Loud And Queer

What glasses look best on you / your sibling will depend on their face shape (and personality imo). Personally I have glasses kind of like these:

Thicker rim up top and smaller on the bottom. In my case I think they make me look pretty androgynous because it's a model worn by "both" genders. But for someone else it might make them look/feel feminine, or it might make them look/feel masculine.

There are a lot of different guides on glasses online that go into face shapes. So I would suggest starting off by googling up some of those. But ultimately you will find what glasses looks best on you / your sibling by trying on a bunch of different ones.

If it's the actual shape of your body that triggers your dysphoria, you could try wearing a chest binder and maybe even a hip binder. But I would, more than that, suggest considering getting some muscles. Something that triggers my own dysphoria a lot is my arms/shoulders, specifically how non-muscular they are compared to the average cis guy. And I know I feel a lot better when I am actively builing muscle and working out regularly. Not necessarily at a gym, even just using my dumbbells at home does a big difference for me. I tend to focus on bicep and tricep since they tend to be the most visible muscles, but I also work out my chest and shoulders as well since I feel that it helps with getting a more androgynous/masculine apperance both to my silhouette and to my posture.

What work-out programme and diet works best for you will be very individual, so I don't feel like I can recommend a specific one. But there are plenty of free resources online, from video tutorials on youtube to muscle building forums that can give you more personalized diet advice to help with the muscle building. Search around, see what community you feel like you fit in with. It might also take some trial and error until you find what gives you the best results, so don't give up if you don't see instant change. Keep at it.

Fact #1051: Sometimes your dysphoria, before you know it’s dysphoria, makes you try to compensate for those bad feelings by being a “better” girl/boy. So you shouldn't let the fact that you had a hyper feminine/masculine period before coming out invalidate you.

I used a strong, well-fitted sports bra before I got my first proper binder. Slightly baggy button-up shirts with a busy pattern can also help hide the chest a bit!

I strongly advice against using ace bandages or tape to bind your chest, as this is far too damaging to your ribs and skin. There are some "skin safe" tapes made specifically for trans people, but if you use them regularly they still have a high risk of damaging the skin, so be careful if you do use those.

I think you've done more work on yourself than many other people I know, with you being able to go from a radfem to being able to see and start to accept yourself for who you are! So be proud of that!

I'd also say that you should not worry about taking up resources. If you feel that they would help you, use them. They are there to be used. I put off my own transition for way longer than I should have, just because I had the thoughts that there were so many other trans people that had way worse dysphoria than me and that they deserved the help more than I did. I know now that that is not a healthy way of thinking, so please try to work on breaking that thought pattern as well.

I don't know where you live so I don't know what the first step towards transition for you would be. So I would actually suggest reaching out to a local pride/trans organisation or the like, if you have one, and ask them for some guidance. They should be familiar with how the system works where you live.

If you don't have acces to a pride org, maybe try asking your regular doctor if they can help you through what the system is like where you live, or send you a referral to someone who can. If you trust that your doctor would be supportive, that is.

I unfortunately don't have any resources like this at hand. But I'm publishing this in the hopes that some of my followers may be able to point you towards something helpful.