im in so much physical pain i might died

disgusting evil bastard muscle

the stingray

It's really, really hard showing up for life when you are chronically ill. Like it's really hitting me that everyday I am in physical pain, so when I do feel it I know I've pushed myself a bit too far. Things that I would love to do get put on the backburner to preserve my health. I'm learning to not feel guilty for relaxing and doing what is best for me. The world keeps spinning and rest is so hard to do in a society that doesn't give you that chance. But to rest is to prepare for a longer journey ahead and I have to remember that through giving myself grace for a better tomorrow.

Low level/continuous pain tips for writing

Want to avoid the action movie effect and make your character’s injuries have realistic lasting impacts? Have a sick character you’re using as hurt/comfort fodder? Everyone has tips for how to write Dramatic Intense Agony, but the smaller human details of lasting or low-level discomfort are rarely written in. Here are a few pain mannerisms I like to use as reference:

General

Limb pain

Nausea/fever/non-pain discomfort

If you have any more details that you personally use to bring characters to life in these situations, I’d love to hear them! I’m always looking for ways to make my guys suffer more write people with more realism :)

These are so great! Especially the one about not knowing you’re in pain until it’s gone. I’d like to add, from my personal experience: - for glassy or unfocused eyes, might be due to mild dissociation - slight hitches in movements - paced breathing–like if you see someone taking deep breaths in through the nose and exhaling with the mouth - or closing the eyes and tilting the head back for a few beats to ride a wave of pain or try to center - looking outwardly very happy, because masking can become automatic and/or we’re so used to having our pain be ignored/don’t want to incur pity/don’t want to have to manage other’s distress - not knowing what help you need or how to ask for it because of chronic self-invalidation stemming from chronic external invalidation. I think this is especially true for invisible disabilities/rarer conditions that get overlooked and pain gets reduced to anxiety/psychosomatic issues. - anything that you might use for mild annoyance or exasperation (like pinching the bridge of your nose, rubbing your forehead, sighing, etc.)

if you have a chronically ill person/someone with chronic pain in your life, sometimes the best thing for you to do is just sit with them and watch a movie. understand that they are in a lot of pain, and there isn't much you can do but be with them, bring them snacks, and let them know that you care

Fellow chronic pain patient. If someone sat with me for a movie and just let me be in pain - meds, heat pack, pillows, comfy clothes - and brought me tea and snacks?

I'd probably cry.

My condition is beyond severe, two medical quality of life meetings in the last year, and this is absolutely so important.

Patients spend so much time masking, doing ourselves damage to just not burden people to keep them in our lives. Someone who understands that we're incurable, doesn't push us into painful treatments or management, and just let's us be? That we're worthy of love and compassion even if we can't be cured? There are no words.

It can be a lot to explain this concept to abled people, even if they mean well. Compassion tends to have an expiration date if the condition is incurable but not terminal. Making other chronically ill friends has saved my sanity. I wouldn't have made it this far without them. I don't need to mask and we can just complain at each other without trying to fix it.

Let chronically ill patients just be, sometimes quiet company is life saving.

Wish it was that easy 🥴

Steve ‘did it hurt - a little’ Rogers

#/SCREAMS ABOUT HOW SKINNY!STEVE’S CHRONIC PAIN PROBABLY FUCKED UP HIS PERCEPTION OF PAIN FOR LIFE  #STEVE ROGERS ‘OKAY YEAH THAT’S UNPLEASANT’ WOULD PARALYSE ANYONE ELSE  #AND THAT’S NOT THE SERUM  #THAT’S SKINNY STEVE THROUGH AND THROUGH   (via beccabuchanans)

Don’t even start me on the fact he’s spent his whole life trying not to make a big deal of when he’s ill. He doesn’t want pity or sympathy. He doesn’t wanted to be treated like he’s weak. He doesn’t want to be looked down on because ‘he can’t take it’.

You only ever hear Steve Rogers scream once, and when he thinks people think he’s being weak, he stops and never screams again. Not unless you count the moment he sees Bucky fall to his death.

#that little punch to the ground#like ‘tough it out rogers’#’the bullies used to hit harder than this - this is nothing’#damn it steve#steve rogers (via mistymountainking)