Something I find interesting about fandom discourse is that it reveals a lot about ourselves, our personal boundaries. So if I say “I feel X way about Nesta’s drinking” then that’s largely because of my own experiences. If I say I’m pissed at how Rhys acts towards people who have hurt Feyre in some way, that’s also because of my personal, negative experiences with something similar.
Basically that’s how we can disagree and still have good discussions. What I do and don’t accept from a story is largely based on what I do and don’t accept irl and so maybe we should keep that in mind, that we all have reactions for personal reasons, and it’s not always that other people just have annoying opinions.
Yup. It’s often why I say things like - “I feel” or “I see”, because I get that not everyone will think the same things. Telling people their interpretation is wrong is where the drama starts - being open to listening to why something is a certain way is one of the things I love about fandom.
I’m often willing to listen to all sides just don’t attack me as a person or say things like “if you think xyz you are awful”.
I’m also a chronic flip flopper because I don’t see all sides of a thing straight away and hearing other people’s thoughts opens up my mind to new ideas.
I am also chaotic. I love shit posts. I love meta. I love theories even if implausible because why not? I will find all the worst points and then say - but I love them. Hahaha. That’s fandom I guess. Not everyone is like me - I get that too, but making sure we are respectful of eachother is the most important thing.