Random Thought Depository

what is the point of a sex swing? I am unsure of the function besides making it more complicated and difficult

ok for some reason I was thinking that a sex swing was somehow a different thing than just, like, "thing suspended securely from ceiling that you can put weight on." like it was supposed to swing back and forth while in use.

this misconception may have originated from a conversation at a sleepover party in high school

A lot of sex toys and related equipment either originated as, or are important as, disability aids, huh?

Kinda fucked up that so many fundie evangelicals see sex toys of any kind as too unspeakably perverted and deviant to discuss.

Being able to simultaneously 1) be in a relaxed sitting position, 2) have your genital area higher than a regular chair or bed would put it, 3) be able to vary the height of your platform, 4) have a platform that gives your partner(s) relatively unobstructed access to most of your body, seems, uh... potentially useful for sex, especially for women (cause standing with your legs spread doesn't seem like a very comfortable position).

i feel like...to me, abstractly a dude being a dad is kinda hot. but unfortunately being a dad means having children. who are either like. kids, and then thats weird. like. thats distressing. i mean even if itsjust a hookup it feels like. idk there just terrifying obligation vibes. subliminially. OR the children are my age but then thats also weird. cuz its like. hes fucking his kid. maybe the optimal is like. he only has sons? altho like. idk if you were cis maybe that would work but as a trans girl whether he has sons or daughters its still sort of like hes fucking his kid. is that insane? i feel like he would be... thinking to himself that its weird that im their age. yknow. in the same sort of category of them. god i need to go home and fuck some DILFs (childless)

Sounds like maybe what you want is, like, somebody who's friends with a lesbian couple and agreed to be their male gene donor when they wanted to have a kid and has a positive relationship with their (way younger than you) kid but without the full responsibilities of social parenthood? Something along those lines?

If so, I think you might like living on this planet cause in their society "I was a gene donor for a female friend whose household structure precluded getting pregnant by any of the people she cohabits with, I have a positive relationship with her kid but it's more of a frequently visiting uncle who doesn't live with them sort of thing" is a very common male experience.

i feel the urge to analyze my desire to be cummed in. maybe its just that its like...being marked or claimed or whatever. and the trust inherent to no condom (WHICH IS WHY I SHOULDNT LET THIS SNAPCHAT DUDE FUCK ME RAW...EVEN THO I WANT TO :/). but even tho im zero% into pregnancy theres something to the fact that like...it mimics the act of insemination? theres like. theres something there. theres like, a power thing. and theres ofc a gender thing, like, being cummed in is womanhood, or more importantly cumming in someone is manhood? in a way that like, just penetrating isnt? something about "potency".

Under readmore for intimate details of my sexuality:

Originally posted in a response to a post that said the part of the brain that lights up when looking at half-naked women is the same part that lights up when looking at tools:

There’s an analogy I’d like to draw. When men show a physiological arousal response, but say they aren’t aroused, researchers say the arousal response means something else. When women show a physiological arousal response, but say they aren’t aroused, researchers say they’re unaware of their own arousal. The response is real, but the researchers choose what they want the response to mean. By the same token, there isn’t a specific part of the brain labeled “tools go here.” If it responds to tools, and it responds to half-naked women, there are probably a whole bunch of other things it responds to. You could say people view half-naked women as equivalent to any of those things, and you may or may not be right. The choice is dependent on what results you want to be true.

When you put it that way, I wonder if maybe the parts of the brain that are getting activated are related to manipulating objects with the hands? Like, not to be TMI, but for me a big part of eroticism is wanting to touch people in a kind of stimmy way, like e.g. a big part of the erotic appeal of breasts for me is "those look like they'd be fun to play with!" This might be an autism thing, it does feel like an eroticization of stimming, but that sort of playful touching happens a lot in normal sex, so I think it's a pretty significant part of neurotypical sexuality too. It seems pretty plausible that this sort of behavior might involve a lot of the same neural pathways that get used when you're opening a can or using a wrench or something like that. Especially because this sort of behavior is usually done with an intentionality of wanting to make the other person feel good, so it's not just that you're touching stuff but also that you're doing it to achieve specific results and you're modelling the properties of what you're interacting with to figure out how to achieve certain results with your manipulations.

And thinking about it I think you also see interface-with-a-tool-like dynamics in the ways people use other body parts during sex too. Like, giving somebody oral sex has the same sort of dynamic of trying to physically manipulate parts of the other person to achieve a result, and the same would apply to using your mouth to more generally stimulate your partner through kissing them and so on. And even with PIV sex, it seems pretty common for men to conceptually approach it as kind of like using a sex toy on their partner; I don't think it's an accident that one of the euphemisms for penis is tool. I know I do this!

A cliche for saying that somebody is good at sex is saying they play their partner's body like a musical instrument!

I mean, it makes sense if you think about how incredibly important and ubiquitous manipulation of tools and manipulation with the hands is for humans; it makes sense that those neural pathways would get used over and over, for lots of different stuff! Like, remember those sensory homonculi illustrations that show a human as some weird creature with a tiny body and giant head and hands, using that to illustrate how prominent different parts of your body are in your tactile world?

The one thing (aside from it being pure speculation) that makes this hypothesis seem kind of shaky to me is... Did they check if this happens with women too? I feel like it totally would check out if it did, given the "hand pics are the lesbian equivalent of dick pics" thing, but it seems basic charitability to assume if this is being talked about as a male-specific thing there actually is a pretty noticeable gender difference in it (although actually, now that I re-read your post, you didn't actually say this was being mentioned as a distinctly male thing). If there is, one possible explanation I can think of is... this is making me remember a post I saw here a while back that suggested that an implicit message of the cinematic language of porn is that sex is basically for women; the way that person put it was something like "yeah, the Large Penis is there and there is some indications that what's happening feels good for the dude, but it's basically the woman's expressions of pleasure that are getting most of the attention." It does seem plausible to me that male sexuality tends to involve conceptualizing one's own body as something tool-like and approaching sex as a kind of skilled mechanical labor more than female sexuality does; narratives of a man being a good lover put a lot of emphasis on performance, and per "auto[X]philia is actually a very common sexual desire/behavior that lots of cis people do," autoandrophilia often seems to work that way. I think this is the male equivalent of what that "women often have an easier time connecting to their desire to be desired than to straightforward sexual desire" thing is for women.

I.e. my hypothesis in quick summary: the part of the brain that lights up when looking at half-naked women is the same part that lights up when looking at tools, it's not cause you're seeing the woman as tool-like, it's cause the possibility of having sex registers as a "I might be about to do manual manipulations and use tools" situation.