Dick Grayson tries to be what people need him to be
A post was going around about Dick being happy and social-able when it comes to the batfamily but more serious when with others but I think he changes based on the people he’s around and the situation.
He is what they need him to be whether it be
a partner
[Under the Red Hood]
a brother
[Young Justice: Secret Origins 80-Page Giant #1]
a friend
[New Teen Titans #14]
a leader
[Teen Titans (2003) #22]
a mentor
[Batman and Robin (2009) #22]
a mediator
[Young Justice]
a shoulder to cry on
[Nightwing #147]
[Nightwing #139]
an open ear
[Robin (1993) #61]
[Year One: Batman/Scarecrow]
a supporter/encouragement
[Teen Titans (2003) #33]
a ‘fool’
[Nightwing #50]
a ‘bad guy’
[Nightwing #113]
or a sacrifice
[Forever Evil]
He changes his demeanor in order to best accommodate the people he’s working with/for and that’s why he gets along so well with so many different vigilantes. He’s very aware of their positions versus his own.
I’ve said this before as well but when Dick has an issue with one other vigilante he tries really hard to be a partner and if he needs to be then a mentor, when it’s a three person or more issue then many times he feels the need to lead. It all depends on who he’s with.
I would even argue that when he has conflict it’s mostly because he’s stretching himself too thin when trying to fulfill all of these roles at once, or when he has to pick one role over another.
[Teen Titans V3 #6]
When he was the leader of the Titans and it conflicted with his partnership with Bruce that was when they really started having problems, when Dick had to become Batman and watch Damian there became a rift between him and Tim, when Jason was killed he was angry at himself for being away with the Titans instead of with the batfamily, etc. All people do this to a certain extent but many superheroes actually don’t or don’t do it as well as Dick does. Dick has many, sometimes conflicting, roles to play in many peoples lives and he tries his best to accommodate for those roles.
I think he’s probably not very conscious about the way he acts too much but it’s just very ingrained in Dick’s personality that he assesses what the people around him need and his relationship to them and then he molds himself and his behavior to best suite the people around him in his own way, whether it be to balance out the dark grim outlook that some of the batfamily members have or to tone down the eccentrics of a young team when necessary.
This just proves how important he is in the fandom and the DCU.