She knows what it's like to not want what society says you must want. She understands the importance of choosing a different path for yourself no matter what others think you should do. She also understands that people in bad situations can and will do what they have to even if it's illegal and could mean death. Laws mean nothing to the desperate.
Things like divorce and abortion have given women more say in their lives in their bodies and given them more freedom to live their own lives and serve their family best. If the matchmaker had accepted her, she would have been paired and married, but that decision, was left to her, giving her the chance to protect her father and meet the man she would choose to marry. Win win!