Shame to ALL men.

i feel like the idea that divorce is monumentally traumatic for kids is patriarchal propaganda because my parents’ divorce was the least traumatizing aspect of my childhood. like them being married and under the same roof was sooo much worse and their divorce was just this massive weight lifted off my shoulders

Reminds me of how often I hear the chant of "Kids need a father in the home" among conservatives and MRAs. A father in the home means nothing if he's toxic, emotionally neglectful, abusive, or a pervert.

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I think it’s so funny that TRAs love to scream that gender critical women are just uneducated and ignorant. I’m a gender studies major at one of the top programs in the country and I’m a rad fem BECAUSE I’ve read the source material, gone to the lectures from the top gender theorists, etc etc and it’s actually what radicalized me. The more I read, and wrote, and listened, and learned, the less I believed.

why do you all hate women and want them to hurt themselves so much

you know a woman can be butch AND happy without “experiencing T” right

Ah I see they have reached the "Finding out" part of the Fucking around trajectory

Men bitch about society "overlooking" male SA victims because feminists "don't care about men who get raped," as if feminism isn't the entire reason rape is considered harassment and the victims are considered victims in the first place.

very tired of the plethora of posts/videos/ads/compaigns telling men that they can be feminine (obviously through buying consumer goods such as makeup or nail polish) while women are only encouraged to be more sickeningly 'feminine' in ways which destroy our bodies and lives. where are the posts encouraging women not to shave? or not wear makeup? or go out and strengthen their body (not just building glutes and slimming down to appear sexy).

01.23.2024, Newborn baby dies 'after doctor jumped on pregnant Roma woman's stomach while hurling racist abuse at her during labour' in Serbia

I don't even have words to add to this, it's baffling how absolutely inhumane and vile Romani women are treated all over Europe, can you really believe that an actual doctor working in a hospital would jump on a pregnant woman's stomach and kill her baby while insulting her for being Romani? in what world would someone do that? who even thinks of doing something like that?

every single week it's like I hear or read about a piece of news where a Romani person is being dehumanized, treated as scum, is being mistreated or tortured or killed. and yet Europeans don't even notice how widespread anti-Romani racism is, they don't care or they are actively racist themselves. and where is the Romani rights movement now? it doesn't even exist. This is just so bleak it's like no matter how bad things will get -- and they are already pretty fucking bad if a pregnant woman gets beaten until her baby dies -- no one will ever care because most people don't see us as equals.

The rest of the article is about Serbian women's childbirth experiences. Don't let this fool you, race is absolutely relevant here. All throughout Europe, Romani pregnant women face stigma and discrimination. In the UK, inequalities are so bad that Romani women are 20x more likely to experience the death of a child and are at higher risk of stillbirths, miscarriages, neonatal deaths and high rates of maternal death (x). It's not any woman who has to give birth on the sidewalk because the hospital standing right in front of her refused to take her in - it's a Romani woman (x). It's not any woman who dies after being denied care for days while in labour - it's a Romani woman (x). It's not any woman whose baby dies after the local hospital refused to provide medical care to her, leaving her to deliver her baby without medical assistance - it's a Romani woman (x).

May I remind everyone that in Serbia, Bosnia Herzegovina and Macedonia, Romani women living in Roma settlements who receive no antenatal care is higher than among the general population, reaching 62% in Bosnia Herzegovina. Roma women are less likely to receive HIV counseling and to be offered HIV testing as part of antenatal care than women on average nationally. Knowledge about places to get tested for HIV is lower among Roma women and men than nationally (x). In all of Europe, Romani people are unable to access healthcare services, be it because of exclusion from health insurance, segregation, inaccessibility of quality health-care services or lack of information about access to health care.

The truth is, European countries don't value the lives of Romani women and of Romani babies. They certainly didn't when they were sterilizing us in Czechoslovakia, in Sweden, in Finland, in Hungary.

A young mother, Marica Mihajlović, posted a horrifying account of obstetric violence she experienced at the hands of a brutal doctor, mistreatment that culminated in the death of her baby. “He put his hand over my mouth, twisted my hands, threatened to knock out my teeth. He also insulted me based on my nationality, and he also told me that he would hit me and that I would have two skulls.”  Worse was to follow.

The 27-year-old mum’s ordeal began on 11 January 2024, when she was admitted to the General Hospital of Sremska Mitrovica because she was a week overdue. Until then, everything had been fine and normal with the pregnancy. It was decided to induce the birth, and when nothing happened after an hour, it became apparent that she could not deliver naturally and that a c-section would be necessary. 

When the gynecologist-obstetrician on shift, named by the news portal Republika as Dr. Marko Maksimović, turned up after some hours later, Marica recounted that “then the nurses tell him that nothing is happening, that I can't open up, but he insisted that everything continue ‘as it should’.” After hours of agony, she described her shocking ordeal:    

“I beg and beg for the doctor's help to deliver me by caesarean section, to save my child, where at that moment he hits me and squeezes my jaw, threatening that he will hit me.” Then, as reported by Republika, the doctor jumped onto her stomach and tried to push the baby out, but it got stuck in the birth canal. 

Marica told the reporter, “At that moment, I lost consciousness and was receiving oxygen, but the baby remained stuck. My rib was broken from that pressure, and the baby inhaled meconium. She could breathe in, but she couldn't breathe out and her heart stopped at 11:05 p.m.” The infant was resuscitated and rushed to a hospital in Novi Sad. The next day, at 6:00 a.m., Marica received a phone call informing her that her baby had passed away. The General Hospital of Sremska Mitrovica told Republika that an inquiry is underway. 

Marica asked people to share her Facebook post and spread the word, for “I am not the first or the last victim of this doctor. The midwives say I have all their support and whatever it takes they will testify, as will the women who were with me in the delivery room. Beware of this man.”  

Obstetric violence against Romani women ‘commonplace’

While in recent years, obstetric violence against women has gained growing attention globally, revealing it to be widespread and systematic in nature, it still remains highly underreported and in urgent need of being addressed from a rights based perspective. According to Hungary’s EMMA Association, young Romani women are particularly vulnerable to obstetric violence, and no European country has so far put in place legislation specifically criminalising it. Romani women often find themselves at the cruel intersection of racism, gender-based and institutional violence. This abuse implies

“the appropriation of women’s bodies and reproductive processes by health personnel, which is embodied in a dehumanising treatment, in abuses of medicalisation and pathologizing of natural processes, thus causing loss of autonomy and of free decision-making on a woman’s own body and sexuality, negatively influencing women’s quality of life.”

In 2017, a Romani women won her case before the Equality Body in Budapest following harassment and racist abuse by hospital staff while she was giving birth. The ERRC provided support to the litigant, in what was a first of its kind. The woman was alone in the hospital and intimidated by staff who threatened to put a pillow over her face to silence her, and to take her child away: 

“The doctor also walked in and said ‘if you had shouted once more, I would have called the psychiatrist who would have taken your child away and then you wouldn’t receive the child benefit, because anyway, you gypsies give birth only for the money!’”  

Research by the ERRC and its partners has revealed such forms of abuse to be commonplace across central and eastern Europe. A fact-finding investigation in Bulgaria revealed that Romani women routinely experience discriminatory treatment, segregated maternity wards, verbal and physical harrassment and obstetric violence in various public hospitals in Bulgaria. 

Similar stories of abuse surfaced in North Macedonia, in one case a Romani women recounted how attempts to induce her contractions left her in such acute pain for hours that she could not refrain from crying out, prompting the nursing staff to insult her:

“Why are you screaming so loud? Shame on you, and you knew how to make five babies, you Gypsies are good only for that!” … Once the second nurse arrived, the childbirth started. I had no strength and was feeling dizzy. Both nurses continued to insult me and scorned me for having screamed. Suddenly, one of them slapped me across the face. I asked: ‘Why do you hit me?’ Instead of responding, the second nurse slapped me again saying: “because you squeal like a stuck pig. At that moment another person entered, most probably he was a medical assistant, and pressed my abdomen hard, so the baby came out.”

In Slovakia, according to Poradňa and the Center for Reproductive Rights, the widespread and historical practice of forced and coercive sterilization of Roma women is just one example of reproductive rights violations that Romani women face in Slovakia. Their monitoring over recent years has revealed that Romani women continue to face multiple forms of discrimination in the context of reproductive health care, including segregation in maternity wards, Roma-only bathrooms, verbal racial abuse, and ill-treatment by medical personnel. 

Globally, obstetric violence has a long history, which reflects and amplifies different forms of social and political discrimination, oppression, and exclusion. As EMMA put it, this abuse is compounded by outdated and harmful birth practices, lack of soft skills and trauma-informed attitudes, the lack of transparency and accountability within maternity care are among the many factors that contribute to the abuse and harm done. Across Europe today, Romani women find themselves caught in this cruel intersection with traumatic consequences, and it’s time to end the silence. After her ordeal the Macedonian victim said: “I am still shaken from what I have gone through – being slapped, humiliated and inhumanely treated by nurses at the Clinic. I wonder whether this happened because, for them, I am a ‘Gypsy’ or are all women delivered like that.”

The ERRC has written to the Smremska Mitrovica General Hospital, the public prosecutor, and the Health Inspectorate within the Ministry of Health, to request that they consider the likely racist motivation for the doctor’s actions in their ongoing investigations. The Regional Medical Chamber of Vojvodina was also contacted in order to request that they initiate a disciplinary procedure to revoke the doctor’s medical license and protect future Romani mothers from violence.

Okay I'm gonna say it. Men in patriarchal societies have no traditional culture besides oppressing women. That's it. That's their only traditional culture. Women preserve real culture but men do whatever they can to suppress and appropriate women's expression of that real culture.

100 different women from 100 different nations have 100 different perspectives. That's culture. But 100 different men from 100 different nations just all oppress women. That's not culture.

I don't know if someone has already posted this but this is exactly why other women tell you not to quit everything to become a stay at home mother. Tradwife shit is absolute fantasy. You are dependent on your husband for everything. He can leave you with nothing if he wants and you will be left to struggle unless you get a prenup and most of them would be offended that you would even suggest a prenup.

The comments are telling. These women didn't "choose wrong", they were lied to and convinced that they could depend on their significant other.

Men hate feminism because they hate women. As a result, both right-wing and left-wing men tend to associate feminism with ideologies that they regard as detestable.

For right-wing men, feminists are Marxists, witches, anti-religious, anti-'family values', pro-lesbianism, 'feminazis' etc.

For left-wing men, feminists are conservative, racist, white supremacists, islamophobes, Nazis, fascists, colonialists, etc.

Either way, it's always about silencing women. It's always misogyny.

so hard being the girl who always aggressively hates everyones boyfriend

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No hate to this woman at all but oh my god do liberals need to actually read feminist analysis of gender and gender performance as a woman rather than just rely on what mainstream transactivists and “queer” people say about it.

Everyone “performs” femininity. That’s why it varies based on where you are in the world.

Honestly, these women need to read some Feminism 101 before quoting de Bouvoir

“Cis women don’t feel like it’s a performance”

A. Yea they do?? Plenty do! Wtf is wrong with you

B. Cis women are INDOCTRINATED into viewing their worth as ornamental dolls and beauty objects. The amount of pressure for women to engage in these beautification practices is enormous.

There is an $8bn industry dedicated to making sure we want to buy more shit to put on our faces. You are literally doing the advertising industry’s work for them by suggesting that to be a woman is to enjoy “feminine” practices.