>:)

Getting a new computer soon. Where’s that windows debloat guide people post every so often

https://github.com/Raphire/Win11Debloat

This one?

YES THANK YOU

tumblr is probably not the best place to mention as its so international but if you're a Victorian Australian like me we all have local council elections coming up, so go check your enrolment now to make sure your details are correct so you're voting for the wrong ward/council area if you've moved for example, (or getting a fine for not voting)

You can check your enrolment status on the VEC website. You have until August 7!

nobuddy feels like they have a sharp attention span these days, right? and we all just click “agree on terms of service” because its hard to love yourself sometimes, well

enter Terms of Service, Didn’t Read: a website and a browser addon that streamlines the terms of service of many popular web services to be read by the tech sunday drivers.

It’s graded from A (great) to E (awful) and if you have the addon you have access to the info about the website on your bar

this post came back to me like a dear son from war, hello ol boy

Idk I have such a fascination with people who coddle and baby wild animals (or even domestic ones). Maybe it's not that deep but I think in some ways it does speak to a lack of maturity in empathy, which sounds counterintuitive but I think its not unlike some forms of unhealthy parenting. It's a cognitive disconnect that perhaps the way you'd like to be treated does not always translate to what others want or feel comfortable with. That maybe your reality is not universal, and an inability to place yourself in another's shoes. People hear low empathy and assume it means distant and unloving, but it can also look like lovebombing or over imposing oneself on others with a lack of boundaries. From the outside it can look loving and pampering and an incredible life, but do they ever really stop to try and get to know the other party, what it actually feels and wants? Are you doing what's best for it, or just what you think is best? Or worse, what you think makes you look best in front of others?

They call animal care professionals who ask for more restraint and less contact with said animals uncaring and cold because they honest to god cannot place themselves in a reality where a kindhearted hug could feel terrifying and a free donut could be horrible for one's survival. And I think information based arguments can fall short because they are primarily operating through emotions and what "feels" right to them. And I think some of these people may be drawn to animals and habituating wildlife because they won't ever tell them off in clean english. Idk it intrigues me

And this lack of understanding another's reality is why they fail so so bad at animal body language and think a smile is a universal sign of happiness, and tend to fall really easily for anthropomorphizing slop from the dodo. Sure there's an epidemic of horrible scicomm to blame, but also when you think everyone and everything operates similar to you of course you're predisposed to anthropomorphizing animals.

Hey guys, you know about the Same Energy website right? has someone made a post about that? Cuz otherwise im gonna sing its praises to high heaven for its artistic references

Okay so I'm just gonna talk about it even if someone's already made a post, someone's gotta spread the word of this incredible website

So you go to the main page, and you like the vibes of one of these pictures

Lets click skull face lady.

It then gives you BUNCHES of images with similar vibes. Want to tweak it a little and narrow it down further? What if you like the vibe of thatt purple one more? Well u click that one and TADA

And you can just keep narrowing down from there, and if you make an account you can even save images you like :D

I know it sounds like i'm advertising for them but honestly i would GLADLY take money to advertise for these guys, their website is still only in beta mode but already I use this (or try to) for my art warmups because I get to try to do something a little different each time. (I would give money to support them but I am broke AF so that's why I'm just spreading the word instead ;A; )

And on the front page there's even an option to search with your own images I think! (Though, I tried to do that but I kept getting an Error, so I don't know if that's a Me With Bad Internet issue or a Website issue. Again, website is in beta, so if it is a problem on their end it will hopefully be fixed soon).

and i just love this website cuz its GREAT for collecting asthetics and vibes (i mean, hence the name "same energy")

It's like Pinterest on crack :0

So yeah :D Definitely go check out Same Energy, it is a GREAT resource for artists and those trying to collect specific vibes.

Sharing here bc helpful resource, but also to add on a few notes.

This is a search engine! Long pressing images on mobile will bring up where the engine found the image (not sure how to pull this up on desktop). It is no different from the images section of Google or Duck Duck Go or w/e else you use in this regard.

I specify this bc pintrest is a hellscape of stolen works :,) it's entire foundation is based on ppl finding aesthetic photos and art and uploading them to the site with no credit or permission. This isn't like that. It is a search engine.

Sometimes what it finds may be reuploads, which sucks, but it's not based in trying to do that. So if you like a photo you see, check out the source. If it seems ligit, consider helping the artist by leaving a tip or doing whatever pleases that site's algorithm.

These houses are also made of mud with thatched roofs. Locally sourced, abundant materials paired with designs that have stood the test of time MAKE SENSE.

There is a section of humanity who want this strange kind of uniformity across the world. Houses must be made of brieze blocks and have electric air con and gas heating. Same shops everywhere. Cultural homogeneity.

Reject it. This world is diverse and beautiful and humans have found so many diverse and beautiful solutions to our problems! Let's treasure them.

BTW, just to make sure everyone knows, this isn't just some internet rando commenting on her observations on the internet.

They are an Assistant Professor of Media Industries at New York University and literally just finished writing The Apple II Age: How the Computer Became Personal, a book on the history of the computer industry in the 70s.

This tweet isn't just an observation, it's the result of years of research and study. And it's absolutely true.

I've definitely noticed that when I see older tech nerds talk about open source I'm filled with a sense of camaraderie and wonder, and when I see younger nerds talk about it my bullshit scam alarms go off

I studied physics. A thing that happens sometimes when people study physics, or maybe it is truly just me, is that they might feel a kinship with the folks who invented nuclear weapons. You study their academic works, maybe read some letters, imagine their personalities in your head (most of them are weird nerds, total assholes, or both, they are physicists after all).

And so it's very confusing, looking at the AI folks, or the programming folks, or the business folks, jesus. Because physicists have an entire generation's worth of role models who all made the exact same mistake. Einstein, Bohr, Fermi, Feynman. They fucked up. Worse than I or you ever will and they'd be the first to tell you. And not because they were dumb. Because they were careless with knowledge. Knowing things is a responsibility.

And so I look at AI and ML projects and I just see people building the bomb. Only their bomb is shitty and lame and that makes it far more devious. They brag about their black box and how powerful it has become. Knowledge is a responsibility and they cede control of their knowledge to an impenetrable, inhuman, unfeeling process. They build a bomb and it is utterly droll.

And so I look at the internet and see the only thing worse than the bomb: pupils that have turned into dollar signs in the blinding glare of Little Boys glory. Because we didn't stop. No no. Our greatest minds understood their mistake after Hiroshima. But our second or third or fourth or sixteenth greatest took over.

Those are the two main things people learn when they study physics, or at least that I learned. The first: do not invent the bomb, you will regret it. The second: someone nearly as clever as you, but far more ghoulish, will see the bomb only as opportunity and personal glory. Do not make their work easy.

clocked this entire website

Aspergers/autism is seeing a needle, and then a minute later possibly noticing the haystack.

This is so accurate it almost hurts.

I don’t understand this

it means you pick up on weird extremely esoteric little details about things while completely overlooking what seems most obvious to everybody else 

like. someone asks a silly question and you think and give it a really serious comprehensive answer, while everyone else realizes it was a joke. or you have to do this really repetitive mind-numbing task, and you’re halfway done before someone walks by and tells you you’re doing it “wrong” and theres actually a much simpler/more common way to do it, which didnt even occur to you but seems self-explanatory to allistic ppl. that type of thing 

Autistic brains analyse bottom-up, while other people their brains analyse top-down.

In one of the books about autism that I have, their is a picture that illustrates this perfectly. It’s an illustration of a forest with the trees vaguely drawn but all the little details like a mouse and mushrooms are drawn in great detail. The explanation next to the illustration was the following; When a person with ASD walks into a forest, his/her brain starts to collect information to create a context just all the other kinds of brains do, but the autistic brain starts at the bottom. First it sees the mushrooms, then some leafs, a bird flying by, the bushes, … Meanwhile the not-autistic brain in the same situation will notice the large group of trees first. The non-autistic brain will think “Ah a big group of trees, this is probably a forest”, and then goes on searching for details that confirms this and adds more information. At the same time, the autistic brain still doesn’t know it is in a forest, however, it does know it is somewhere where there are mushrooms and wild animals. The brain will continue to look for details until it finally reaches the point it notices the trees and other obvious signs you are in a forest. 

TL;DR/ An autistic brain uses details to create a big picture of a situation. A non-autistic brain will use the general context to create the big picture.

This difference in processing information has some consequences, like @marxism-sjwism already mentioned.

Other occurring ‘problems’ are f.e.: doing tasks slower, getting tired easily*, becoming overstimulated when there is too much information, headaches, intolerant of bright colors/loud sounds/touch/smells/taste**, having difficulties doing a certain task because the details weren’t explained to you, getting stressed out because a detail changed in a situation***,…

*Because an autistic brain processes a lot more information than any other brain, it also demands a lot of energy from its body. Sadly, the human body can’t provide the energy this kind of brain needs. As a result, most, if not every, person with ASD gets tired quickly and needs hours, or even days, of relaxation to reload its batteries. Especially after big events like going to a party f.e. (I myself need a lot of sleep).

**Because the autistic brain gets its information from details, it has hardly any filters. When a non-autistic person is at a party and talking to someone, his/her brain wil cancel out other inputs so it can focus on the conversation. An autistic-brain doesn’t do this, or if it does, it isn’t doing a good job.  When a person with ASD is at the same party, talking to the same person as the the person without ASD, he/she will have difficulties understanding the conversation and keeping focused, because the brain isn’t canceling out all the other information. The conversation a nearby group of people is having will be equally as loud as the conversation he/she is participating in. This also means that a person with ASD can get easily distracted. F.e.: I was talking with someone, when suddenly I could hear two people talking in the room next door. It was a muffled noise and I could not understand what they were saying, but it was enough to distract me and render me unable to keep focused on my own conversation, resulting in me forgetting what I was saying mid sentence over and over again. Anyway, worst case scenario, if there is to much information for the autistic-brain to handle, it will become overstimulated, and this overstimulation often results in a fight-or-flight reaction. This behavior is often illustrated in mainstream media by an autistic child who suddenly becomes unmanageable, crying, kicking, screaming, … often at public places like a supermarket. Not every person with ASD will throw a tantrum when becoming overstimulated, some shut down, some start crying (like I do), some get angry, … It’s important to understand that this person is not being an asshole because he/she wants too, or that the child is not badly raised. These people their brains have triggered a natural instinct and their is nothing they can do about that except obey it. Best thing to do is to remove them from the situation to another less stimulating environment where they can calm down.

***Last but not least, there is another important consequence of having a brain that gets its information from details: it doesn’t recognize a same situation when a detail is changed. This causes difficulties in many different kinds of situations and it can occur in many different ways. A person with ASD will find it difficult to drive a different (brand of) car than he/she is used too, because, even though it’s a car and all cars operate the same, small details like a different dashboard layout can be confusing and stressful. A more extreme example is when the barman in a pub you frequent always wears a red shirt, but one day he wears a blue one. The change in color is enough for the autistic brain to think this is a completely different and new situation and thus it operate as if this is a new situation. This is why people with ASD can be insecure in situations that should be no big deal. Or why people with ASD seem to forget how to do a certain task, or lose their shit while any other person quickly adapts, all because something is different. Or also why they keep asking for explanation on how to do a certain task even though they have been doing it for months.

All these things are mostly downsides of having an autistic brain but it also has its benefits. People with ASD notice details much easier and faster which can come in handy when doing certain jobs. They also make different connections and come to new ideas that others never would’ve thought of. 

The work they do is often more correctly because they pay attention to details, include details, or want to make sure it is 100% the way it should be because their brain only takes peace with that. Consequently, a lot of people on the spectrum also have a high sense of justice and are good detectives, insurance agents, police(wo)men, lawyers, mystery shoppers, …

A brain like this makes these people also excellent at IT, gaming, art, music, programming, math, bookkeeping, science, sorting, systematization,… 

Sadly, people on the spectrum are often still seen as a problem instead as and added value. Like Temple Grandin often says; The world needs to realize it needs different kinds of brains to work together to reach greater heights. 

…wow. this explains sooooo much. thanks for the addition

Jumping in: Temple Grandin once described the thought processes of someone with an ASD, and it fits in with this and is SUPER COOL.

Imagine you ask two people to draw a dog. One does not have an ASD, and one has an ASD.  The person without ASD thinks about the word “dog” and draws a very generalized dog. The brain complies the symbols that make up “dog”, out of all the dogs they’ve ever seen, and you get floppy ears, waggy tail, four legs, long body, a doggo snoot, etc. 

The person WITH an ASD thinks about the word dog and draws a specific dog. Their brains go through basically a visual file folder that holds an accurate picture of EVERY SINGLE INDIVIDUAL DOG THEY HAVE EVER SEEN. From there, they decide on WHICH dog means “dog” to them at that moment, and draw it. That dog is a specific dog, with a name, who existed. 

IDK man, but that is cool as shit to me

another thing with ASD is the fact, if you fall on the scale, you will notice stuff so much quicker and easier than other people and can often become confused and frustrated when it takes others so long to notice the same details. i have to constantly remind myself that just because i can figure out this minute little plot idea from a single line, or understand a concept from the tiny clue the lecturer gives, doesn’t mean everyone else can. a lot of the time, i think, ASD individuals come across as ‘know it alls’ or ‘show offs’ because we can’t help but point these things out to people in a “oh this is da-da-da :D” and people get offended or angry because they feel stupid compared to us. it’s not the case, it’s literally just our brains work differently than most, but it’s a thing that you need to remind yourself of when dealing with other people. like, sharing information and explaining things is good and brilliant and i am absolute fan of that, but there’s a sadly fine line that we ASD individuals tend to cross that puts us in the category of 'showing off’ to people and we get bullied as a result of that fact.

If you’ve had a period of basically dissociating from a hard time of your life, you’ll know that doing even the littlest thing that has an effect in the real world vs on a screen can be so profound. Something as little as you doing a favor for someone, or someone noticing something about you that you didn’t think anyone would even pick up on bc your brain is all messed up about being perceived. Your living footprint is all muddied and murky. It takes a lot to even feel like you’re inhibiting your body. So consequences that come as a direct result of you just living, whether big or small, blow you away on an inexplicable level

if you've ever lived an isolated life, knowing that you're making a mark in the "real world" can feel so wonderful and strange. you mean i exist, outside of this weird liminal space i inhabit? i get so hungry for that validation. you know my favorite color!!? you think i have a sweet voice?!! you remember that thing i said ages ago!!? because of these seemingly inane things, i get to affirm, again & again, i exist, i exist, i exist. im a real person!! i do things that have consequences!! i won't disappear off the face of the earth if you remember me in these big & small ways.

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people be fucking normal abt ftm bottom surgery challenge.

None of the commenters are gonna see this, but! If anyone’s interested in meta or phalloplasty but is kind of on the fence because they’ve only heard Terrible Wretched Things about the surgeries and results, you should try to find a copy of Hung Jury by Trystan T. Cotten! It’s a collection of testimonials from FtMs who have had bottom surgery, including their reasons, details about some of their procedures, and individual satisfaction ratings, and it includes testimonials from several trans men of color!

This is the book that convinced a buddy of mine to go through with metoidioplasty! I pinky promise, the surgeries are way way way better and safer and more effective than we’ve been made to believe they are. If it’s a procedure you want/need for your health and happiness, it’s a procedure you deserve!

LITERALLY THIS!!!!!! ppl are just parroting what they hear and they’ve been saying the same shit for decades. news flash assholes!!!! if you actually do your research, you’ll find it has gotten better!!!! what you mean is that bottom surgery won’t make you cis, and that is not the fault of bottom surgery.

I'm sure it's progressed in 20 years but when I'm in multiple FTM trans groups and seeing multiple posts from guys who've been basically butchered, including several who have had it just straight up reject and fall off, you bet your ass I'm not spending thousands of dollars to get bottom surgery. It's just not worth it to me.

“my information is decades out of date but i’m still gonna fearmonger anyway.”

I highly recommend that anyone considering a phalloplasty checks out this site

It goes into detail about everything from different types of procedures, to preparations, to recovery, and to risks.

I've found it extremely helpful while I was looking over my options because they don't just vaguely warn you about potential complications; they explain them in depth with the goal of informing you rather than dissuading you.

I think one of the most important takeaways I found here is this section:

The phalloplasty has come a really long way since it was first preformed (almost 100 years ago, I believe!) and complications are a risk with any surgery. Phallo has higher complication rates, sure, but it also boasts a very high satisfaction rate--higher than that of people who have undergone cardiac surgery. And regardless of all of this, shaming people or calling transmasc surgeries "butchering" or "invasive" or "dangerous" is kind of awful actually.

(There's also a similar site for people considering metoidioplasty too!)

https://www.metoidioplasty.net/

@defilerwyrm this seems relevant to your interests

”Don’t fuck up perfectly good parts” is so fucking transphobic you could have taken it right out of any given TERF’s larvae-filled, shit-encrusted mouth.

They’re NOT “perfectly good.” Not for those of us with bottom dysphoria. They’re parts that SHOULDN’T BE THERE. They’re parts that SHOULD BE DIFFERENT. And modern medicine can make that happen.

“Doesn’t even work” I can fuck both your parents with it one after another, shut the fuck up. You can piss with it. You can fuck with it. You can orgasm with it. What else do you want, a song and a dance?

“Doesn’t look like the real thing” if it’s like 2 months post-op maybe?? Babydoll there were SCADS of cis gay men biting their lower lips at my phalloplasty cock at the nude beach. One did an honest-to-god double take complete with jaw drop. And once I get my baculum (by which I mean erectile implant) in December, I’ll be able to put it in any damn position I please. Partner likes ‘em straight out? No problem! Partner likes an upward curve? Can do! Show me a cis man who can fucking do THAT.

BUT WAIT, THEY EXIST. Because phalloplasty and erectile implants and testicular implants are done for cis men, too. Do you think THEY’D rather have no dick instead?

You say don’t want phallo because it doesn’t give you a cis dick. I hear “I’d rather wallow in misery and self-pity because chasers and other transphobes have convinced me that I should not have my body altered from the parts they want to fuck.” I hear “I have been duped into parroting genital essentialist transphobic bullshit by cryptoconservatives.”

I love my dick. This is a $135,000 cock—I saw the bill. It’s QUALITY. And it fucking ERASED my dysphoria. Do I wish it worked like a cis man’s penis? Do I wish I had a foreskin? Of fucking course I do! But you know what I never fuckin’ find myself thinking after bringing myself off is “Gosh I sure wish my hand, pubes, genitals, and sheets were covered in rapidly-concealing jizz.” If it were possible to go back to my original configuration, there is no universe in which I would EVER consider doing that for a PICOSECOND.

The most common complication is a fistula. GUESS WHAT. THEY USUALLY HEAL UP ON THEIR OWN. MINE DID.

With a nebula-sized fuck-you to the transphobic cis gay who coined the term on LJ 20 years ago and discouraged the fuck out of me for ever getting bottom surgery, this “dick roll-up” is so much better than my OEM parts they’re not in the same fucking universe for comparison. They are on different levels of reality apart.

Stop parroting TERF rhetoric to yourselves and your brothers. Not all of us have bottom dysphoria, but for those of us who do, BOTTOM SURGERY IS FUCKING AWESOME AS ALL HELL.

The funny thing about Hung Jury is that the guys in that who got phallo literally talk about hearing the exact same shit people say today about phallo. Like verbatim:

There's also this:

It's been over a decade since this book was published. People with little knowledge about the actual process or experience of phalloplasty have been saying the same exact things about it for decades.

In addition to seconding Hung Jury, might I also recommend the photography of Loren Cameron. A trans man himself, his collection Body Alchemy has beautiful pictures of trans male bodies, including photos of metoidioplasty and phalloplasty. The book is older, from 1996, but it shows that it was good then, so why shouldn't it be good, or better, now.

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This video lives rent free in my head

i understand that this is the "disabled people know our own limitations" website, but ime, if you are the kind of disabled where everyone around you knows about it and has known you as a weak, incompetent, subhuman creature your entire life: it is important to learn how to make the distinction between "i can't" and "i'm not allowed to."

"i can't hold fragile things without breaking them" vs "my housemates won't let me do dishes anymore."

"i can't manage my own finances" vs "my family won't let me make my own financial decisions"

"i can't ever learn how to drive" vs "the state has decided that people with my disability cannot be allowed to drive."

also "what would need to happen for it to be possible for me to be able to do dishes?" or "what would i need if i were to ever move out?" or "what kinds of supports would i need if i did try volunteering?"

even if the answer to these you come away with is "i actually cannot do the thing, no matter what supports or accommodations i'm given" that's fine! they're still useful questions to ask!

fleabag ruined cinema. not necessarily by being bad but by being something popular and unique that was there for lazier writers to try and replicate. (netflix's adaptation of persuasion and she-hulk are recent examples. no doubt there are more quippy pseudo-feminist films to come). the hunger games ruined ya dystopia forever, again not by being bad but by creating a trend that mediocre writers could capitalise on in order to make easy money. (aka divergent. you have to have something of worth to say abt modern society before you try to pardoy it. divergent didn't even make an attempt at being a mirror or an exaggeration of what we already have bc the author did not understand the point of dystopia and apparently also missed what made thg work so well). harry potter ruined fantasy by being bad

when a well made, iconic piece of art starts getting attention in the mainstream, people who didn't understand it will try and copy the original in order to achieve fame and money, bc we live in capitalism, which is hell. art has become less about having something to say, or contribute, or even to try and cause some sort of damage or disruption, and is now more about wanting to be on the red carpet or the nyt bestsellers list, with a big house and a famous name.

literallyyyyy

When I was a child, many of my sensory issues were used as the butt of jokes by my family. I had many phobias due to these issues, but they were laughed off as they were seen as "extreme" or over the top.

Examples would be I was terrified of pinecones as young as 3 because I thought they were visually disturbing and dangerous. So, at the age of 4/5, we were in a park and I handed my mum my jacket so I could use the public loo. She proceeded to fill the pockets, sleeves and hood with pinecones.

I had a meltdown in the middle of a forest. I screamed and collapsed and i was told I was overreacting.

Now, this isn't good behaviour for an adult for any child.

But when you're an undiagnosed autistic, you begin to learn that your sensory pain doesn't matter. It's too much, and needs to be ignored.

Holding the door closed whilst the toilet flushed, another sensory pain was one done to me "for laughs". I was told it wasn't that big of a deal and I needed to grow up.

So, is it any wonder that late diagnosed (and probably many early diagnosed) autistics ignore their own needs? We don't want to be too much. We don't want to rock the boat and endure being told that we're overreacting and to just shut up.

Some autistic people learn that this is how basic human interaction works. When something bothers someone, it's funny to do it just to provoke a reaction and laugh about it. So they do it to other people as an attempt at interacting with them.

But they missed the most important part of the rule. Only neurotypical people who are doing this to an autistic person can play the Kidding Card. Autistic people can't. Autistic people are held fully accountable when they make someone uncomfortable.

They end up constantly in trouble, disliked by everyone, and often even risk being physically attacked.

But they have no idea what they did wrong, because they were taught that it's how normal human interaction works, and because people who supposedly love them did it like it was nothing.

And then you get the outcome of the autistic kid seeing no point in following rules that don't apply to anyone but them, because-- and this is the important part-- whether they behave or not, they get tormented and punished.