights law. His final day’s schedule included — wonder of wonders (anything to do with that complaint?) — a meeting with some of those he has spent his entire term of office ignoring or belittling: Kate Harris of LGB Alliance, Dennis Kavanagh of the Gay Men’s Network and Paula Boulton of Lesbian Labour. The LGB groups’ aim was to ask some very pointed questions to elicit brief, cohesive replies — not the kind of Butlerian gibberish he is used to spouting (“Of course the challenging of the binary causes significant sensations of vertigo when the challenging of the binary appears to seek dismantling of binary structures”). We wanted him to say yes or no to whether homosexuals should have rights — simple stuff like that.
At this stage there was little point in being conciliatory. Years of polite requests had produced no result. So we bluntly repeated all the things we have been telling him for years. Funnily enough, he professed ignorance of all of it. “Cotton ceiling” (the difficulty trans-identifying males experience getting into lesbians’ pants)? Never heard of it. Homosexual detransitioners — surely part of his mandate in the interests of “inclusion”? Hmmm … please send details of such persons. Keira Bell, Sonia Appleby? Never heard of them. Quote from Dr Hilary Cass on lesbians who had felt pressured to transition? Silence. Had he met with Dr Cass? Didn’t want to say. GIDS clinic due to close because an NHS review found it to be unsafe? Oh, hadn’t heard. David Bell? Who’s that? Homophobia a key factor driving teens to seek gender transition? Here Victor raised a hand and flatly ruled it out. Not possible. HER dating site controversy? Who is HER? The Hoyle case in Tasmania in which a lesbian gathering was ruled unlawful? No, didn’t know about that. This last one is a bit telling since it is actually mentioned in one of Victor’s own reports.
Victor also wanted us to understand a few things. For one, children should have agency to make decisions about their bodies. Interesting. Would that apply to laws governing alcohol and cigarette sales, and legal or illicit drugs? Not to mention laws on the age of consent? Presumably so. With this “bodily autonomy” approach, the whole concept of safeguarding flies out of the window.
What Victor doesn’t know, or doesn’t want to know, or refuses to acknowledge, is that you can’t promote gender self-ID without undermining the interests of people with same-sex sexual orientation. Self-ID zealots say two men who both identify as women can be a lesbian couple. Their opponents — including LGB Alliance, Lesbian Labour and the Gay Men’s Network — say that is homophobic nonsense.
Victor’s position is being advertised. Can it be filled by someone who sees the contradictions and dares to conduct open discussions about them? Would the UN accept such an individual? We shall see. 
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This might be a hot take.
The whole concept of "inclusion" started with education. Making sure children with special needs had access to a quality education.
Having access to that which you are entitled to have access to, that's inclusion. What inclusion is not is making sure people have access everywhere.
You're not entitled to be everywhere.
Dating is not inclusive. When it comes to dating, relationships and sexual intimacy, everyone has the right to define, determine and build their own sexual boundaries.
What we do not have the right to do is redefine or knock down someone's sexual boundaries so we can make space for ourselves.
The entire art of dating is discriminatory by nature. What does it for you is what does it for you, and what turns you off is what turns you off. You can't unring a bell.
Also, demanding people provide a valid reason, it's almost predatory. "No" is a complete sentence, and it's still an effective way to end a conversation. You're not entitled to a why.
You're not going to be everyone's cup of tea. But there's something for everyone. Find the people who want you and stop trying to shame the people who don't.

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The fact a completely reasonable position could be considered a "hot take" tells you how far we've fallen and how much ground we've surrendered to the unreasonable.

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By: GD Alliance

Published: Feb 4, 2023

In response to activists attempting to frame exploratory therapy as “conversion therapy”
Firstly, the conflation of exploratory therapy and conversion therapy has no basis in evidence. The assertion is emotional, subjective, and employs data about the impact of conversion efforts to change homosexuals, not Gender Dysphoria. Conversion efforts for sexual orientation are rooted in moral objections to same-sex attraction and the historical belief that homosexuality is a mental illness. We do not support conversion efforts.
This contrasts with Gender Dysphoria (GD), which is classified as a psychological condition and has multiple developmental pathways. GD, previously called Gender Identity Disorder (GID) and evolving into names like Gender Incongruence, isn’t a single thing. There are at least three well studied types and additional types have been hypothesized. Much more is understood now than was in previous decades. Clinical thinking, from a developmental psychology perspective, has shifted along with this understanding. Gender Exploratory Therapy means psychotherapy, which not rooted in any moral objection to the client’s experience and aims to help clients understand their experience from a psychological perspective. It guides through a self-discovery process, which is not coercive or for the purpose of any specific outcome.  
Historically, some clinicians saw gender nonconforming (GNC) behaviour as a symptom of GD and so would advise actions to limit those behaviours. In more recent years, research has been informative about the ways in which GNC is related to sexual orientation, not GD. For example, Dr Paul Vasey, a Canadian researcher who studies homosexuality in cultures which do not suppress gay GNC, noted that in such cultures, gender-related distress is almost non-existent. He concluded that GD in Children should be removed from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM), since even extreme GNC behaviour in children is most often a harmless, organic, developmental aspect of homosexuality, and that distress (GD) is most often the product of an environment hostile to that process. Given this evidence, it is now seen as counter-productive for a clinician to align oneself with an environment that may be contributing to the development of a distress disorder in a GNC child.
In light of research developments like these, one consideration a gender exploratory therapist might make when working with a child with gender distress is to explore the family and community structures in which the child is living, aiming to better support the GNC of the child in healthy, developmentally appropriate ways. This is an important departure from the “take the dolls away” approach seen historically. It’s also an important departure from hastily labelling that child “trans” and seeing medical interventions as the only solution to distress.
We’d like to assert that clinical thinking pertaining to any area of clinical practice evolves as it’s informed by new evidence. How things were done historically, if later proven to be erroneous, should be seen as a part of the natural evolution of clinical practice, not indicative of character failures or lack of trustworthiness of the profession as a whole.
We believe the mischaracterization of Gender Exploratory Therapy as something harmful or suspicious is based largely on unnecessary fears that GET is a rebranding of outdated practices. Please be assured that this is not the case. As seen in the UK over this past year, the same clinicians who called for reform in gender care practices are those who advocate for Gender Exploratory Therapy and, as many trans activists themselves have admitted, the UK is improving access and support, not eliminating care as a result of those efforts.
Activist overreach that’s forcing the psychotherapeutic professions, along with their evidence-based understanding of Gender Dysphoria/incongruence and sexual orientation, out of our system has created unsafe, incompetent, unethical care. It’s led to an increase in medical harm; And a decrease in meaningful help and understanding of our experiences. It’s led to minimal psychological and social support for patients, and a mass over-medicalization and commodification of natural human diversity. It has also contributed to public misconceptions about GNC and Gender Dysphoria, which directly impacts our quality of life.
There is no boogey-man hiding behind Gender Exploratory Therapy.
For more information: https://genderexploratory.com

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You can be confident that it’s about ideology rather than care and wellbeing when activists demand you not look for the underlying cause or any contributing factors, and misrepresent any such effort as essentially torture.

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"I have said this many times, and I will keep repeating myself until I'm blue in the face, because it's that important.
I will die on this hill.
That being said...
... DATING IS NOT INCLUSIVE.
Dating, by its very nature, is discriminatory. The concepts of inclusion and exclusion shouldn't even touch the realm of dating.
Shaming people over their preferences and sexual orientation is predatory.
Shaming people out of their boundaries? Predatory.
It's manipulation, coercion, it's gaslighting.
Inclusion is having access to that which you are entitled. You are not entitled to any of the following: someone's time, someone's personal space, someone's body.
No means no. This mantra should have graduated to common sense, but it hasn't.
No one has to justify their boundaries. Take your rejection and move on to someone who actually wants you."

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The fact that there are people who want to harangue others into being with them who don't want to be with them, and regard themselves as having a higher morality, a more pious, more enlightened being, shows how far things have come off the rails.

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The reason is simpler than you might think. With the biggest battles fought and won, although there were some small skirmishes still to be fought, the core reasons for Stonewall’s existence had been fulfilled, and its need to maintain the same level of size, influence and funding had evaporated.

This is sometimes called the “St. George in Retirement Syndrome.” The dragon has been fought and killed, but now what? You have to find more, new dragons.

For Stonewall, the answer was straightforward: gut everything that it had ever stood for; adopt the reality and biology denial of gender ideology, as it has no bottom and therefore limitless agenda; wear the carcass of its former self while refashioning itself as one of the most culturally influential purveyors and apologists of anti-gay rhetoric; pretend that, like the redefinition of homosexual itself, it was always like that from the beginning; and demonize the people it used to represent and now betrayed, who notice and object to what it’s become.

Sexual attraction is not a “preference,” it’s a desire.

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I saw this TikTok and I lost it. At least once a year, we have this weird conversation on this app about dating, and how some people will exclude certain people from their dating options, and whether or not it is okay to discriminate people in said fashion.
This is such a stupid conversation.
It’s stupid because you don’t need a reason to say no. You don’t need to justify your boundaries. No one is entitled to your time, your space or your body.
No means no. Anyone trying to demand something beyond a no is predatory.
If your answer is no and that person says “well, why?” your response should be “I. Said. No.”
You may not even know why you’re saying no. You just know “that makes me uncomfortable.”
That’s. Reason. Enough.
Anyone that would demand you be uncomfortable for their sake? Predatory.
Comment: “everyone has preferences and noone should have to explain that to anyone else. you are so right”
The word preference gets overused a lot in this conversation, and honestly, I think we’re using it wrong. I think we use the word preference to kind of placate when what we really desire is not a preference, it’s just what we desire.
I’m a heterosexual female. I don’t prefer men. To say I prefer men implies that women are an option, and they’re not.
Now, I prefer a man over six foot, as opposed to a man under six foot, but I don’t prefer tall men over short men. I desire men who are taller than me.
Everyone has a list of things they would settle for, and a list of things they would never sacrifice.
People just need to pick up their courage and say what they mean. Stop trying to placate people in an attempt to not offend them.
I can give you a list of my standards, but I am not required to justify them or try make them make sense to you. Half the time it doesn’t even make sense to me, a lot of it’s just natural, it’s just the way you’re wired.
Evolutionary biology with respect to attraction, it’s a real thing.
This conversation would go a long way if we all learned the difference between what we prefer and what we desire. And then be honest about it.

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We already had this conversation decades ago when we switched to the term sexual orientation instead of sexual preference as it applies to heterosexuality, bisexuality and homosexuality. But at some point, it reverted to preference, maybe not in definition, but at least in application. And more insidiously, genital preference. What’s most disturbing about that is where it came from.

Your (legal) attraction, your desire, is not a subject for a committee or activism or a hashtag campaign. It’s yours, and yours alone. (By the same token, it’s also not something to be making into anyone else’s business.) Your discomfort is not something to be fixed or re-learned. Anyone who tells you that you need to re-learn your desires regarding yourself and other consenting adults is an authoritarian and an abuser.

Our parents taught us that if we found ourselves in positions that we were uncomfortable with - e.g. drugs, sex, personal space, etc - it was okay to leave, and not to cave to peer pressure, not to be coerced by someone else into doing something we don’t want to do. We are now being told that advice is not only wrong, but bigoted. This is the tactic of a predator and an abuser.

If Xians, with their god and their hellfire, don’t get to dictate someone’s desire, why should some random online freak? This isn’t about your none-of-their-business attraction, it’s about their need to control others.

If someone tries to shame, guilt or harass you, don’t let them get away with calling it a mere preference, tell them “no means no” and call them a sexual predator until they fuck off.

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