the way some (most lol) of you joke about trauma is disgusting. it’s one thing to make jokes out of your own trauma to cope but this bullshit about “i can tell you don’t have trauma” “trauma builds character” “dni if you aren’t traumatized” etc etc like i’m sorry but kids not having severe trauma is, god forbid, a good thing. keep your jokes to your dms like i understand being frustrated that someone doesn’t get what it’s like to have childhood trauma but for the love of god stop acting like trauma is part of growing up. no one deserves to be traumatized lol

like i’m sorry but you should not be telling people that they didn’t deserve to have normal parents. you should not be telling people that abusive parents are normal. because they’re not!! this website’s userbase is so used to this shit and make it seem like there’s something wrong with you if you didn’t experience abuse/bullying/etc but that’s the goal that’s the fucking goal!! and by no means am i trying to imply that shitty parents are the only source of trauma; that’s just an example. but it’s not a bad thing to be on good terms with your mom. it’s not a bad thing to not be suicidal. i promise it’s not.

you all act like having a shitty life is integral to being normal, but like…you’re all traumatized as hell and you didn’t deserve that shit. it’s not normal. stop acting like it is and stop belittling people who were lucky enough to have a good childhood.

i scream you scream we all

repress memories of our childhood

“I had a room to myself as a kid, but my mother was always quick to point out that it wasn’t my room, it was her room and I was merely permitted to occupy it. Her point, of course, was that my parents had earned everything and I was merely borrowing the space, and while this is technically true I cannot help but marvel at the singular damage of this dark idea: That my existence as a child was a kind of debt and nothing, no matter how small, was mine. That no space was truly private; anything of mine could be forfeited at someone else’s whim.”  ― Carmen Maria Machado, In the Dream House