Tinder tip 💸

We all know at this point that you cannot say you’re a sugar baby in your profile on these vanilla dating sites. This includes Tinder, Okcupid, Plenty of Fish, and any others you want to use. However, I didn’t even realize until recently that discussing an arrangement with a POT in your private messages on these sites is also bad. It’s another reason that all of your accounts keep getting suspended. If you discuss being a sugar baby with a man who isn’t receptive, he may report your account out of spite. Here’s how to make sure your account will stay around. Once you’ve matched with a POT, have your small talk on the site. Once you’ve chatted a bit, send him your phone number (one connected to a texting app of course) and ask him to text you. Once you’ve received a text, block him on the dating site so he can’t report your profile. Have all of the arrangement discussions over text, and if he becomes disgruntled he can’t report you. That’s the #1 reason profiles get deleted, and it’s been effective for me so far.

If your nude photos are posted online without your permission, Microsoft and Google want to know.

For years, most victims of revenge porn — people who have had their nude photos shared online without permission — basically couldn’t do anything about it.

According to one study, over 50% of all adults engage in sexting, and 70% admit to having received a nude photo online or over the phone.

And yet, despite the fact that we all (or at least more than half of us) do it, there’s still this weird, persistent, harmful notion that if your naked pictures get leaked or shared maliciously by an ex online, it’s your fault for taking them in the first place.

It’s completely backward, but sadly, the law seems to at least kind of agree.

As of September 2014, New Republic found, putting someone else’s illicit photos online without their consent was illegal in just 16 states, though laws have been proposed in more states. Not only is it typically impossible to prosecute the perpetrator, they note, it’s impossible to legally compel websites to take the images taken down most of the time.

But thankfully, Microsoft and Google — which operate two of the biggest search engines on the web — don’t think it’s your fault. And they’re finally saying “Enough is enough.”

Here’s how to report a non-consensual image posting on Bing.

And here’s how to do it on Google.

Boost!

Here’s another way to fight back from your friendly neighborhood law student! If you took these pictures yourself, you owe the copyrights to these pictures so in addition to taking down the pictures you can smack them with a lawsuit not only for intentional infliction of emotional distress BUT ALSO copyright infringement so he has to pay you anywhere from $750-$10,000 per photo posted, x5 damages if there’s willfulness/malice (which there always is). Bleed those creeps dry.

I wish I knew this when someone posted mine online

Discipline 101

So you have the ambition. You have all the answers. All you lack is the discipline.

Unsurprisingly, this is a problem most people have, so don’t worry, you’re not alone.

Tell me, do you have a concrete goal? Or is it something vague like, “Rule the world”, or “get rich” or “become famous”?

Usually those who lack discipline have a habit of getting ahead of themselves and they end up having all these fantastic goals without any knowledge of how to achieve them. They have big ambitions, but no clear plans, no visible steps, and no foundation to start their life on. It’s the equivalent of standing on one side of the river and being able to see the other side, but having no method of making it across.

It’s good to have a starting point, and know what you want in the end. But the path to earning what you desire isn’t pre-made for you. It’s up to you to lay every brick and measure everything out. In your life, you’re the architect, you’re the engineer, you’re the investor, you’re everything.

So the how do you get some discipline?  It’s simple: You need to know how you’re going to do something, before you set out to do it.

Step 1: Get Motivated

Make a list. And make sure you handwrite it. Two columns. Think about everything you have a problem with, all your interests and passions, and everything you have ever wanted in one column. In the other column, spend as much time as you need to come up with solutions to each issue/goal. Don’t write one side, without the other.

Spend a couple days looking at that list. Make it into a poster, use it as your phone background, it doesn’t matter as long as you make sure you see it every day until you feel something. I’m saying that incredibly vaguely because people are fueled by different emotions. For me, it was rage.

Every morning, I stared at that list of everything I’d ever wanted, every little problem that made my life miserable and I got furious. To see what my life revolved around so callously written on paper, and feeling so close yet so far, that drove me insane. My anger made my passion double, and nothing fuels discipline more than passion.

Step 2: Plan

Once you’ve gotten yourself suitably motivated to take charge of your life, don’t waste any time. Start by creating a plan. Now that you know what you want to do, figure out how to do it.

Create a timeline for the next year and then a looser version for the next ten years. It can sound daunting, but when you fall off track at some point (and I can guarantee, you will) you’re going to need something to point you in the right direction.

For your detailed, one year plan, make sure your goals are distributed into two categories: Short term and Long term.  

For your short term goals, list everything you want to achieve in that year and how exactly you’re going to do it.

For example,  if you want to lose weight, I don’t just want to see you write down “lose weight”. Tell me how. Tell me how much. Tell me by when. “Lose five pounds by October by going to the gym 4 days a week”, or “Cut down on eating X food so I can lose 5 pounds by October”, etc. Be specific.

For your long term goals, pick 3 things you want in general. The first thing should be something you can achieve in that year, and it should be the focus of your entire year. The second thing is something you don’t necessarily need, but it makes you happy anyways (like spending more time on a hobby, or saving money for a new designer bag, etc.). The third thing should be something that stays fairly consistent in every single ‘year-plan’ you have. Ultimately, it’s either your most important desire, or very close to it.

These long term goals will help you put together your 10 year plan, and create a better sense of direction in your life.

Step 3: Prioritize

Learn to prioritize these tasks and goals. Don’t go to sleep until you’ve felt like you’ve completed all your tasks for the day. Don’t give in to distractions and the illusion of “well-deserved fun”. Sure, going clubbing may seem fun on  Saturday, but it won’t be fun on Sunday night when you’re frantically writing a paper that’s due in two hours. There’s always time for fun later, there’s always another concert and another football game and another party. But some things have a greater impact on your life than just one night of “fun”.

I’m not saying become some kind of a workaholic. There’s always a time and a place for everything. If you try to follow your plan without any distractions or any fun, you’re going to get bored and then you’re start to hate your plan and your life and then it gets messy. Avoid all that by knowing when you’ve earned a break. It’s very important to discern when you can afford to step away from work to have fun with your friends and when going out is just going to distract you from an important deadline. 

Step 4: Act

Now, don’t just write these goals down and shove them in a dusty file on your desk. Keep them within arms reach. Look at them frequently. What I like to do is every morning, I write down a short term goal I have for that week/day/month and one of my long-term goals in my planner. It’s just a little reminder and keeps me focused throughout the day. I don’t feel like my day is complete or productive until I’ve had some progress on either the long term or short term goal.

Also, keep in mind that while planning is a great thing to do, don’t expect yourself to stick to every single detail of the plan. Life happens, and there are certain things you cannot control (although it wouldn’t hurt to try). Don’t be too hard on yourself if you find yourself unable to complete one of your goals for the day/week/month. It happens to everyone, we’re all human. What you need to focus on is the big picture and move on. Don’t waste precious time wallowing in past mistakes. Time doesn’t wait for anyone, least of all for you.

Step 5: Commit

Discipline doesn’t come from just being motivated or having a plan. It comes from consistency. Form productive habits, start efficient routines, and stick to them. For example, if you want to become a writer, make sure you write something, however small it is, everyday. One sentence, one paragraph, one page, the amount doesn’t matter. It’s important to understand that something, however small, is better than nothing. This constant dedication to your work will help you move one step closer to your goals.

The more you force yourself to stay in line when faced with temptation, the easier it will be every other time you are faced with the same challenge further down the line. Everyone forms habits. Just make sure they’re the right ones and you’d be shocked at how much your life could change.

Everything you need to become disciplined is inside of you. Everyone has the willpower and motivation. It’s just some people know what to do with it.

Just remember: Get motivated. Plan. Prioritize. Act. Commit

And the world is yours.

Money & Rich Men

When it comes to men with money and sharing that money with a hot young thing like you, I just think of it like if it were the other way around and I was the rich one.

Because 100% if I cared about/wanted someone and knew money was a quick fix to most of their problems, I’d be throwing it their way.

Even now I actually have to limit what I let myself spend on family and friends because I want to treat them and make their lives easier and watch their face light up when I give them something, especially if it’s nothing to me.

So in my opinion, if a rich man gives a damn about you, it shouldn’t be a question of “should I finesse or no”, it should just happen because he knows you’ll appreciate it. When you ask he should go above and beyond. If you have bills to pay, one word and it should be done.

None of this pulling teeth to get a single penny out of him bullshit. None of this “if you really cared you wouldn’t ask” or “it doesn’t feel real if I’m giving you money” bullshit.

Nah. If he’s loaded and cares about you, it shouldn’t even be a question. You should be living in luxury same as him.

Where can I buy her album tho

that vibrato

SHE SOUND SO GOOD!!!!!

If someone treats you like you are unimportant, it is a reflection of them and what they value out of relationships. It is not a reflection of you or your worth as person. You don’t have to prove your importance to other people.

Sugaring is honestly 40% luck and 60% persistence. 💭

Don’t ever forget this, ladies! I’ve been wanting to say this for a while now, especially to the black and brown aspiring sugar babies. I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve gotten down on myself about not receiving the same kind of attention as I know white sugar babies do, or reading through a profile that sounds ideal and then at the end seeing the part that says “Caucasian, Latina, and Asian only - just a PREFERENCE”. 🙄 Don’t give up.

The other thing that I think needs to be said is that I am not conventionally pretty. I did the Big Chop about four months ago and still think that my nose is a little too big for my face (I was told that all the time growing up). But guess what? Every POT date that I’ve been on, I’ve walked away with an arrangement offer. I have been begged for second dates, been promised $150 for a first date and walked away after being given all the cash he had in his wallet, I’m preparing to move into my own studio apartment, paid my mom back all the money I’ve owed her, started saving again, and was able to buy my best friend a really expensive gift that I knew she’d love (lots of tears were shed).

I spent almost a year after my last vanilla relationship feeling like I wasn’t worth it. I was 19 when that relationship began; he was 26. When it ended, I felt like he had stolen something from me… my time, the gift of my intimate self, money I had spent going to visit him almost every weekend. I realized that what I had provided was labor – emotional and sexual labor, that was never reciprocated or compensated in a way that I felt okay with.

If a man wants you, he needs to be providing something in return. To me, orgasms aren’t enough. I can literally give myself a better orgasm than I’ve ever had with a man by using a vibrator. I have deeper emotional connections and conversations with my best friends than I’ve ever had with a man.

Do these men believe they can have that mind blowing orgasm without a woman? No. Can they feel that highly desired level of feminine energy without a woman? No. They need us. And for that, we deserve to be compensated for it.

Don’t forget that. You are worth it. You are beautiful. You deserve whatever it is that you want. You can have it. Go get it. 💕

xoxo, K

Wow, this!

Date these SDs

I’ve never done ppm. I’ve never done “x allowance for y meets per month”. I wouldn’t do them now. If you really want a guys financial attention long term, make them care about you. Let them take care of you. Don’t let them know they’re paying for it. It doesn’t matter if he told you he loved you, that’s lust. Once it gets too expensive or the new shiny bauble comes by, you’re history.

If you want that to last, you need to make yourself indispensable to these men. You need them to think that you’re a one and only. You also need them to forget they’re paying you. Most men will quickly grow tired of their wallets being the only way to get his attention. Yes by then you might have gotten a lot of cash out of him, but think about how much more you could have gotten.

I’m not saying be clingy, i’m not saying be lovey dovey, i’m saying be special. become an integral part of their life, so those bank transfers feel normal, like paying bills, not like paying this girl to be nice to me. Don’t do nice things because they buy you stuff or give you cash. You might think that’s counter-intuitive but consider it. (Most of) These men aren’t stupid. they can tell that you only stay over when you get offered a gift. They can tell that you only responded to them when they said they’d send you a gift card. They can tell you only care about the money. And, unless he’s a financial submissive, he’s gonna drop a girl after a while if all she values in him is his cash.

That’s why I encourage you girls to get off these sugar sites. I’m not saying you can’t make money off them, i’m just saying the payoff to how much work you have to do is low. most SRs these days are just long term escort client relationships. Don’t be afraid to break the mold and actually date these dudes. You get so much more money when you actually mean something to them and aren’t just another piece of ass they have to pay for.

Dating these dudes is why I retired, its why I’m starting multiple businesses, it’s why I can comfortable stop working completely and not have my bank account go low. Spoiled GF gets you the most buck for your bang. 

im serious about that “stop saving things for special occasions” bit tho like. even if u aren’t in your 20s. thats for everyone. its one of the most useful things ive learned lately

stop! just stop. eat the special snack. drink the expensive hippie tea. use the incense or the bath bomb or whatever you paid way too much for because you were feeling really bad and retail therapy makes u feel alive

when we save things for special occasions/rainy days it contributes to us feeling like A.) our day to day existence is lackluster and B.) you have to be feeling a certain level of Bad, or have to reach a certain level of Socially Accepted Achievement, to enjoy things

just give yourself stuff. there are definitely sometimes reasons to withhold things from yourself - as motivation, if it’s something you consciously want to use sparingly, etc - but at least for me half the time it just turns into self-flagellation and also cool things and cool experiences and nice treats just collect dust while i wait for some fabled day when i convince myself i finally Deserve it

just fuckin give yourself stuff dude. life’s so mindblowingly short

my grandmother died having only used her china like twice in her life. during the year or so before her death, she was starting to package up and give things of hers to her kids, and gave mom the china while sighing “oh i wish i had used the china more!” and mom tried so hard to convince her to just keep it, then, and eat corny dogs off it if she wanted. she insisted she couldn’t possibly, you need a special reason to use the fine china. when nana died, we used her fine china as our everyday dishes for years. i was 18 when she died, and never really stopped having that in the back of my head. now, when i hear myself say “i wish i had a reason to wear/do/eat/use X!” i hear nana regretting never really using her china. and let me tell you a thing: spaghettios taste great when eaten from fine china.

I’ve seen this post making the rounds. Just wanted to add something to it that my sister-in-law once told me:

“A ‘special thing’ can make any occasion special.”

She told me this when I objected to her opening a really expensive bottle of champagne just to watch a movie. And you know, she was right. The champagne was amazing and while we always sit around and watch movies, that bottle made that night a really special occasion that I will always remember.

So, cut yourself a little slack and remember that an ordinary day can become special.

My parents were going to wait until they retired to go on a cruise. Retirement for them would have been around 2012-2013. Instead, my Dad said “You never know what will happen” and they went on their first one in 1999. They went on 13 cruises. My Dad died in 2011. He was still working at the time. If they had waited, they would never have had all those amazing vacations together and my Mom wouldn’t have all those memories.

Go. Go now. Enjoy things NOW.

Adding more. When your mood is chronically crumming, you are actually doing a disservice to yourself by not using that special thing you already have. My therapists tells me we tell ourselves we’ll do fun stuff when we feel better. But that’s gonna take a ling time if we never add joyous things to our lives! We need to give ourselves joy if we ever what to feel better. It doesn’t have to be stuff either! Having some art time with a friend. Whatever! Just please be nice to yourself

This is why I get hype for  little special moments like sailing or drinking champagne with my friends. It makes a difference to one’s overall happiness.

This is the lucky clover cat. reblog this in 30 seconds & he will bring u good luck and fortune.

THIS ONE!!! THIS IS THE ONE THAT WORKS!!!!!

I reblogged him the day i started treatment and 1. GOT TO MY APPOINTMENT ON TIME 2. FOUND A FREE PARKING TICKET SOMEONE LEFT IN THE METER FOR ME AND 3. GOT FREE STARBUCKS AFTER MY APPOINTMENT!!!!!

I’m convinced bc I reblogged this on Friday, got hired at a job I had a million interviews for, went on a first date that went well, and got kissed a billion times so like hell ya to the luck cat

How To Dress Like You’re A Millionaire (via petrichorals)

adriana’s guide to finding the perfect sugar daddy

alright my beautiful sugar babies and lovely ladies looking into entering the sugar bowl, i have been getting a huge amount of messages asking me all sorts of questions, so i decided to write this tell-all post on how to master the art of sugaring.

before you read on, just know that i do and always have had sex with my sds. if you are afraid of sleeping with older men, sugaring is not for you. 99.99% of the time, men will want to have a sexual relationship with you. personally, i have never met a man that has wanted a platonic relationship. don’t waste your time, if you cannot fathom the thought of having sex with a sugar daddy, being a sugar baby is out of the question.

i started looking for a sugar daddy on my 18th birthday. i created a profile on seekingarrangement.com and three days later, i found my perfect sd. at the time, i was in the midwest so the average per meet allowance was $300 but my sd and i agreed upon a $500 per meet allowance. if you want to read more about all of my sds, click here.

he was everything i wanted, a millionaire living in a huge mansion in the wealthiest city in my area, super attractive for his age, and also the biggest sweetheart in the world. he and i had the same ideas about what an arrangement should be like. we had day parties that turned into sleepovers, i invited my friends who all were interested in being a sb and were down to play with him and his friends, he provided an amazing house and of course, lots of cash for me and all of my friends. he and i had and still have an amazing friendship. we have each others backs on anything.

seeing that i had to move to los angeles for college, i started looking for a sd in la right away. i wrote up a new bio and changed my location so that los angeles daddies could see me. i did this about 10 days prior to moving so that i could start going on dates right away.

after arriving in la, i was living off of the money that i had saved and found a couple of ok daddies that i could see every so often for extra cash, but not anything amazing right off of the bat. after sticking with one for 3 months, i saw that even the $8k/month allowance he was giving me wasn’t worth it. after seeing his reaction to me crying, i could tell that he really didn’t care about me at all, and that i was literally only a fuck toy to him. we broke it off after that and i started searching on sa again. after going on way too many dates and not making enough money, i became an escort and worked under a madame. the money seemed amazing, $1k/hour with a 2 hour minimum (before the 30% cut that my madame took) but after seeing 4 clients i decided that i couldn’t do it anymore. i began searching again and refused to settle for anything less than perfect.

i ended up meeting my dream whale daddy. handsome, caring, and mega fucking rich, i couldn’t ask for anyone better. we ended up hitting it off the first night we met and agreed upon a $2k/meet arrangement until we trusted each other enough to start something monthly. i am currently with him, and life couldn’t get any better.

so how can you score the perfect sd, and how do you keep him interested? read on to find out.

1) know what you want from sugaring. i wrote down a list of all of the material things that i wanted from an arrangement, and all of the personality traits that i wanted in my sugar daddy. i decided on my desired allowance and what type of time i wanted to be spending with my sd. personally, i was looking for a sugar daddy that doubled as a friend. someone that i genuinely enjoy spending my time with. i am the type of sugar baby that wants to have sleepovers, spend cozy nights in on occasion, and meet my sds friends. i knew that i wanted my sd to drive a luxury sports car, live in a mansion, and have a huge amount of expendable income. there are a lot of “sugar daddys” out there that drive a moderately priced car, live in an average sized house, and make enough money to give a girl $4k a month and not break the bank. are they worth your time? maybe. honestly, sometimes you need to focus on getting that money before you can find someone that will take you on a last minute trip to ibiza. if sugaring is your only income, your best bet might be finding 3 men that want to see you 2-4 times per month for $4k/month each. but if you are sugaring to live in luxury, there is no point in settling just because the cash is good. personally i don’t feel okay with having multiple sugar daddies, i think that when you find your perfect sd you won’t need anything more than what he can provide for you. i have never had multiple steady arrangements going on at the same time, but i understand that its a better option for some girls. whatever your situation is, come up with a list of needs and wants, and be determined to find a sugar daddy that fulfills them.

2) make the “perfect profile” on seekingarrangement.com. i had one and it is a huge reason why i found who i found. by that i mean i had a clear, close up selfie with a smile on my face as my profile picture. the lighting was perfect, i took the picture while i was facing a window with lots of light (around 3pm) so it made my eyes pop, my teeth look white, and my skin look smooth. i had 2 other public pictures, one mirror pic that i took in a crop top and shorts in good lighting, and another selfie of me not smiling. in all of these photos i was wearing a full face of makeup, but instead of wearing eyeshadow i only wore black winged eyeliner and mascara, and instead of lipstick i wore chapstick with a hint of shine. i got a ton of messages complimenting me on  my “natural beauty” (men are fucking clueless when it comes to makeup). for my private pics i had 5 full body pictures that i was wearing tight clothing in, it is crucial to have pictures that show your silhouette, this holds true for any body type! don’t edit (unless you have experience in doing light amounts of retouching) your photos, don’t hide your body in baggy clothes, and please for the love of god do not exclude a body picture from your profile. potential sds want to see exactly what you look like before they meet you so that they know what to expect before making plans to meet. and having a good amount of pictures on your profile makes the dreaded “send me more pics” question obsolete. i did have 2 other pics (one in a bikini and one in a sports bra) for men who i was really interested in, and a couple nude pics that i would send to pots that were willing to pay $20/pic with a 5 pic minimum.

but wait! your profile isn’t all about your pictures, to complete your perfect profile and have your inbox flooding with millionaires in no time, you must write out an amazing bio and explain exactly what you want under the “what i’m looking for” section. when i first wrote my profile it was a bit vague and typical, but after going through my first arrangement, i developed a persona. my persona is adriana, the barely legal 18 yr old girl with a genuine personality and a slammin’ body. adriana is a submissive princess that loves to call her man “daddy” and gets everything she ever wants. i realized that having this persona really made being a sb fun, and men liked it too. so i wrote my bio to match adriana’s personality, stating that “i need a man that needs to love to be called ‘daddy’” and that “i’m not attracted to men under 40″ (ladies, older men loved that i wrote that, they’re the ones with the true money, and there are way too many girls that state that they aren’t interested in anyone over 40). my bio and “what i’m looking for” section was written with good grammar and didn’t have typos, which also helped. i strongly recommend coming up with an alter ego and deciding to be her when you are sugaring. are you a vixen dom that will spice up a married mans private life? are you a sweet little girl next door that just wants to be taken care of? whatever you decide, make it shine through in your profile and remember that you can never be too specific. guys love reading about exactly what you want, and then you will have men sending you specific messages about how they can take care of your needs. i.e. “i’m done with school and i love to travel, so i’m looking for a daddy with a private jet” you may get messages saying “so you said you like men with jets? i have 3.” viola! now you have someone that is attracted to you and has what you want! perfect.

3) understand what men want, and learn how to find out what his specific desires are the first time you meet him. the guys that i would meet up with knew what i was looking for, and in general they knew what my personality was like. when i met with them in person, i really played up the part of my persona that they loved. with some men, they were in love with the fact that i was 18. other men loved that i was outgoing and not afraid to show my true colors at first. whatever they loved, i played it up. and anything they weren’t interested in, i tried to not bring it up without seeming fake. learning how to read a guy right off the bat takes a little bit of time but should be generally the same for most men that you find interest in. learning what they truly want is also a huge part of keeping them satisfied in bed. don’t be afraid to say naughty things, watch porn to get some ideas of what to say (and what not to say) if you are really clueless like i was. for me, i watched a lot of porn under the “teen” category on pornhub and listened to what the girls said and did, then i put my own twist on it whilst in bed with my sd. since my sd loved the fact that i was so young, screaming out “yes daddy, fuck my eighteen year old pussy harder!” made him cum in .025 seconds. don’t be afraid to talk dirty and always remember, it is your job to be their perfect fantasy.

4) dress for success. when meeting pots, i tried to stick to an outfit that wasn’t showing too much skin, but yet showed my silhouette. think tight jeans and a fitting shirt with a high neckline. i have found that men like it more when i wear lighter colors, rather than when i wear all black. whatever your body type may be, try to accentuate your best feature. have big boobs? wear a low cut dress that will show off your bust. have a great ass? leggings and cute tank top will have men drooling all over you. plus size? don’t be afraid to show off your curves in a cute romper with wedges. small bust? try a body suit with high rise jeans. tumblr is filled to the brim with cute outfit inspo with dupes that wont break the bank. i see a lot of posts from sugar accounts saying “great outfit to meet a pot: cute gucci dress with some red bottoms and a chanel clutch!!!” like what??? how tf do you expect every girl to wear a $10,000 outfit. yes, it is good to have a few designer pieces, but its not essential to wear designer 24/7. especially if you are brand new to the sugar bowl. i would assume that most men can’t tell the difference between zara and diane von fuerstenburg, and if they can, ask them to take you shopping. if anyone should be funding your wardrobe, it should be your sd.

5) take care of yourself. it’s your job to look your best at all times. a girl that looks worn out is the last thing a sd is looking for. so please: learn how to apply makeup properly (youtube tutorials are great), shower everyday, wax, shave, style your hair, whiten your teeth (groupon always has deals for pro whitening for $100-200), moisturize, use a perfume (less is more), use ph wipes for your coochie, eat healthy, exercise, paint your nails (nude tones or subtle french tip always are a good choice), wear a bra that really fits and matching underwear to go along, wear jewelry (at least cute stud earrings), have good posture, and always remember to smile.

6) be positive. nobody enjoys being around a sad person, especially not if they’re paying for it. a positive attitude not only attracts men, it makes them want to stay. remember that an arrangement is not as emotionally involved as a real relationship. always smile, always be polite, always look on the bright side. keep it light and fun. feed their ego, tell them that they’re the best you’ve ever had. after all, how can you get sick of a sexy ass woman thats always happy to be there?

7) set goals, and tell them about it. whether you are trying to travel the world, graduate from college debt free, or own your own business, let sds know. men love to hear that you have dreams and goals, it gives them even more of a reason to fund you. even if you don’t agree on an arrangement with a pot, having a reason to why you sugar might inspire them to connect you with people in their circle that can help you achieve your goals.

8) practice your conversation skills. have topics and questions that you can bring up when the conversation gets old. keeping up on the news is a good way to talk about things that most businessmen find interest in. ask your sd questions, especially where you are asking their opinion, it makes them feel important. i try not to get into deep topics with my sd until i know that they have similar views as i do, conflicting views about meaningful subjects can ruin a relationship. when speaking, try not to slur your words and try to use correct grammar. i still swear around my sd, but i try to keep it to a minimum because i know some men find it tacky. at least try to cut it out where its unnecessary i.e., saying “fucking shit i cant find my fucking sock fuck my life” when you could say “i cant seem to find my sock”

9) be adventurous. and by this, i don’t mean try anal. a lot of men find an escape in having a sugar baby, your’e young, wild, and free. if he says he wants to go a few states over for the weekend, say yes. you haven’t tried sashimi yet? go to sushi bar and split 9 plates of it with him. he loves to go skiing? ask him to buy you lessons. he wants to bring another girl into the bedroom? give it a try. whatever it is, sugar daddys are tired of the “ew, no” or “omg i’m too scared!” type of women. generally, sds don’t find a stubborn attitude cute.

10) control the bitch in you. yes, you’re a princess. yes, you deserve the best. but being unnecessarily bitchy or moody isn’t a good way to impress your sd. that “i’m a crazy bitch” mentality doesn’t do so well in the sugar bowl. sds already have issues at work or at home, the last thing they need is for the girl thats supposed to be his get away creating drama. remember that an arrangement is supposed to be fun for the both of you, while you’re getting that shmoney, he wants to feel good after he has spent time with you. its called “mutually beneficial” for a reason.

11) don’t be afraid to ask, and then ask for more. remember that sds will have no problem asking you, or even telling you, to give them head. so you, should have no problem asking them for money or gifts. i have only slept with men that have already given me an allowance, and you should always do the same, so instead of asking for more money i just ask for what i would spend my money on. i’ve asked for typical sugar gifts, like lingerie, shoes, dresses, but i have also asked for concert tickets, pets, plane tickets (to places where i went alone). every time i ask, i get what i want. your sd should have no issue with buying you whatever your heart desires, within reason. but easier said than done, right? asking for money and gifts can be hard at first, i used to feel bad when i asked. but now, after experience, i just bat my eyelashes and say with confidence “please can i please have _____ daddy! pleeeeease!” and they say yes because it was cute and sweet. say it in a way that they cant say no. if you really want something, get him hard as fuck and horny as hell, then pull his dick out of his pants and right as your mouth is about to touch, pull away. then when he’s begging you to give him head, say “only if you buy me _____” and he’s bound to say yes. i only recommend this for girls who are in a solid arrangement, because this could come off the wrong way to a guy you just met. when it comes to talking about an actual cash allowance (which by the way ladies, is the only type of payment you should accept until you trust your sd enough to wire money into your bank/paypal you) you should always ask what they’re comfortable with first. once you have an idea of what he is looking to give you, make sure you’re not settling for an allowance thats lower than what you need. find out what the average per meet allowance in your area is, then don’t go any lower than that multiplied by the number of times you’ll be seeing your sd. i know in la the average per meet allowance in los angeles is $1k, and in the midwest it is $300. whatever it is, don’t be afraid to bring an allowance up. if the man has money, he won’t mind talking about it in a polite way. lets say you want a $6k/month allowance and he offers you a $4k/month allowance. both of you agree that you want to see each other once a week. mention that your rent/mandatory monthly expense is $x, and that you’ll need more cash to cover that. tell him that you’re not just a sugar baby for the money, that you want to truly experience luxury and that a $6k/month allowance could provide you with that. if he’s truly rich, an extra $2k/month is chump change to him. and also, when you’re not afraid to ask for gifts as well, that can save you a lot of money. my sd dropped $2,300 on lingerie for me, on top of an allowance in one day. if you add up all of the gifts that your sd will buy for you, it can go way over the monthly allowance that you want. i.e., you want a $6k/month allowance, but agree on a $4k/month allowance plus shopping, and he ends up spending an extra $5k/month on your shopping trips. so instead of just getting a $6k/month cash allowance, you got an allowance valued at $9k. that way you don’t have to spend your own money on clothes/shoes/whatever the hell, so you have your cash allowance for necessities and savings.

12) learn how to spot the fakes. personally, i have only ever found sds on seeking arrangement. i think that finding an sd through seeking arrangement is the most straight forward way to go about things. also, you can filter out men by using the advanced search option. i would put filters on so that i only saw men that made $1mil+/yr, and their “lifestyle budget” was set at substantial or high. i would either message them something short and sweet or give them access to my private pics. my little intro was “hey daddy, would you be interested in a teenage princess?” it was definitely a little forward but it piqued the interest of many men, including my current sd river. being that i was looking for the total package (not only willing to give me a nice allowance, but also ridiculously fucking rich, and very nice) i would delete every message that i got from a man with an income lower than $1mil/yr. i would, however, go on dates with men that offered me money just to meet in their first message. did i have any intentions of getting into an arrangement with them? hell no. but was the extra cash for literally eating food nice? hell yes. but there are always men that you should stay away from. this includes:

usually you can tell when someone is genuinely wealthy, but theres always a few sneaky guys that slip by. try to see what car he drives or look at the shoes he is wearing. the wealthiest men that i know don’t compromise on either of those things. also, watch for things that indicate wealth, like veneers, a spray tan, a nice watch, botox, freshly ironed clothes, etc. on top of that, rich men are typically confident people. remember that being successful in business is only 50% smarts, the rest is the connections that you have and can keep up with. that requires a confident person, plus having a fuck ton of money is a confidence booster.

13) don’t give up. i went on 60+ dates before i met my perfect sd in la. i carried on messages on sa with over 550 men. there are plenty of rich men out there, you just need to find them. remember that almost every man wants a hot girl to fuck. remember that almost every rich man cheats on his wife (sadly). you know those beautiful mansions that you see on your dash? someone owns them, and 90% of the time its some old rich guy. those big companies that you see everyday? someone owns those too, and the likelihood of it being an old rich man is through the roof. just know that theres always a man out there that is rich and willing to give you the life you deserve. i always see girls selling themselves short, hanging with men that aren’t in the 1% just because of an allowance. but if you really want luxury, don’t settle for anything less than the richest of the rich. and never decide to give up because you haven’t found the perfect arrangement right off of the bat.

14) remember that sex is a part of sugaring. whether you wait 3 months or 3 hours to sleep with your sd, it will eventually come. i have never heard of/been offered/been involved in a platonic arrangement. i don’t believe that it exists, or if it does i would assume the allowance is much, much, lower than a sexual arrangement. and when it does come time to fuck your sd, you better pop that pussy girl. be prepared for slow thrusts and a lot of moaning and twitching when they cum (from them). sex with an older man is definitely different than sex with guys 18-25, so just know that some weird shit will go down. i depersonalize during sex with sds, even with one night stands i barely feel anything, so for me i have always described sex with an sd as shitty sex. who knows, maybe if i was in love with them it would feel amazing, but all i’ve experienced so far is numbness. maybe that contributes to why i don’t mind sleeping with my sugar daddy, i honestly don’t know. for me, sleeping with a sd didn’t eat me up inside and rot my soul. you know what it did? put money in my hands and louboutins on my feet.

15) be affectionate. if you’re with the right sd, you won’t have an issue with this. hold his hand at the dinner table or in public, look in his eyes and smile, kiss him at random, hug him tightly, scratch his back after sex, scoot closer to him when you sit down together, cuddle with him, lean on his shoulder; the little things you do can make a huge difference. men can tell if youre faking it (for the most part) so try to be very lovey-dovey to let them know that you actually care about them. don’t take it too far, telling them that you’re in love with them when they don’t feel the same way or aren’t in the position to do anything about it can ruin the arrangement. but treating your sd like you’re in love with him will make him want to give you the world. after all, who doesn’t want to be loved?

so far, this is what has gotten me to where i am today. i cannot even imagine my life without sugaring. it has been the biggest blessing in my life, its like the world is at my fingertips. if you think you are ready for the sugar bowl after reading this, go for it. i hope you all take my advice or at least had a good time reading this :)

xoxo,

adriana